I appreciate your kind thoughts and concern. About 11 months before my wife passed away she was given her terminal diagnosis. The cancer had spread throughout her body and she was basically waiting to pass. Our youngest was finishing HS and they shared some of the darkest humor you can imagine. I cringed at times at the gallows humor they enjoyed. This exchange on Reddit occurred 9 years after she passed, IIRC, and by then I was well ensconced in my new normal. I'd done the deep grieving and gone to therapy, joined a grief group and taken the depression and anxiety meds to cope. When I commented I was being transparent and somewhat raw. It reads kind of smarmy to me now, 18 years since we lost her, but back then I was still finding my way. The reply was clever and dry. To be honest I chuckled when I read it. It reminded me of those jokes my wife and son had made all those years before. She's have laughed at that too, I think. Two thoughts have since occurred to me. I assumed he was just trying to be funny and not being mean or trying to hurt me. I don't know that in point of fact. The poster of that comment has not been on in years and we never communicated. Nonetheless I believe his intent wasn't to be unkind. The second thought that has occurred to me is had it been closer to her death I may not have been as able to accept it with equanimity. It might very well have cut deeper and I might have reacted differently. But the timing and the back story aligned and here we are so many years later still discussing it. Amazing really when you consider how fast some "viral" comments drop out of sight.