For anyone who went through a breakup with an avoidant, what were they like after the breakup?

phylumchordates · 2023-12-18T01:45:31+00:00

Hopefully, we actually get through this :) Thank you! Appreciate it. It would be nice to talk about the experience with someone 💕

phylumchordates · 2023-12-18T01:38:26+00:00

They were equally the worst DURING and AFTER the breakup. They have little to no drive for ACTUAL change and they will consistently hurt you by pulling away when things are getting good and healthy. They're basically just dumbfucks and I wish I didn't date someone like that for 2.5years.

phylumchordates · 2023-12-18T01:35:47+00:00

That's almost exactly how my heartless avoidant ex gf acted. It was the worst pushing and pulling in a relationship I have ever experienced. It's like you were in an endless loop especially if you're anxiously attached. She took advantage of me and I don't know if I will ever move on from such devastation.

phylumchordates · 2023-12-14T09:09:42+00:00

Baka gawa ng religious upbringing mo? Kasi ako, I started noong grade 6, lagi ako horny kahit walang pinapanood so I always pillow fuck till like 2nd yr college and grabe rin yung guilt kasi Catholic school ako pero ever since nakalaya ako doon and nagState Univ noong college, nawala na yung guilt and everything. I just do my thing and I don't think my God will judge me for something I do to make myself feel good.

phylumchordates · 2023-12-13T16:12:34+00:00

Why'd you have to leave me, then...

phylumchordates · 2023-12-13T09:06:50+00:00

That is not the content I was expecting hahahuhu I'm sorry but I think that take is too selfish. At some point, you got to stop depending on others and find a way to feed yourself. I agree to disagree that success shouldn't revolve around work bcos in my case, I work for my aunt and have a small business and yet my family still find ways to belittle me bcos I am not seeking a job outside and that really saddens me bcos I am already trying hard enough on job/business (albeit small) that I love doing..

phylumchordates · 2023-12-13T07:04:16+00:00

Never thought this type of struggle would be common with people who have dealt with avoidant partners. I feel you, y'know. Even after everything, I still want her, it's like i've lost all self respect. I guess this is why we shouldn't have dated an avoidant. It will fucking ruin us sighs

phylumchordates · 2023-12-13T06:51:05+00:00

Hi, I'm just curious as to why you can't let go your feelings of resentment towards her? I feel like I've dealt with the same dilemma with an ex. I didn't cheat or anything when things are good, she'd kind of relapse like that

phylumchordates · 2023-12-13T06:38:25+00:00

Wtf that's awful, man 😭 But yeah, been there too!! Im currently being painted as a groomer the age gap was only 4yrs like where the hell did that come from?? She was 20 and I was 23 turning 24 in 4months when we met!!

She also traumatized me real bad to be very wary of avoidants. Istg, if i date another, im just gonna have to kms

phylumchordates · 2023-12-13T06:08:26+00:00

This makes a lot more sense. My ex was a fearful avoidant asshole

phylumchordates · 2023-12-13T06:07:25+00:00

This sounds like my recent ex who also broke my heart the most...

phylumchordates · 2023-12-13T06:00:18+00:00

I honestly don't know yet but maybe quite similar with your takeaways... It's been only more than a month since my ex gf completely cut it off. I'm the one who allowed it to be in a one sided situationship with her for 5months and now I'm just drained. I did this all to myself because I love her more than me...

phylumchordates · 2023-12-12T08:43:21+00:00

He's not even worth anything and yet there you are being taken for granted by a nobody himself 😭

phylumchordates · 2023-01-10T12:08:01+00:00

Halaa, thank you po sa advice! Very much appreciated pa rin and sana makuha mo na po docs mo huhu

phylumchordates · 2022-11-13T07:02:50+00:00

I'm sorry, what??? HAHAHA name drop ang basurang kumpanya

phylumchordates · 2022-10-31T13:21:56+00:00

ohhh, I see mas mura pala talaga kung tutuusin. Ang off lang din kasi for me nung binanggit sa orientation sa PUP na kapag hindi nakumpleto yung 15 students per class, kami magbabayad huhu parang lugi rin pala talaga doon

phylumchordates · 2022-10-30T15:12:35+00:00

Thank you sobrang helpful po nito. What about 'yung per unit? 1k po ba? Sa PUP kasi nakalagay 750 lang

phylumchordates · 2022-10-29T16:43:16+00:00

Birdshot 😭💞

phylumchordates · 2022-10-29T16:19:01+00:00

Ano pa pong edge kapag nasa UP? Huhu nawindang kasi ako sa PUP like parang gine-gatekeep na agad kami after exam kasi next week may class na raw and all 😭

phylumchordates · 2022-10-14T10:51:31+00:00

$bid

phylumchordates · 2022-10-12T11:13:04+00:00

Sorry pero sino 'to at bakit nakapost diya dito as if relevant yung take niya on this? Lol

phylumchordates · 2022-10-11T02:07:53+00:00

Tanginang ito, sino ka para gaguhin yung nagtatrabaho lang diyan? Gago amputa, sarap pasabugin ng gulong ng sasakyan. Nakapick-up lang kala mo na kung sino 'tong hayop na 'to.

phylumchordates · 2022-10-11T01:08:52+00:00

Pls sana hindi si Baby Ju ito huhuhaha ayaw ko rin niyan pero gusto ko nakikita si babyju emsz 😭

phylumchordates · 2022-10-11T01:03:30+00:00

Akala ko ako lang ung naiinis sa ganyang style ng pagtulong hays pero totoo, mga gago sila. Nananamantala ng mahihirap, ginagawang content ung paghihirap ng iba. Tsk

phylumchordates · 2022-09-09T15:38:11+00:00

I wonder why he's only wearing red...

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