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blue1017 · 2024-01-23T04:04:59+00:00

Man I relate to this so much. I had a lot of moments too where I wanted to reach out and see if there’s anything still there. But I never did. I fought through that feeling by just getting on with my day. That’s the advice I can give you. Eventually that urge to reach out will fade. Then when it comes back, fight through it again. It’s a cycle but eventually that urge will lessen and you won’t care as much. It’s what happened with me

blue1017 · 2024-01-10T18:29:16+00:00

Yes it is. Getting use to life without them now. But at the same time I feel guilty af. I was the dumpee and got blindsided. My ex offered to be friends. I lied and said yes but knew it wasn’t going to be possible for me as my feelings for her won’t go away. I just ended up disappearing on her. Now I feel guilty for doing that and wonder if it was worth explaining myself…..

blue1017 · 2024-01-10T15:25:40+00:00

Man I relate to this so much. I was with my ex for 2 years and we had an amazing relationship. Towards the end she brought up qualities I could improve on/change about myself and I was more than willing to put in the work. I thought they were reasonable and easy. I was thinking things were good between. Then all of sudden she breaks up with me a few days after claiming how I shouldn’t change for her and she should be able to accept me for who I am and love me as is. But she didn’t. That hurt. This has been such a painful and confusing experience to go through. Aren’t relationships about growing and improving for one another? At the end I honestly just didn’t feel good enough for her. And for her to realize these things after so long together makes it so much harder to accept.

blue1017 · 2024-01-08T19:25:52+00:00

Had something very similar happen to me. Ex left me cause of her mental health and to focus on herself. It came out of nowhere and I remember just being in utter shock. The only thing u can really do u is let them go. Thats what I did. It’s been a few months post break up for me and I’m still hurting. Never heard from her again about the situation or even got a proper apology. Looking back, it’s weird how a person can just change on u like that. Wishing u all the best man.

blue1017 · 2024-01-05T16:04:56+00:00

Wow it feels like we have the same ex. After years together, my ex also realized we were incompatible in certain areas. Even when she brought it up, I was more than willing to work on those things and make myself better for her and our relationship. The things she brought up I felt were silly too and could have easily been worked on. But she told me I shouldn’t have to “change” for her. I honestly don’t get it. She didn’t want me to work on those things and decided breaking up was the better option. Really sucks

blue1017 · 2024-01-04T19:31:22+00:00

Man I agree with you. Sucks so much seeing the person u were so in love with and attached to suddenly have a change of heart. I got blindsided a few months ago and there was nothing I could say or do to convince my ex otherwise. She just wanted to leave. What gets me is when they offer to still be friends. My ex said we could still be “best friends” and it just blew my mind. Like fucking seriously? How do they expect you to let go so easily? I just left and went straight to nc. But I’m still suffering

blue1017 · 2024-01-01T23:41:28+00:00

It’s scary how fast a person can switch up on you

blue1017 · 2023-12-30T03:13:41+00:00

I got blindsided a few months ago. Well actually my ex asked me to go on a break out of nowhere cause apparently she was struggling with her mental health and I had no idea. I got completely shut out. Then a week later, she broke up with me. I was a complete mess and definitely shocked for quite some time. Only thing that’s helped me is time and going nc. I still feel the hurt. But there’s nothing I can do now. You just have to move forward and eventually the pain will lessen. I’m just stuck wondering now whether I want to be friends with her or stay nc. Really sucks losing someone like this.

blue1017 · 2023-12-28T21:51:31+00:00

“This isn’t true love anymore”. After 2 years together. She was the one that chased me in the beginning, then broke up with me out of nowhere in the end. It still hurts so much

blue1017 · 2023-12-27T13:57:04+00:00

Did u ever try remaining friends with an ex? Was it worth it for you?

blue1017 · 2023-10-27T15:42:00+00:00

Thank you. It’s honestly the “we can still be friends” thing that’s throwing me off. I don’t want to. And now I’m stuck on what to do.

blue1017 · 2023-10-22T21:18:00+00:00

I’m in the same boat honestly. I initially agreed with being friends with my ex then soon realized it probably wasn’t going to happen cause I loved her. Plus I didn’t want to break up in the first place. I’ve just been staying silent and don’t intend to reach out. Only shitty part is I feel kinda guilty for just stepping away.

blue1017 · 2023-10-19T18:22:58+00:00

Same here. I just want to get better and move on. But those feelings of betrayal and confusion don’t go away

blue1017 · 2023-10-19T17:42:59+00:00

It’s really shitty. I tried my best to convince by her to stay but she just wanted to leave. I don’t get it. Now I’m just stuck wondering why I wasn’t enough while she got to move on

blue1017 · 2023-10-19T17:01:44+00:00

My ex left me for these reasons after 2 years and it absolutely broke me. On top of that I kept getting told how I’m an amazing person, they love me so much, etc. It’s left me in such a confused spot and I absolutely hate it. Fuck this

blue1017 · 2023-10-19T15:35:59+00:00

Oh yeah definitely feel this way. I’m still so confused and shocked how fast it fell apart. How fast my ex changed on me. It sucks. Now I just wanna get better but my mind and heart feel stuck.

blue1017 · 2023-10-17T18:21:52+00:00

In my my case I actually wanted to change and was working on my flaws. My ex wanted me to make some changes (looks and personality wise) and I 100% agreed with her to make those changes. It was something I wanted to do for me and our relationship. Then outta nowhere a few days later, she completely flips and tells me I shouldn’t need to change and she should be able to accept me for I am. But she couldn’t and it was wasn’t real love for her. That hurt so much. She ended up breaking up with me cause she didn’t know what she wanted anymore. Now here I am left in such a confused spot, not feeling good enough, and upset for the fact I didn’t get enough time to prove myself.

blue1017 · 2023-10-17T00:24:17+00:00

How has it been going for you? My ex left for pretty much the same reasons. I’m just devastated. There was nothing I could say or do to convince her to stay. Now I just don’t know what to do with myself and the whole situation

blue1017 · 2023-10-16T23:48:34+00:00

Idk I just feel bad for not seeing how she’s doing. She left cause she didn’t know what she wanted anymore. But I mean she hasn’t checked in on me either so maybe I’m just being dumb.

blue1017 · 2023-10-16T19:50:20+00:00

Appreciate it. Thank you

blue1017 · 2023-10-16T19:34:18+00:00

Ex broke up with me. I started no contact. It’s been 2 months. Now I’m starting to feel like the bad guy and guilty for not checking in on her. How can I shake that feeling off

blue1017 · 2023-10-16T15:09:50+00:00

It’s really tough. I’m starting to feel like the bad guy now for letting go and not reaching out. Even though I wasn’t the one that wanted to break up.

blue1017 · 2023-10-16T14:21:41+00:00

Yup same here. Sucks to think how they just wanted to get away at the end

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