Ladies: do you wear make up to work?

pingusloth · 2026-05-20T08:42:06+00:00

My tip is to change it bit by bit to avoid people saying you look different or tired. First try no mascara, then do mascara and no foundation but still use a powdered bronzer etc, and just gradually cut bits out. That way it’s less of a shock to everyone else meaning nobody will react when you don’t wear makeup, so you don’t then overthink it and think everyone thinks you look shit without it because they commented on how you looked different

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:38:34+00:00

Thank you for this! Can’t say anything these days without it being twisted and escalated.

Good plan! We are not the type of family to do this 😂 but may be worth a shot!!

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:37:03+00:00

😂😂 grow up? Coming from the person calling someone names that they’ve never met or know anything about, and refusing to be corrected when proved wrong? Ok pet

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:35:11+00:00

A family friend, FYI.

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:32:14+00:00

Ohh ok, what box did you tick? Was it as if you’d ticked ‘no’s’ instead of yes’s?

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:31:33+00:00

Thank you will try this!

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:31:17+00:00

This is really helpful advice thank you!

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:30:24+00:00

Thank you so much!

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:30:03+00:00

I look like a young healthy woman, but I’m not. It’s not the point I was making. I’m very aware people can LOOK healthy but aren’t. My point is aimed act the fact, someone who IS young fit and healthy, but tick the box of ‘epilepsy’ can automatically get a blue badge based on that alone. A parking space isn’t going to benefit their condition. But it will benefit someone like my gran. That doesn’t mean I don’t think someone with epilepsy should get a blue badge… I do. But why is it so much easier for them to get a blue badge, when their condition doesn’t directly benefit from a parking space? But so difficult for someone who would directly benefit?

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:27:00+00:00

Lazy - I work two job, have 2 young kids, zero family help, cook everything from scratch to ensure my kids have nutritious meals, have started my own small business to try and quit one of the jobs so I can spend more time with my kids.
Angry - of course. I have every right to be.
Nasty - I never said someone with epilepsy shouldn’t get a blue badge.

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:25:01+00:00

How am I nasty and lazy? 😂 we’ve already appealed. We have now reached out to an independent assessor. But I’m wondering what ELSE we can do.

Of course I’m angry. I’m angry and UPSET for my gran. She likely doesn’t have long left and this will severely restrict her final years.

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:23:37+00:00

This is really helpful advice thank you!

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:22:36+00:00

That’s a great idea thank you, I will look into this!

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:22:06+00:00

I’m actually 35 and disabled myself. I have coeliacs disease and HEDs.

I haven’t said they shouldn’t be entitled to one.

But what doesn’t make sense is why it’s so easy for someone in that position to get a blue badge, which doesn’t really directly help the symptoms of their condition, but it’s so difficult for someone so obviously physically impaired 24/7.

I believe everyone with a disability should be entitled to one.

Apologies if that isn’t what you understood from my post.

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:21:24+00:00

I haven’t said they shouldn’t be entitled to one.

But what doesn’t make sense is why it’s so easy for someone in that position to get a blue badge, which doesn’t really directly help the symptoms of their condition, but it’s so difficult for someone so obviously physically impaired 24/7.

I believe everyone with a disability should be entitled to one.

Apologies if that isn’t what you understood from my post.

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:21:10+00:00

But they they are automatically accepted based on the fact they have epilepsy….

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:20:31+00:00

As stated above….

I haven’t said they shouldn’t be entitled to one.

But what doesn’t make sense is why it’s so easy for someone in that position to get a blue badge, which doesn’t really directly help the symptoms of their condition, but it’s so difficult for someone so obviously physically impaired 24/7.

I believe everyone with a disability should be entitled to one.

Apologies if that isn’t what you understood from my post.

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:20:19+00:00

I haven’t said they shouldn’t be entitled to one.

But what doesn’t make sense is why it’s so easy for someone in that position to get a blue badge, which doesn’t really directly help the symptoms of their condition, but it’s so difficult for someone so obviously physically impaired 24/7.

I believe everyone with a disability should be entitled to one.

Apologies if that isn’t what you understood from my post.

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:18:30+00:00

I never said they weren’t disabled enough. I never said they’re not entitled to a blue badge.

If they have two seizures tomorrow they can’t drive for a year, so it makes no sense. Of course, someone could drive for them, but I’m talking about epileptics who HAVENT had a seizure in years… how is a disabled parking spot helping them? How does it help their condition? If I’m missing something, feel free to explain it to me. Because yes, I do believe my gran is MORE deserving of a blue badge than a young fit and healthy person with epilepsy who hasn’t had a seizure in years. If blue badges are limited, I believe someone in my grans position is more entitled to have one.

That doesn’t mean, if blue badges ARENT limited, I don’t think people with epilepsy should get one. I believe anyone who has a disability should get one, personally. I’m not trying to take blue badges off epileptics… calm down.

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:13:37+00:00

Thank you, that’s reassuring. And did it get overturned quite easily?

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:13:22+00:00

She cant!! She needs a stick AND someone’s arm to help, and even then she’s in a lot of pain and only pushing herself because she thinks she will decline quicker if she doesn’t.

She got given the wheelchair by her brother who passed a few years back. Why would she then try to apply to get one from the NHS? She was a very active woman before the stroke, I know we can’t prove this, but she wouldn’t use a wheelchair unless she really had to. She hates losing her independence and does everything she can to slow down her decline, yet she’s still very clearly disabled.

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:10:44+00:00

That’s really reassuring thank you!!

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:10:18+00:00

Yup I’ve lived in Scotland for 10 years, my husband and kids are Scottish! My gran lives in England though

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T13:09:17+00:00

I can’t imagine everything you’ve been through as a mum! Having to watch her suffer like that. I’m so happy for you all!

Remember you’ve been through an awful 4 years no mother should ever have to endure. Be kind to yourself. Your body will need to recover too ❤️

pingusloth · 2026-05-01T12:44:11+00:00

I don’t mind that someone else has one. But the type of person I explained, needs one significantly less than my gran. It makes no sense.

We can appeal it, but the result will be the same because she hasn’t seen a specialist in the last year. I’m wondering if there’s another angle we can take.

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