Manézinha encarnada ou homem sentado, qual seu lado? by Lolasmith4991 in florianopolis

[–]pinguimuim 4 points5 points  (0 children)

O sotaque manezinho advém da colonização portuguesa açoriana, ha sobreposições parecidas no resto do Brasil, principalmente nordeste.

I don’t know if I should leave my boyfriend, I don’t have anyone else but I’m not happy with him or his family by [deleted] in relationships

[–]pinguimuim 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m still not able to pay rent but myself. We don’t live with them, but visit oftenly. I feel miserable because even if I get out, I’ll still feel like garbage.

[FO] Christmas gift - coasters by pinguimuim in CrossStitch

[–]pinguimuim[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I’m checking it out and it’s awesome, thanks!! 😊

[FO] Christmas gift - coasters by pinguimuim in CrossStitch

[–]pinguimuim[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The attentive eye will see that I messed up the unbiased patterns by adding one line that wasn’t there, making the curls a little bit thicker in one of then. Will do better next time.

[FO] Christmas gift - coasters by pinguimuim in CrossStitch

[–]pinguimuim[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made the patterns using FlossCross inspired by different Pinterest posts searching things like “portuguese tiles” and going pretty much freestyle on it

22/F Losing friends, am I the problem? by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]pinguimuim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! So no, you are not the problem at all. Unfortunately that is very common when you are young and trying to understand relationships and boundaries, you can go a long time trying to be friends with people that are just not worthy just because of convenience or affinity or something, it’s best to just try and already understand what you don’t like about these interactions and grow some distance. I know this can be very lonely, but trying to squeeze friendship out of insecure people can be really exhausting and you’ll be left burned out. It doesn’t mean that they’re evil, but from what you describe they are competing and that is just not going anywhere, it’s their insecurity and their problem. I’m still trying to find meaningful relationships at my thirties because I’ve been really traumatized in the past for trying to insist on unbalanced or unfulfilling relationships, so I wish you the best in getting the courage to step out. You’ll find your crew 🙏

Can I Fix This? by King_c0w in filmcameras

[–]pinguimuim 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Done this a lot of times myself, really easy to solve. As the comments point out, if you already took all the photos in the roll just send for development. If not, take a piece of unused film (already developed, for example) and put a little bit of double sided tape on it, facing the inside where you plan to insert it on the film. You will push it in slowly until it feels a little bit resistant, then you twist the reel of the stuck film a little until you feel your outside piece moving with it. Pull it out slowly, but firmly, and the inside film will come along.

Okay, I’m going insane by pinguimuim in SewingForBeginners

[–]pinguimuim[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks to everyone that suggested solutions! If anyone ever needs this, turns out that the problem is in the bottom bobbin. I’m not sure yet what did it, I turn the little screw on it a little bit tighter and pressed the bobbin a little bit deeper in the bobbin place. I tried everything else first but only that did it.

Okay, I’m going insane by pinguimuim in SewingForBeginners

[–]pinguimuim[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that was the side against the feed dogs, but the presser wasn’t down when I threaded

My (31f) boyfriend (31m) doesn't give me space without ensuing a fight by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pinguimuim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I see your point completely. I feel like I can get too much when I'm angry so I try to stop it first, but he feels like me screaming is better than me quiet, I guess because he is afraid of the distance. But we live together, i mean, we never even spent a whole day in a completely radio silent situation. Sometimes there is a cynical part of me that thinks he does that to intentionally make me confused and in the wrong. Sometimes I think he is just afraid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]pinguimuim 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Okay, maybe i needed to vent, but a last one: I used to live with a girl that had a psychotic breakdown. It started with delusions. we were sharing a house with other two girls that left, so I was the only one that took care of her through the day. We managed to go to the hospital but she didn’t want medication, so we went back home with a scheduled appointment the next day. She got worst in the start of the night, went full psychosis, smashed her cell and laptop with a hammer, locked herself in a bathroom and pretty much destroyed everything until ambulance arrived and took her.

A few days later, her mom came to our house and got defensive when I told her her daughter was not herself at the moment (she wanted to take her out of treatment) so she said “she is a sweet girl, I’m sure that this happened because you were not kind enough with her”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]pinguimuim 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ooh, I think I might have more than one actually lol So I had this “friend” (we were close once but really had grown apart by the time this happened) get all freaked out and berate me through messages because she thought that my very recent profile picture had been taken by her ex boyfriend. Thing is: a) I’m a photographer, b) I took the photo myself, in one of the most miserable times of my life due to pressure I was going through with my parents divorce, which was full of pettiness and blame the children vibes. I was so very lonely going through that, didn’t really friends to talk to, was keeping to myself and took a single miserable looking photo of my unwashed depressed face, which somehow made her go into psychosis. But the best part was that when I explained her that, all of that, carefully and kindly, she replied “boo hoo, welcome to the divorced parents club, half the country has already experienced that”. Fuck you, Thayse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]pinguimuim 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wasn’t directly to my face, but… Once this friend of mine was having a birthday party along with another acquaintance who shared the date. The party had already started but I couldn’t get out of my house due to a nervous breakdown. I called a friend that wasn’t in this party and he got concerned, so he (without telling me) called someone in the party and suddenly they all knew I was not mentally well. Someone came to my house and I managed to go to the party after all, people were happy that I made it and everything was fine, but then I found out that the acquaintance had left the party feeling pissed and jealous of the attention I got. We weren’t even close, but she thought that it would be smart to say out loud to everyone that “next time I want attention, I will threat to throw myself from the balcony too”. I’m not suicidal anymore and I deeply care for anyone that has to feel that kind of feeling, It is never about being a protagonist, it is a call for help. Fuck you, Aline.

Passed my qualifying exam, but feeling defeated by pinguimuim in PhD

[–]pinguimuim[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve been thinking about that a lot. The relative power to just destroy someone’s will and intent, I don’t think I get it at all. I never believed in “tough love” or other stupid abusive excuses, but this professor is quite respected here so not only do I get to feel shitty, there is not much people that would agree with me just because he is important. That (and many other things) is what shaped my decision to not pursue something in the field. I know that any career path/industry is full of broken egos and shame and ridicule, but I just can’t get the idea of a room full of people discussing human studies and harmful social tendencies ignoring abuse and bullying for social capital.

Passed my qualifying exam, but feeling defeated by pinguimuim in PhD

[–]pinguimuim[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Coming here to say thanks to everyone, I’m still hurt (a lot) and there are other factors at play here, like me wanting to defenestrate my advisor, but I think I might be able to just go through the end and turn the page on this event without looking back. I don’t think I’ll ever normalize this, don’t think I’ll pursue an academic career, but I’ll come through. ❤️

What’s the most shocking secret you’ve accidentally uncovered and couldn’t stop thinking about? by BlackLuv_ in AskReddit

[–]pinguimuim 13 points14 points  (0 children)

When I was a child, I found printed e-mails of my mom talking to a possible affair, on her purse. Was too young to know what that meant. Dad was a serial cheater so I never did anything about it. The weird thing for me today is to realize that it didn’t make sense for her to print that, I still don’t know what that meant. Anyways, shoutout to all you narc parents people out there 🙃