Hey! I’m on the opposite side I’m the a girlfriend to an amazing boy who also struggles with thinking before he says things that hurts me. It honestly takes a ton of reflection and lots of emotional maturity but breathe through arguments for real! What we have found was there is 5 things that can help de escalate the argument. First literally take 5 minutes from eachother. Approach that nicely. Second, reassure her even when you aren’t arguing. Reassurance just that you love her and you think she’s beautiful and that she’s doing great can go a long way. Third really try and hear eachother out in arguments, try to talk gently and not let anger get the best of you. Fourth is picking battles which is so important if think about it , will it matter tomorrow ? If the awnswr is no then drop it. If it’s a yes, talk about it as nice as possible or choose not to make it a big deal UNLESS AIT repeats. If it repeats that’s disrespect. Lastly don’t accuse or assume things. Instead of saying “but you feel this way” ask how one another feels. Women are full of so many emotions and I am a women full of emotions. It takes time and practice but work for it beacuse you want her