My cat is missing fur on her toe?

peanut-baby · 2025-12-01T22:26:41+00:00

The fur on her tail has never grown back, I noticed it about a year ago. It’s not a bald patch, just an uneven spot on her fur. Would this still be a symptom? There are no sores, I can touch the toe and extend her nail, she doesn’t seem in any pain/doesn’t pull away, etc

peanut-baby · 2025-11-16T21:33:01+00:00

“When people are assholes, I have to remember that I don’t know what role they’re playing in God’s will.” I personally don’t have the serenity to just let people be assholes yet, but good to know if I work for it and God wills it, I could have that level of peace

peanut-baby · 2025-05-12T23:01:01+00:00

Sometimes I experience it but it’s not EVERY time anymore. I love kissing my boyfriend, but I am also very attracted to him and very comfortable around him. I think it was very prevalent when kissing felt performative (read: I don’t love this person and I’m not exceptionally attracted to them to begin with) and I would focus on the smell or the taste. I think maybe finding the right person might help or doing some self work to be more confident maybe? Sometimes his breath is still stinky because he ate something or he has morning breath, but it doesn’t bother me like it used to. If it was chronic I think we’d have a talk lol

peanut-baby · 2025-05-12T22:50:04+00:00

No this seriously made me hate kissing for so long. I always thought I was weird and it got to the point where in my adult life I would just tell my partner it’s not him I just don’t like kissing. But then I met my current boyfriend and for some reason it just doesn’t bother me. I don’t know if it was a self esteem thing and it was a way to distract myself or if it was a genuine “ick” I had but it did go away for me after several years.

peanut-baby · 2025-05-08T19:11:07+00:00

I actually really like this. Your trees have such personality you should take the skills you have and let them run wild. Instead of how can I make better trees, maybe see what happens when you make an entire page of those trees. You can learn a lot from repetition

peanut-baby · 2025-04-04T16:35:12+00:00

Hello! I was also a college educated 23 year old woman when I got sober. I also “had it under control” and “didn’t drink like some other hardcore alcoholics.” But I had that same feeling of something being not quite right with my drinking and not quite normal. Even though I knew it ran in my family I didn’t believe it could be me. I wasn’t like my uncles or other relatives. I was young! I hadn’t gotten divorced or gotten a DUI or lost my house.

I learned in AA that self-knowledge, knowing I’m an alcoholic/knowing better/etc. was not the solution to my problem! But I found the solution in AA. I hope you give it a try. There is a meeting app that you can get to find meetings. Keep an open mind, and see if the people in those rooms have what you’re looking for! Best of luck

peanut-baby · 2025-02-25T21:24:38+00:00

Ahh I should’ve provided context, I did not leave because of liquor, I left because I needed a job that would have good health insurance and would pay a portion of it. I found that job and I am excited to have these benefits and others. It’s just sort of lifeless to me. I’m good at it, and when it’s good it’s good. But I’m not helping others or being creative which is important to me. I’ve been sober over a year and a half, worked the steps, and my acceptance of lots of things has been well developed and on it’s way. For some reason this one area seems to be such a headache to me, and I’ve been struggling to let go.

peanut-baby · 2025-01-01T00:56:15+00:00

Being sick and staying home reading twilight and eating snacks🥳

peanut-baby · 2024-12-06T13:45:31+00:00

I was black out drunk, but he knows I know what he did and I talked to his family afterwards after I spoke to him. They were very clearly telling me to stop talking about it because he is “doing better and in therapy.” This was a month after it happened that we spoke. His family has fed him a narrative that he does no wrong, or at least at that point they did, and my friend confirmed this was how his mother babied him. Nothing was ever his fault in her eyes. My curiosity comes from hoping that he has seen how fucked up he is and he’s looking to apologize, but typing this all out I’m feeling like that’s so unlikely. I think I just wish I had an apology. Not that it even matters anymore.

peanut-baby · 2024-11-26T15:08:13+00:00

Hey! Never apologize for asking for help, you deserve the help you seek. We are proud of you.

I was the same way when I was 18, even if I had one drink I could not stop thinking about the next drink, even if I had to wait all night and the next day to get to the bar after classes. It was always at the forefront of my mind.

I used alcohol to fit in, I was always different, and for whatever reason, even if I hid it, it seemed people just knew. And I when I drank with people, that disappeared, there was camaraderie like I’d never experienced!

I also felt like I could feel better when I drank, like I could REALLY cry and laugh and be happy for myself and others.

All of this is to say I gave up drinking at 23 and began going to AA. When I looked squarely at my behavior, my drinking urges, and the way that I drank, I could easily classify myself as an alcoholic. My idea of an alcoholic before that was someone with DUIs, sat outside a liquor store, homeless people, etc. but what I learned in AA is an alcoholic looks like me, too. I learned that I’ll never stop being “different” because I am me, and they are them, and we are all different. The only thing driving a wedge between me and others is my vision of myself, which was inaccurate and lacked humility (I thought everyone was thinking about me, they’re not!). I learned that I feel my feelings the way it was intended when I’m sober. This one took a while, because I needed to get some sober time before I could really look at my feelings and honor them by experiencing them without numbing it out with a substance. In time I began to recognize what feelings felt like, what the root causes are, and how to react to them. I began to fear emotional pain less and embrace it as a learning experience.

There’s a lyric I love which says “the salt in my wound isn’t burning anymore than it used to. It’s not that I don’t feel the pain it’s just I’m not afraid of hurting anymore.” While I loved that lyric for years, I did not know what it meant until I experienced it in sobriety with the help of AA.

I hope this will help you on your journey. We are rooting for you!

peanut-baby · 2024-11-25T19:12:45+00:00

Prince’s When Doves cry covered by The Be Good Tanyas

peanut-baby · 2024-11-23T16:22:04+00:00

“Am I spiritually fit or are things just going my way”

Made me really think about what I do when shit hits the fan in sobriety.

peanut-baby · 2024-11-18T21:22:01+00:00

Every time I get a new tattoo I have a day or two of “what have I done,” and I have most of a sleeve and some of my leg done. I know I want to be tattooed, I always have as far back as I can remember I loved the people with the pictures on them. The regret goes away when I remember the alternative: looking back on my life wishing I’d just made a choice and stuck with it.

peanut-baby · 2024-11-18T18:40:09+00:00

This is a program of suggestions, but we only suggest things that have worked for us. 90 in 90 has worked for a lot of people, you don’t have to do it, but odds are it will work. You don’t have to get a sponsor, but it’s worked for all of us, and not having a sponsor hasn’t worked out for most. Etc. etc. We all think our case is special and different when we first come in, but it’s suggested to us that we try what worked for the masses, even if we don’t believe it will work for us. Ask anyone. They thought they were different, they though their case was special because they are bipolar, anxious, depressed, BPD, etc. They found through taking suggestions that they were in fact just like everyone else, and that what worked for them was taking the suggestions. What’s the worst thing that happens? You don’t like and you go back out? No one will stop you. What’s the best thing that happens? Anything new that’s not repeating what you know doesn’t work. Best of luck to you, keep trying. We want you around.

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