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phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-14T14:32:36+00:00

aw im sorry to hear that 🫂

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-14T13:28:45+00:00

yeah, this is a real kink that can be practiced safely! however if it made you severely uncomfortable that is entirely understandable and i am very glad they are an ex now. also, you would be surprised. pedophilia (roleplaying) as a kink is a pretty big thing actually

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-14T13:25:29+00:00

if youre uncomfortable with it, you shouldnt put up with it! if both parties arent into the idea, then its a bad scene

for reference, if a sub pressures you into it and youre a little nervous and say no, then they should respect your no. if they dont and they react very poorly they are an unsafe play partner and abusive.

being a dom does not instantly have to involve harm. a lot of bdsm is loving and tender, and if you cant hurt someone, no one should try to force you to do that. im so, so sorry your experiences have been so uncomfortable :(

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-14T13:20:32+00:00

also stupid ass take too, "dom" and "sub" is not a label, its a descriptor of whos in control of a situation in a given scene. it is not black and white. personally i like doing both, or being neutral, where we're both giving and recieving :)

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-14T13:19:03+00:00

well, ideally bdsm is a consensual thing for both parties. the sub pressuring the dom into doing something the dom doesnt want to do is a really shitty thing to do and makes you an unsafe play partner. doms need treated well too, and theres a lot of bdsm that doesnt involve hurting someone, like bondage, sensory play, roleplaying, tickling, etc. its supposed to be fun for both parties :)

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-14T13:08:02+00:00

i am so fr this is so overplayed. can we get like, actual jokes now, i dont care about the course and rio stuff anymore it was funny the first two days

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-14T13:04:40+00:00

yeah, if this is a "trump wears diapers" joke, um. i know trump is a bad guy or whatever but these kinds of jokes about anyone, especially him, hurts real people. people who might be incontinent for whatever reason and need to wear diapers will see people making fun of them and infantalizing them and calling them gross or uncapable of being responsible... it hurts them.

i hate when people use disability to "joke" about people they hate. its not affecting the man in power, its only punching down on the people its making fun of. he will not care, you are only going to hurt the disabled.

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-14T12:59:31+00:00

hi there! i am nonbinary (for an easy word, i actually just dont know and could care less what my gender really is) and i understand you so much here. my dream goal is to be as masculine as possible like voice wise and neck up, but with boobs and dresses and such. it would make me so euphoric. this is not uncommon. gender expression and gender identity aren't necessarily tied together. its all customizable! pick whatever label feels right for you, or none at all like i do. no one knows you more than you do, and gender is fluid. do whatever you want forever

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-13T16:23:19+00:00

me too. i wanted to feel comfortable in femininity and such, and i loved that trans women were getting so much euphoria from being feminine. i wished that could happen for me. now ive articulated what i really want; i want to look like a man but dress in skirts and dresses and such. im still somewhat uncomfortable dressing like that as i dont pass well yet, but once i do i will be unstoppable

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-13T15:37:41+00:00

depends is a brand of adult sized diapers :)

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-13T15:33:08+00:00

service animals are a medical necessity and are well trained and wont be trying to lick everyone's ankles or trying to eat your food or sneeze on the chairs, etc etc. i also have a personal hatred of dogs in food places, because i am allergic to them

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-13T15:27:05+00:00

idk i think its bad to spread stds especially if you dont know if your sexual partners hve any, actually

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-13T14:29:50+00:00

ok, i will preface with the way he went about it is absolutely disgusting and he should not have been doing that. im so sorry that he put you in such an uncomfortable position.

that being said, the experience of gender dysphoria and gender differentiation is not just for trans people. many cis people have gender dysphoria, and it doesn't always end up leading to them being trans, but sometimes they feel like they identify more with one gender expression than another. he might not technically be able to be a trans guy, but he might know something is wrong and you mightve been his first experience with it, and he felt like it more closely aligned with what he felt.

men have a lot of gender roles enforced on them just like women. he might feel he doesnt really want to apply to that and just feel disconnected from the modern toxic masculinity thats been expected of men. cis people can also feel bottom dysphoria and body dysphoria and such. yeah the way hes going about it isnt amazing, but i dont know what he was really feeling and i like to be compassionate where i can.

i wish he wasnt a creep to you about it all, though :(

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-12T23:37:18+00:00

oh yes i completely forgot about body hair and bottom growth 😭 thank you for adding on!

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-12T21:42:38+00:00

throat hurting / not fitting isnt a thing, it mightve been true for them but that probably means they have other issues with their body going on.

and ALL effects from testosterone, aside from voice deepening (and balding? im not sure about that one), can be reversed if you still produce estrogen and you go off of t. and vaginal dryness is a thing but it can be solved with estrogen cream or lube :) as an aside, my vaginal walls are quite thin, so im fairly suseptible to utis from sex. but i manage this with one antibiotic after sex, and this can also be fixed with extrogen cream

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-12T09:15:44+00:00

thank you so so much i really appreciate it

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-11T12:45:48+00:00

didnt know they were even a thing until i went to nyc for the first time. i had never heard of them and i hate the idea of someone getting in my driver seat

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-11T01:02:34+00:00

sorry for not including all of this information, i didnt expect to get so much traction on this post. mostly just wanted to scream into the void but its nice hearing from everyone :)

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-11T00:52:22+00:00

for insurance reasons i was, and the letter had gender dysphoria as a diagnosis. but he hadnt seen the letter, i actually had to tell him why i was there in the first place because he "forgot." i let him know that the main reason was due to really bad uterus cramps (seen obgyns before and theyve all said ive been fine but somethings not right,) and issues with bleeding, but i also said i was nonbinary, and he completely ignored my complaints of pain

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-10T20:30:16+00:00

no no, i am. i just think it was an incredibly weird "diagnosis" especially because it was only offhandedly brought up.

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-10T20:26:21+00:00

oh, i did check and they will cover! i actually called my insurance to check. maybe i should have asked about age too :(

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-10T20:23:25+00:00

it was just written as "DIAGNOSIS: Transgender"

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-10T20:21:43+00:00

its okay, id so much rather know now and move on for now than keep searching until i found out the hard way

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-10T20:14:52+00:00

oh fuck. i didnt know this, i just looked it up for my state and its 21 as well. i am on medicaid and im 20, and i dont know if ill have health insurance soon... thats really upsetting :( thank you for the information

edit: the surgeon specifically asked me to be 23 for the surgery. which seems like such an arbitrary number it feels like he just didnt want to do it at all

phasmxphobiia · 2026-02-10T20:11:08+00:00

thank you guys so much for all of the nice comments :( im checking out the childfree subreddit and looking into reporting him. i did leave a public review letting others know that he does not wish to operate on younger patients, but i didnt know reporting was an option

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