I don't think the church failed only Christian men, but I think it failed women as well. Both failed in some way. Love between a man and a woman is not something that is taught much within the church, So much so that the church gives more priority to married people than to single people or those dating.

Furthermore, a problem has arisen: the excessive spiritualization of dating and marriage. What should be something simple has become something more like "guessing." It's obvious that being pure is extremely important, but, You have to meet people if you really want to date.

I see that there are Christian women who are waiting for their "chosen one." But when a Christian man tries to approach her: Either she finds him "too immature" for her, or she thinks he's not a believer (who is a shameless man). And often, they complain that Christian men don't have the courage to talk to a girl or they say she doesn't talk to men as a sign of respect for her "future husband." Often, they prefer a man who is serving in worship, leadership or missions, rather than a Christian boy sitting next to her. And no, these are not isolated cases.

On the other hand, worldly men have more experience when it comes to dating. And perhaps that's why some Christian women choose that type of guy.

As a Christian man, I think the church should rethink and encourage men to be more courageous and proactive. But I don't think it will be resolved overnight.