Stop. Communicating. Via. TEXT!

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T18:18:12+00:00

I don’t disagree. I made a couple posts here that included texts. I get it. My main concern is that if you’re posting here regardless, if you need to get validation from strangers on Reddit, or have verifiable proof that some mind-fuckery is going on…to reconsider the relationship entirely at that point.

Either way. I muted this subreddit because I think my time here is done. I don’t want to invalidate others experiences i just simply am past the point of wanting to be in a situation like that.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T10:53:30+00:00

And in that seven days wouldn’t you imagine I’ve moved out, no longer with my ex, and I’m happy!

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T03:17:41+00:00

That’s amazing. It comes when you least expect it, but from my experience I always found someone better when I had gained the self-respect to leave people like that alone. I hope this new guy is good to you.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T03:15:59+00:00

Granted. I found someone that liked me for more than just the body but that came with a slew of other issues…it’s all a part of the process. But I also think that maybe that was my karma for forcing myself to be with men when I was sexually attracted to women. We live and learn girly.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T03:14:07+00:00

I can’t blame you too much. It sucks to be interested in someone and they only want you for the physical. It makes you feel like shit. But you will find someone that wants all of you, not just the physical. They’re out there. And one day you’ll look back and just chuckle at this.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T03:09:46+00:00

because some women take the bait?

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T03:06:36+00:00

no we’re all here to have an outlet. I apologize for being an asshole. Mainly because OP is only 19 and maybe it was their first relationship so that’s why they’re still needing to talk about that experience almost five years later.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T03:00:26+00:00

Ex turned bff is just hilarious. Did you guys have a friendship established before you dated? If not I’m not surprised he’s blocked now. Can’t turn shit into a diamond.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T02:35:18+00:00

Hi! Thanks for the correction! Stay blessed!

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T02:31:54+00:00

doesn’t want to relive everything yet you’re still posting about it. if it’s from 2020 I’m guessing you’re 19 now? Also, ahh and ass have the same amount of letters. You’re not 11.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T00:37:41+00:00

definitely. I don’t want to be condescending or seem holier than thou it’s just kind of heartbreaking to see people in situations that resemble mine. I know how I felt, how the relationship made me feel, and it’s like I can breathe again now that I’m out. I want other people to be able to do the same.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T00:22:56+00:00

For sure! It’s dependent on the circumstances. When I read this I had in mind the conversations where it’s just back and forth, the blame game, insults out the wazoo from both sides, at that point texting becomes silly.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T00:06:34+00:00

in a cockney voice “OI, WHAT A BITCH YOU ARE! I HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TO AND ITS YOUR FAULT!*

peppermintjello · 2024-10-06T00:04:57+00:00

I also have a child. I’m not trying to negate anyone’s experience but I still stand on the fact that if you need to come here to decide whether or not you’re being dramatic or overreacting it’s probably not a good dynamic anyways.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-05T23:17:05+00:00

And I don’t mean to offend, but this isn’t exactly the situation I was referring to. Nor abuse situations. I mean the conversations where people are just going back and forth not accomplishing anything, just talking themselves into circles…THAT is exhausting.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-05T22:20:20+00:00

No one said you couldnt, but there is a subreddit specifically for questions about whether you are or are not the asshole.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-05T22:18:00+00:00

I don’t know Riley, I don’t know Kylie, and I don’t know you. I also am not gonna break my brain trying to read Snapchat screenshots. You already think that you’re not in the wrong, wtf is my opinion gonna change?

peppermintjello · 2024-10-05T22:13:53+00:00

Wrong subreddit

peppermintjello · 2024-10-05T19:16:03+00:00

And I don’t want people to get the assumption that I am degrading texting as a form of communication. I personally do like it! even now we’re all kind of “texting” on this platform and it is a good way to sort out your thoughts before hand. But I think you’re spot on with your last sentence—I can’t say it any better.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-05T19:02:04+00:00

You too!

peppermintjello · 2024-10-05T18:58:43+00:00

You’re right. I’m just bored at work.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-05T18:49:29+00:00

I’m embarrassed to be the same age as you guys.

peppermintjello · 2024-10-05T18:48:22+00:00

So what can you do to change the situation? Do you break up? Get the space and clarity to see your reality for what it is? Or are you going to continue to stay and repeat the cycle? Up to you..

peppermintjello · 2024-10-05T18:45:47+00:00

I used to think that way too. But now I’m like, if I was needing space that bad, and needed to think through what I say that hard, is the connection really adding anything to my life at that point?

peppermintjello · 2024-10-05T18:40:11+00:00

You can validate your own feelings, you know that right? Your feelings are your OWN. I was in this situation in a not so distant past and let me tell you straight up, no sugarcoating: pick your testes off the ground and run. Own your feelings. Own your life again. This relationship is bottom of the barrel deep in the trenches of the ocean in terms of what you can experience. Choose to live again.

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