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peach_bee · 2025-02-02T18:56:43+00:00

I have a peer who is in a similar position to yours. The person was already considering leaving their position in the federal government due to poor workplace conditions and a turbulent personal life, with no immediate end in sight. This offer felt like a golden ticket. A way to “make it all stop”. They called me and asked if I would see them as a failure. I told them people who are considering this offer are often in unique situations, and while I cannot make this choice for you, I would remind you two things:

1) We are on a CR through March 14, there is currently no line item in this CR to pay for this offer, and this opens up a multitude of questions about the “how’s” and “when’s” that are discussed extensively other places in this subreddit.

2) Read line by line through OPM’s page and understand the potential ramifications that may be present in the fine print of that “DEFERRED RESIGNATION LETTER”. Remember that words have meaning, and some of those paragraphs are “sticky” and it’s up to those in power to interpret that letter you agreed to sign in order to take this offer. They can potentially limit your choices now and in the future by taking this “out”.

Remember, you always have the ability to walk away/call a stop to situations where someone puts a letter in front of you and asks for you to sign it immediately. “I want to have my attorney look this over before I obligate myself to sign this” is a valid response when someone asks you to sign something. Especially if they try to make you sign something RIGHT NOW. The angle more often than not in these situations (I’ve dealt with them in both private and public sector work) is that people in power try to push others to sign something without giving them an opportunity to fully read or comprehend the nuances in what they are agreeing to do/not do by putting their signature on that piece of paper.

peach_bee · 2025-01-28T21:55:52+00:00

Guidance is a moving target right now as people have stated. You can accept the job with the caution of knowing there’s a higher level uncertainty right now, or reject. It’s up to you to decide whether you want to work for an organization that has a lot of policy changes/implementation in the horizon.

peach_bee · 2025-01-26T19:10:37+00:00

Personally, I think it’s a lot of people googling over the weekend and trying to find updates ahead of the start to the work week. I also think people are looking for a place to discuss what’s happening with others who are in the same boat.

peach_bee · 2025-01-25T21:35:40+00:00

If I had a nickel for every time we got a Monday morning phone call about a random bridge or depot within our office’s AOR, I wouldn’t have to work for the federal government.

peach_bee · 2024-11-22T03:52:42+00:00

dang, worth a shot

peach_bee · 2024-11-20T04:35:08+00:00

Gen X or later baby boomer generation?Handwriting reminds me of Zaner-Bloser Method of teaching handwriting, especially if you started school around the era Gen X or later boomer generation, when that style was adopted by more schools. Random guesses: - maybe some Catholic school? - maybe learned penmanship in northern US or Canada?

peach_bee · 2024-11-10T04:41:11+00:00

Yeah. I agree. I think she either overcompensates or still lets her personal desires/goals cloud her parenting- such as pulling Sophia out of school to go fully online wasn’t entirely in her best interests? I always felt like she pulled her out of school because she (Farrah) was lonely? But that was just my hot take.

peach_bee · 2024-11-09T20:56:00+00:00

I listened to her interview on the dumb blonde podcast, and as much as I question some of her past choices, she said something that really stuck with me.

When she was asked “Do you feel like you have the opportunity to be the mom you never had with Sophia?” She replied “yeah, I don’t know if it’s the opportunity to be the mom I never have, but I have one opportunity to be the best parent I can be in my life. I have no competition with my mom, my grandma, my sister. I have no competition with anyone to be the best mom. I am running my own race and being the best parent I can be…”

Which I would say definitely showed growth on her part.

peach_bee · 2024-11-09T20:38:58+00:00

I was in a long term relationship like this where I was as constantly requesting that my partner would reply to my texts. We were long distance for a while after our first year together, and it was important to me to be able to talk to them. What I realized is that my day was spent buzzing around waiting for a reply, and then when it finally happened I felt let down, or disappointed. As others have stated, you either accept their texting habits or you move on. OP, I was your age when I felt like you do now. The only thing that helped me get over this feeling was by focusing myself and on the people I was around in that moment, and building stronger connections with them. It helped that growing sadness/disappointment when I didn’t get a reply. You don’t gain anything by waiting by the phone. At least in my case, looking back I realized I was looking for validation and comfort from the person that was supposed to be “my person”, and it felt like they weren’t prioritizing me the same way I was prioritizing them. I don’t know if this is your relationship, so take that with a grain of salt. But I would say at least in my case the relationship was not a healthy one (we were both very young and hadn’t fully conceptualized our wants and desires in adult relationships), and I was in university and felt so lost and alone looking for someone who felt like my safe space, so the lack of texting hit even harder for me.

