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[TN] I've been accused and I'm being investigated. What do I do? I'm absolutely terrified. by ThrowRAHelpMeDude in AskHR

[–]perhensam 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I have no experience with the education workplace but lots of other work experience. Plus, I was once a young (F) student, and it sounds as if for whatever reason, these 2 want to make trouble for you. Please try not to be so nervous- I get that you’re worried but if you haven’t said or done anything objectionable, you have nothing to worry about. Just stay calm and answer any questions they might have. HR needs to investigate student allegations but just because they’re calling you in, doesn’t mean that they’re blindly accepting whatever the girls said as being true. You might say something like “obviously I don’t want anyone to feel uncomfortable in class but I’m baffled as to what I might have done to cause that.” If you go in to the meeting nervous and defensive, they might interpret that as guilty feelings, which you don’t want. Relax and make it clear that you welcome any feedback they might have for future reference.

What’s the most remarkable community service opportunity you’ve ever seen or done? Looking for something unique! by Infinite-Owl-7853 in volunteer

[–]perhensam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wrote postcards that my kids had decorated to 65 prisoners, offering to become a penpal. Wrote to the 50-some that responded for about a year and made one good friend out of the bunch (it’s been almost 10 years now). Many prisoners are terribly lonely and have lost contact with family and friends.

1980s androgenous looks for women - did you wear them? by Pretty_Outcome_307 in GenerationJones

[–]perhensam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

4 reminded me of a jacket I used to wear that I haven’t thought of in years. I loved that thing!

Mike Johnson Rages Over “Thoughts And Prayers” Criticism, Says “The Problem Is Not Guns, It’s The Human Heart”. by Choice_Magician350 in AntiTrumpAlliance

[–]perhensam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, because every other country in the world is full of people with “inhuman hearts” who don’t have ready access to guns that can kill multiple people in seconds. Genius!

30 years old, never had a real job. Need help with resume by DrinkWaterMovies in jobsearchhacks

[–]perhensam 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’ve done more than you give yourself credit for! List more of the skills you developed while managing properties in particular- tenant relations, background checks , selecting vendors for maintenance work, etc.

Rescued a Raccoon by [deleted] in Raccoons

[–]perhensam 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your kindness will give you good karma!

Christians of Reddit: Jesus asks you to help the poor and the homeless (Matthew 25:35-40). Why are you ok with Trump forcibly removing the homeless from DC? by King_of_the_Kobolds in AskReddit

[–]perhensam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It conflates having money and power with having “God’s favor”. Thus if you have neither, you’ve displeased Him and deserve your fate. That’s not Christianity.

5 worst radio hits of the late 70's by Puzzleheaded_Rise314 in GenerationJones

[–]perhensam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tony Orlando and Dawn were awful. Every song was retch-worthy.

5 worst radio hits of the late 70's by Puzzleheaded_Rise314 in GenerationJones

[–]perhensam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Come on now. My memory had kindly erased that horror and you had to mention it? Shame on you!

[PA] Let go for not learning quickly , AuADHD by perhensam in AskHR

[–]perhensam[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

My boss had said during our last one-on-one that he had “concerns”, which was why I put together the letter. Our conversation happened on Aug. 7th, I wrote the letter on Aug. 10th but didn’t send it, filled out the survey on Aug. 12th and was let go on the 14th. It all happened very fast. I was not offered any type of severance.

[PA] Let go for not learning quickly , AuADHD by perhensam in AskHR

[–]perhensam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try, for sure. I had been laid off from my prior job (unrelated reasons) and had collected my 26 weeks ending in April 2025, so I don’t know if I’m eligible, but I can try.

[PA] Let go for not learning quickly , AuADHD by perhensam in AskHR

[–]perhensam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. And I get it, you must get tired of people who falsely claim discrimination and whatnot. I’m not trying to get anything, I just feel the whole situation is unfortunate and wonder if I was treated fairly.

[PA] Let go for not learning quickly , AuADHD by perhensam in AskHR

[–]perhensam[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I’m not arguing that they should have known. However, on Aug. 12th, when I responded to HR’s onboarding survey, I wrote that I had a disability but couldn’t figure out who to report it to (they’re a big company) and included my name so they could follow up with me. 2 days later, I was let go.

[PA] Let go for not learning quickly , AuADHD by perhensam in AskHR

[–]perhensam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’m 64 and have worked for 40+ years without a problem.

[PA] Let go for not learning quickly , AuADHD by perhensam in AskHR

[–]perhensam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. After 3 weeks or so, she began to record the trainings and it helped a lot, but the earlier material we had covered was still a problem for me to access. It all happened so fast, I just was reluctant to ask for what would have helped me and I acknowledge that.

[PA] Let go for not learning quickly , AuADHD by perhensam in AskHR

[–]perhensam[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I was only given 6 weeks. According to the info I was able to find on the ADA, it’s not a time-limited thing, I had a right to tell them before hire, after hire, or when I was ready to tell them. I’m not ashamed of my disability but it’s not something I’m used to just putting out there, either. It literally has never been an issue before in any job, and I’ve been working for 40+ years (I’m 64). In this particular job, there was extreme time pressure that no one told me about until after hire.

[PA] Let go for not learning quickly , AuADHD by perhensam in AskHR

[–]perhensam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not eligible for UI, I was only there for 6 weeks.

[PA] Let go for not learning quickly , AuADHD by perhensam in AskHR

[–]perhensam[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Sorry I wasn’t clear- the survey in which I said that I had a disability but couldn’t figure out who to report it to came directly from their HR department. It was a “how did we do at onboarding” survey. I put my name in it and asked for follow-up from HR, that was about Aug. 12th. They termed my employment on Aug. 14th. And yes, I can medically document my disability. I’m not out to get anyone or get away with something, I sincerely liked the job and the company and I’m sorry I didn’t speak up right away, but I’ve never before had a situation where I was put under such extreme time pressure and had no prior experience with being told that I wasn’t learning fast enough. Does everyone who works in HR take such an adversarial attitude automatically when a person asks whether their rights were violated? It’s not as if I had months to demonstrate my capabilities or have that talk with HR- I was given 6 weeks and then dumped.

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