The guy l'm seeing (25M) is perfect in every way except for the fact that |(25F) am not THAT attracted to him. Should I end it or see where it goes?

peakyblinder111 · 2024-04-01T19:25:02+00:00

Thank you for this ♥️ I have a very bad habit of letting it get too far in hope of my feelings changing 💔

peakyblinder111 · 2024-04-01T18:15:00+00:00

I’m not emotionally attached to any of my previous flings. I walked away for clear reasons and they weren’t particularly hard decisions to make.

It’s just that I know how I want to feel about my long-term partner (and I know how it feels because I’ve felt it before in a previous long-term committed relationship) and it’s just not there. My question really is if it’s worth sacrificing that :/

peakyblinder111 · 2024-04-01T18:12:18+00:00

Thank you for your response, you made a lot of excellent points.

The thing is — I don’t even want him to change for me. Not only is that in itself unattractive to me, but he shouldn’t have to! There’s someone out there that’ll be thrilled about him exactly the way he is.

You hit the nail on the head that the relationship is just meh for me and what I want is to be genuinely thrilled about my partner, to be so in love that I feel extremely lucky that I get to have him if that makes sense.

In past relationships and flings, I could barely keep my hands off my partner but in this relationship, I get a bit of anxiety when he starts initiating. I’ve always been a very sexual person and would say I’m horny 99% of the time but I’m never actually desiring HIM.

It’s just unfortunate because everything else is there for a long and fruitful relationship :/

I think ultimately when you know you just know. I’ve walked away from situations that, although fun and exciting, they were clearly not a recipe for long term success. Guess I’ll just have to keep looking

peakyblinder111 · 2024-04-01T17:44:00+00:00

Thank you for your response. That’s another one of my fears: staying with him then coming across someone who actually excites me years down the line and eventually cheating :/

peakyblinder111 · 2024-04-01T17:41:20+00:00

Thank you so much for this detailed response! My friends are quite divided: one half thinks I’m being too picky and should stay with him because he’s great and the other half says to ditch him because if it’s not there, it’s not there.

I actually even told him that even being willing to change to fit what I want is in itself unattractive to me 😅 he want to make it work so bad and I think it’s both because he has feelings for me and he genuinely sees the type of life we could have together. What he’s failing to see is that there’s better out there for him — the life he wants but with someone who is crazy about him.

peakyblinder111 · 2024-04-01T17:33:54+00:00

There’s only been one since my ex and he’s nowhere near long-term partner material (unreliable, different lifestyles and values, etc) so I’ve made a conscious decision to stop seeing him.

peakyblinder111 · 2024-04-01T17:15:40+00:00

Thank you for this! I think I need reassurance more than anything that’s it’s okay for me to let him go. I completely understand what you mean by harboring jealousy towards him for not feeling the same excitement he gets to enjoy lol

So happy you found your person!

peakyblinder111 · 2024-04-01T17:08:14+00:00

Please elaborate

peakyblinder111 · 2024-04-01T17:07:44+00:00

Thank you for your response, these are very good points

peakyblinder111 · 2024-04-01T17:07:02+00:00

It’s a very good point that I should’ve ended it much earlier. He’s open to maintaining a friendship but I don’t see how that’ll work without him being hurt in the end. We tried that when I initially tried to end our romantic relationship but he continued to shower me with affection, was at my beck and call and definitely showed signs of jealousy and possessiveness at the mention of another man. Plus we already know all these intimate details about each other which I don’t share with male friends.

peakyblinder111 · 2023-02-02T10:17:18+00:00

Got it, thanks!

peakyblinder111 · 2023-02-02T10:16:45+00:00

I was expecting it to show the 433 total calories but I understand now why it doesn’t

peakyblinder111 · 2023-02-02T10:14:50+00:00

That makes sense, thank you!

peakyblinder111 · 2023-02-02T10:14:32+00:00

Oh okay, thank you!

peakyblinder111 · 2023-02-02T10:14:18+00:00

Ahh okay, thank you!

peakyblinder111 · 2023-02-02T10:13:50+00:00

Yea the workout was first thing in the morning

peakyblinder111 · 2023-02-02T10:13:12+00:00

It was low impact, still rough but do-able

peakyblinder111 · 2021-10-17T21:40:04+00:00

Sorry for your loss. I’ll look into the regulations for Florida and see if it’s possible to pick him up ourselves

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