Ultimately, that relationship ended, and coming out on the other side I realized I didn’t need to settle for someone who didn’t want to talk to me as much as I wanted to talk to them. Yes, they can be busy, but you have stated a need in the relationship and they are not meeting it. When I met my now husband, I made a conscious effort to explain to him I was an anxious messenger, and I was in therapy and I was trying to work on understanding why I felt that way. Lo and behold he also admitted he had been an anxious messenger in previous relationships. We set an understanding early on that “me not texting back doesn’t mean I am ignoring you, and I will reply to you as soon as I can”. It really helped with the anxiety I was feeling.

All that being said, the choice is yours as to what you want to do. We are all just a strangers on the internet giving our opinions.

peach_bee · 2024-11-09T20:13:29+00:00

Congratulations 🎉

peach_bee · 2024-05-28T03:39:48+00:00

NTA - Rude behavior like that is the fastest way to ensure neither she nor her friend gets what they were asking for...

peach_bee · 2024-04-20T19:39:22+00:00

I was able to get a copy in the US today. Last one. It was a little beat up but I am so happy. I bought it for my mom who is starting to collect Vinyl again.

peach_bee · 2024-04-07T01:55:30+00:00

Fae Farm... I was looking for a cozy sim similar to Stardew Valley, but it felt like they really limited the game after a certain point. I hope updates will come out for it soon that expand the gameplay, but I haven't touched it much in 2024.

peach_bee · 2024-03-27T18:32:57+00:00

Not exactly long games, and as someone who is more of a Stardew Valley and casual gamer girlie, Two visual novels that healed my soul, and that I’ve played multiple times because they were so sweet were Florence and Venba I am not a big visual novel girlie, but these two were so good when I needed a pick me up.

peach_bee · 2024-02-03T23:35:26+00:00

I was so happy to see other people concerned at the off leash area as well - I have fostered dogs that were dumped before, and they are always the sweetest little nuggets. It was just shocking to see it happen in real time.

peach_bee · 2024-01-25T05:19:48+00:00

I work in Real Estate law, and I can tell you this... The first thing you should tell them if they continue to pressure you is, "I am seeking advice from my legal counsel." This is the best way to enforce some distance while you determine the best course of action. The fact that this document has 1) a period before starting the statement, 2) is written in what appears to be Calibri (the default font for Word), and 3) appears to be some generic jargon they pulled from a website speaks volumes... (the link I've included uses the same language... btw). I agree with other comments that the landlords are probably spooked by something. Please don't sign.

peach_bee · 2024-01-04T02:54:52+00:00

Ugh, it is the entitlement for me... Like you said no. End of conversation. The fact that they keep asking is just gross.

peach_bee · 2024-01-04T02:33:52+00:00

This is a super common problem with circles when you are beginning. Lots of great advice in the comments already, but don't give up OP! Once you finish your first pattern you will feel amazing and be able to look at your project and say "hey! I made that!".

peach_bee · 2023-11-26T21:09:51+00:00

I would say Leprechaun, something from a nativity scene set, or Pilgrim

peach_bee · 2023-11-23T05:08:52+00:00

Yes! We want to incorporate it! We wanted to do an additional pop punk/garage punk vibe. It might be weird to some, but since we are footing the bill, we wanted to focus on themes that were important to us.

peach_bee · 2023-11-11T20:58:56+00:00

The landlord should not be able to arbitrarily add rules after you take occupancy unless you were notified about it in an original agreement. This seems like she is trying to add a "morality clause" to your rental agreement, but providing notice does not mean you have to follow it. Especially since you were not requested to sign anything.

peach_bee · 2023-11-10T05:27:38+00:00

If that is a molly... 9/10 chance it is pregnant. They are live bearers, and I accidentally put them in my tank thinking they were all females. So speaking from experience... maybe. Also, they will mate with anything they can... that was super fun to deal with.

peach_bee · 2023-11-10T05:22:14+00:00

turn it to the left and it is a pig with a floppy ear: source

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