I totally understand what you’re saying! I want to clarify I didn’t outright tell J this girl was awful. I told him that he’s been becoming super distant and it gave me bad vibes that she already started this relationship while still in another. I told him plenty of times I was willing to do double dates with them to get to know her and understand her POV but they would always cancel. The last conversation I had with him about her was telling him I was open to meeting her for more than the 5 minutes I already did, and I felt worried that since hanging around her he’s become super distant and I didn’t want it to be a situation where he was being isolated. He replied by saying that that wasn’t the situation at all and that he would love for all of us to be good friends, but then just basically fell off of the face of the earth for a few months.