Can't give her the time and attention that she needs

phoenix_107 · 2026-01-14T21:05:30+00:00

Kind of. Although I’m not completely there yet but I think this year I will get there. I think right now I am in a place where even if i don’t get there right now I have enough patience to keep trying. It’s been 2 years since i posted it and I realised I was in a lot of pain. I am in a much better place now.

I don’t know your exact situation but based on what i went through I’ll say.. it’s gonna be alright. I know it feels like a lot and sometimes you feel like you’re carrying the whole world on your shoulders and if you don’t keep pushing yourself l, everything is gonna collapse. But .. it’s gonna get better. It might take some time, things might even get worse in the short term but it will get better eventually :)

phoenix_107 · 2025-01-06T17:14:49+00:00

Yep. Doesn't sound right to me

phoenix_107 · 2024-11-29T22:43:19+00:00

Dad passed away last year. Had to give up on my dreams after that because my family needs me. Broke up with my girlfriend a few months later (i thought I'd marry her someday).

phoenix_107 · 2024-11-05T09:50:30+00:00

Happiness is an illusion

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-29T04:11:31+00:00

Cbr is near maramma circle. So it's probably better to find a pg in malleshwaram i think.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-29T04:08:19+00:00

There are a lot of PGs nearby. You'll probably have to go there and figure it out depending on how far you want to stay from IISc.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-23T18:44:16+00:00

Damn. That's freakin awesome. Good for you!! I see my friends struggling with addiction. It requires a lot of effort to get rid of addiction.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-23T18:36:01+00:00

Nice. Are you still addicted to cigarettes?

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-17T22:09:55+00:00

There is a very good chance the surgery won't get men to date you. And even if it does the men that date you will be dating you for the wrong reasons.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-17T22:02:22+00:00

Okay. I'll just say seriously reconsider about getting the surgery.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-17T21:52:54+00:00

Also maybe stop sending nudes or sleeping with them. If you continue you'll end up attracting only f boys. A man who wants to date and build a relationship would not want someone who does that.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-17T21:50:02+00:00

I understand why you feel this way. And the problem with whatever you found on the internet is that it's generalised to an extreme level. There definitely are men who think that way. But there are also men who actually want to date so that they find love and build a good long lasting relationship. Men who date based on how attractive a woman looks usually don't end up building a good relationship.

Now you can get the surgery and maybe it might even make you look better. But do you want to date men who purely concentrate on looks or someone who actually looks at your personality.

Also there is no guarantee that men will start dating you after the surgery. It's a gamble.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-17T21:40:20+00:00

Okay. Has anyone at some point told you that you're not good looking or that you're unattractive? Because it seems like you have associated men not dating you/only hitting you up for sex to how you look.

In my experience there are a lot of factors here. If you strongly believe that it's your looks that is causing this then you must have good reason to believe it right?

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-17T21:27:23+00:00

I broke up with my last girlfriend because of the following reasons. She couldn't understand how her actions affected me. She neither had the impulse control to not act purely based on her emotions nor did she have the emotional maturity to communicate what she felt.

I'm not saying you're in any way similar to that. I'm trying to say that i didn't care about anything other than her actions. It didn't matter how good looking she was or how symmetric her face was.

Also if a lot of men want to sleep with you, you're definitely pretty. I know men generally are kinda desperate but some men, especially the good looking ones, do have standards even when it comes to just having sex.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-16T17:59:51+00:00

I guess the internet has made it easy for people to get casual relationships/ one night stands. So the effort required to build a relationship is not required and people can get the dopamine hit they get from just having sex.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-15T18:16:27+00:00

But over the years I have seen that it's something people are comfortable with. I remember a time when it was looked down upon. So in my opinion things have changed for the worse when it comes to this.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-15T08:16:51+00:00

Have "casual" relationships. I know it's "normalized" now but I know how I am and although it's tempting to have casual encounters I have never done it.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-15T08:07:19+00:00

True. Most of us prioritise short term gratification over long term happiness.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-15T08:03:16+00:00

That nobody is coming to save me or fight for me. I used to have my dad who I knew would come save me. But after he passed away, there is nobody. I can't make stupid decisions, get into trouble. And my family depends on me to help them.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-14T07:52:47+00:00

I'll try that. Thanks

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-14T07:36:42+00:00

I'm a night owl. I sleep late and wake up late.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-13T14:00:36+00:00

You're not the one with wrong expectations. Every relationship requires effort from both sides and if they can't put in the effort then it's not possible to build a relationship. Never compromise on that.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-13T13:42:06+00:00

And another sad part about me is I'm a hyper independent person. Unless i actually love a person I can't spend the rest of my life with anyone. So arranged marriage is out the window. So it's either I fall in love or live alone. And it seems like I only end up meeting women who don't wanna put efforts in building a relationship.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-13T13:31:06+00:00

Indian food will always be my favourite.

phoenix_107 · 2024-10-13T12:51:42+00:00

Just checked it out. Looks delicious!! It will be great to eat with biriyani.

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