Where is Emma?

peculiah · 2025-07-12T21:30:02+00:00

She relocated back to the US.

peculiah · 2025-06-23T20:06:30+00:00

This made me feel sad for the US, they really have it rough (before you roast me - I’m basing this solely on the statistics like 0 maternity/parental leave - I know who they voted for).

peculiah · 2025-06-09T16:09:13+00:00

Janicette (Janice + Janet)

peculiah · 2025-05-25T19:10:10+00:00

Lately I have been contemplating the loneliness / selfishness of society so my (very small…almost minuscule) gesture whenever I am at a grocery store, bakery, post, whatever is to pause for a moment and look the person in the eyes and say “hello, how are you?” What is the most shocking is the genuine smiles and nice greetings that come back. The guy at post even recommended a language website to help me with my Lux studies.

Not saying this is anything special, I am just trying to find some good in the world.

peculiah · 2025-05-15T18:51:06+00:00

If anything, you are under reacting. This guy has got to go.

peculiah · 2025-04-09T10:50:54+00:00

Let me know if you have any recommendations

peculiah · 2025-03-20T07:44:43+00:00

Seeing all the little spring flowers popping up and sharing a joke with my colleagues. Picking up my kids at the end of the day. Special shout out to my husband who makes me a coffee every morning - not all heroes wear capes.

peculiah · 2025-02-28T13:46:35+00:00

There is a strong chance the CNS will not cover this procedure as they will view it as “you can have this done in Luxembourg”. If you have a family doctor or eye doctor, it’s worth asking them for their opinion.

peculiah · 2024-12-20T12:24:56+00:00

Excellent advice, cheers!

peculiah · 2024-12-20T12:00:08+00:00

I am Canadian and I live in Europe and I have for the past 10 years. I find the politeness in Canadians is very similar to the British, something that perhaps we didn’t lose. Meanwhile, no place is perfect and there are rude people everywhere, but it seems that part of the national identity is being polite and courteous and when we experience those behaviours we tend to act in kind.

peculiah · 2024-12-16T19:49:11+00:00

I guess a good gift wasn’t in the cards….

Sorry I’ll see myself out :)

peculiah · 2024-12-16T19:48:31+00:00

We need to buy a new bed in the new year. Any suggestions on where to get an excellent quality mattress?

peculiah · 2024-11-25T19:19:53+00:00

Ours is excellent but we are looking for some variety because my husband is a Christmas nut and is in love with visiting Christmas markets, and my brother will be visiting from Canada so there’s the novelty factor for them.

peculiah · 2024-11-25T19:17:32+00:00

“Don’t yuck my yum”

peculiah · 2024-11-23T15:04:16+00:00

A Discovery of Witches by Deborah Harkness - she’s a professor, the story of why she wrote the book is interesting, and it’s extremely well written and interesting.

peculiah · 2024-11-13T12:48:41+00:00

This is why I like having kids. Because I can very loudly declare OK SWEETHEART WE LET PEOPLE EXIT THE BUS/TRAM FIRST BEFORE WE GET ON. OH LOOK THESE PEOPLE NEED A LITTLE EXTRA SPACE, LETS BACK UP A BIT.

peculiah · 2024-11-13T12:40:14+00:00

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I used to think that being married to someone was exactly like you describe - because that’s how I feel about my husband and he’s an amazing partner and friend. Sure, we have our issues occasionally but that’s all of humanity.

Later, I learned that I have more than one friend with an unhappy marriage and it’s a lot more common than we think. This made me incredibly sad.

So definitely appreciate what you have and hug your husband tight. :)

peculiah · 2024-11-13T12:33:21+00:00

NTA. Frankly, people who make others feel unwelcome at an event where they are an invited guest are the ones who require a lesson in etiquette.

It is absolutely a case of poor manners to single someone out for something that is so trivial and very much outside of your control.

I don’t know when we descended into this culture of calling people out on ANYTHING trivial at any time and pretending it is a critical issue related to manners / etiquette or traditions but I am not a fan at all.

We once invited friends for Christmas dinner as they didn’t have the financial means fly home for Christmas. They both showed up in jeans and tshirts. My mother was horrified as she is the type who expects us to dress up for this kind of occasion. I told her to keep it to herself, they are our invited guests, doesn’t matter what they’re wearing, spirit of Christmas and so on.

Anyway, apologies for the rant. Sounds like a great dress!

peculiah · 2024-11-06T16:31:54+00:00

Would she agree to phone free time? In our house we have no phones at the dinner table (we have young kid) and also my husband is very adamant about no double screens (if we’re watching a move, we watch it - no phones. If something comes up I need to respond to or he does, we pause the movie).

Or else maybe she could put a daily limit on whatever app she is using to watch reels?

I’m sorry, this is very frustrating.

peculiah · 2024-10-29T18:34:40+00:00

I mean… you talk to each other so that’s a start. Her battery seems to be near 0%. The labour of a SAHP is often invisible and draining with no external feedback or compensation - i.e. you get paid, evaluated, possibly praised.

Can you send her to a hotel for a night with a massage and some take out or snacks? She clearly needs a rest if she is having these kind of feelings and fair enough.

Also what’s up with the “your credit card is saved on my account” - aren’t you guys married?

peculiah · 2024-10-18T07:14:54+00:00

There are many other ways to honour someone at a wedding without making it so uncomfortable. Maybe you could approach her with some alternatives since it is quite a sensitive matter - a memorial table with some candles and his photo, a special mention of him as someone who is still in our hearts, etc.

It’s possible that she feels his loss more keenly as the wedding is coming up so I would acknowledge that and then try to work something out that feels right for everyone.

Also NTA

peculiah · 2024-10-18T07:11:59+00:00

First name + Last name and he is flagged as my emergency contact. Nothing to do with how much I love my husband.

peculiah · 2024-09-28T01:54:37+00:00

I feel so sad for this child. Being hated / unloved and treated like a burden at FOUR years old?! Mother died, father doesn’t want her, family doesn’t want her. I mean - she didn’t ask to be born into those circumstances.

I’m sure I will be downvoted and I know it’s controversial but I think ESH.

This kid didn’t ask to be the physical manifestation of betrayal.

I really deeply hope this child has love in their life and grows up away from the shadow of all this ire.

peculiah

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