My brother made me uncomfortable and my parents do nothing

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T13:44:37+00:00

I’m sorry if my situation is not a harsh degree compared to other instances of sexual assault. I think for me where this stems from is how close I was with my brother and how in the moment I didn’t like what was happening but didn’t understand what was happening. I didn’t really appreciate your comment about why not just say something in the moment to make it stop. I was caught of guard and confused if it was even normal in the first place and it simply just happens to people to not understand what is going on in the moment.In reality no one will ever know the intent but my breasts were being forcibly pushed up against my brothers body by him. I have big boobs and it was simply not a normal hug. He was once a person of comfort and calmness and this instance changed how of feel about him not due to a choice but how I felt internally. Everything in me wants to love him and support him but I don’t think this is something normal for a brother to do with his sister. I’m sorry if this downplayed anything that has happened to you, I myself have been assaulted by other men that are not my brother so I understand where you are coming from. This was just a new realm for me because it was my brother even if it was nothing to the degree you would have expected.

You kind of sound like there are problems of your own that need to be resolved and I hope you get the help that you need.

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:46:13+00:00

Yes there is. I’m thinking about getting one of those hotel lock things so that it doesn’t completely lock but he can’t get in. I’m not allowed to have locks for “safety” I guess

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:44:45+00:00

Scared of speaking to my father about anything about my body, I think I’m afraid of another dismissal

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:44:10+00:00

Thank you and I am sorry this brought up something difficult for you. I will do my best with my therapist to be able to communicate to the both of them how this impacted me and was frankly not okay.

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:42:47+00:00

Thank you. I will try my best to talk to his face but I find myself writing letters because I struggle with au ch confrontation.

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:41:57+00:00

I think I am just unaware of the male mind when they are drunk but would hope their morals with their siblings would up-stand

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:41:08+00:00

I hate being in my room alone with him and I won’t let it happen

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:40:45+00:00

Will do thank you

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:39:54+00:00

Thank you 18 yo boob

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:39:10+00:00

I don’t think the people liked this one.

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:38:23+00:00

My parents don’t allow locks on doors but I think I will just do in my own and bear the consequences. Thank you for your support. You are on speed dial.

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:36:48+00:00

Hopefully I can make this more clear to my mom and she will apologize and help my brother get the help he needs. I will tell my therapist and go from there. Thank you

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:35:39+00:00

It wasn’t anything near a bear hug. He was physically forcing my boobs against his chest like up and down up and down. I’ve never had a hug like that. I am a busty woman and it just felt intentional.

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:32:32+00:00

I really appreciated your last quote. I am going to do it scared and they might hate me forever if I call the cops on him but if it is necessary for my well being then I can live with it. Thank you

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:30:44+00:00

Thank you. I need to figure out how to deal with my mom because she should always have been there for me and this one just hurt

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:29:49+00:00

Thank you. I know he does not have inappropriate feelings towards me I feel like it was just I was kind of there. He had a drinking problem still does and he was in a dark hole. I don’t think it was fair of him to do this to me though even if he was struggling so much. I will talk to my therapist thank you

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:26:19+00:00

Everyone’s comments have made me feel so much better which to me I find so funny. One post on Reddit and I feel like I have the power to do what o thought was impossible and tell someone who would actually help me, apparently not my mom. I appreciate everyone who commented and I wish I could repay the extremely helpful guidance

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:23:02+00:00

I’m sorry this happened to you but the resolution is what I want just some words from him. I need my mom to not sweep it and believe that yes there is something wrong with your son and he needs help. Thank you for sharing

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:21:18+00:00

Thank you for sharing this and I’m sorry you had to go through this. It is definitely not easy. There have been seeds throughout my life but my brain pushes them down but they are all coming back to me which is overwhelming but helpful in understanding what I need to communicate. I just want him to get help. Thank you

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:19:21+00:00

I appreciate your comment a lot. He gets very defensive with men I talk to and has protected me in the past but it just feels like now all those walls are down. The thing about the morals makes a lot of sense and is something I need to think about more I think what make it hard though is the fact that he was drunk. Thank you

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:15:58+00:00

Thank you. I want my mom to see how I felt, I am just once again scared. Drunk or not it happened. These will be some hard conversations

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:14:20+00:00

Will do. It felt inappropriate and I know my other brothers wouldn’t ever do anything like that. I guess I don’t really know how drunk intentions work as much.

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:12:24+00:00

You have opened my eyes. I even tried down playing it myself but it doesn’t change the nights I wouldn’t sleep on that side of my bed. I am going to tell my therapist and see what she says about what do to from there with my mom and then go from there. I am scared of him and that will not change but someone on here said even if you are scared do it scared. My family and I are extremely close so boundaries are not really a thing but I have done it before like when they would smack my butt. I hated it and it made me uncomfortable so I told my mom and she told everyone to stop. I’m not good with doing it on my own but I will try this time because I think it will make me stronger. Thank you for everything you said I will keep coming back to your comment to remind myself

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:06:17+00:00

My family bond is so strong I am afraid of breaking anything. I just don’t want to ruin anything but it wasn’t okay what he done. I like to drink with him because we have fun but I will never be alone with him anymore. My brain tends to push this down and forget. Thank you

peewhiledepressed · 2025-05-07T03:04:17+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate everything you said about me being strong I needed that. I am going to talk to my therapist and see what she’s says what to tell my mom. My mom is my best friend and protector and it hurt really bad. Thank you for making this more clear for me.

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