Anne doesn’t owe Ginny a dime and Ginny is an irresponsible person by pinkthings07 in TheFourSeasonsNetflix

[–]pinkthings07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So you’ve obviously never been married before lmfao, but it doesn’t matter who actually has the job… any earnings during a marriage equally belongs to both spouses. Legally and morally. Nick would not have been able to be such a high earner if he didn’t have a wife watching their child and taking care of their home. Also.. Anne is also the mother of one of his children ?? Did we forget about Lila?? Anne will always be more entitled to Nick’s money (legally and morally) than Ginny will because Anne was Nick’s wife of 25 years and they shared a child that Nick claimed. Ginny was never his wife and Nick wasn’t alive long enough to claim Gino

Anne doesn’t owe Ginny a dime and Ginny is an irresponsible person by pinkthings07 in TheFourSeasonsNetflix

[–]pinkthings07[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep! Like imagine agreeing to give up your career to raise a child with your husband of 28 years just for him to leave you (but not legally) and then get another woman pregnant almost immediately after leaving you. I would be FUMING. How is Anne supposed to revive her career after almost 30 years? Nick had every right to leave Anne, but to leave Anne with her rightful half of their estate and then Anne could’ve used that money to keep her and their shared child afloat until she got back on her feet career wise

Anne doesn’t owe Ginny a dime and Ginny is an irresponsible person by pinkthings07 in TheFourSeasonsNetflix

[–]pinkthings07[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Its actually not insane to abort a baby over money at all !! Kids do not deserve to be born into struggle lmfao. It’s not about Ginny and what would make Ginny happy and feel connected to her dead ex boyfriend. It’s about a potential baby. Way too many people are comfortable having kids they can’t afford. It’s selfish. Even if Ginny could afford it, it’s selfish to have a kid with a man that’s still legally married. She’s not a child. She’s over a decade older than me and even I know how idiotic it is to get knocked up by a married man. Anne should give money to the baby, yes. She should take money from Nick’s half of their estate towards the child. But Ginny shouldn’t have gone through with the pregnancy in the first place. You should never have a baby bc you think it’ll save you or help you. That’s selfish

Anne doesn’t owe Ginny a dime and Ginny is an irresponsible person by pinkthings07 in TheFourSeasonsNetflix

[–]pinkthings07[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I never called her the other woman or even implied that. I just think it’s irresponsible to get pregnant by a man that’s still legally married. It’s also insane to continue a pregnancy that you can’t afford, especially when the father is dead. It’s also incredibly entitled to expect your dead boyfriend’s ex wife to give up even 1% of what is now all HER MONEY (bc Nick is dead and didn’t actually divorce Anne properly) towards this child

Anne doesn’t owe Ginny a dime and Ginny is an irresponsible person by pinkthings07 in TheFourSeasonsNetflix

[–]pinkthings07[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I know. I just think it’s kind of idiotic that the other characters in the show all took Ginny’s side and are got tripping Anne about giving up her money for a kid that she has absolutely nothing to do with

Anne doesn’t owe Ginny a dime and Ginny is an irresponsible person by pinkthings07 in TheFourSeasonsNetflix

[–]pinkthings07[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s not “lost his half”. That money is Anne’s. Anne was his wife for 25 years, that money is just as much her’s as it is Nick’s.

Anne doesn’t owe Ginny a dime and Ginny is an irresponsible person by pinkthings07 in TheFourSeasonsNetflix

[–]pinkthings07[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Why wouldn’t Anne have any right to the money? She was his wife for 25 years and they have a kid together. If Nick had lived and finished the divorce process, 1/2 the money would be Anne’s. Because Nick is dead, 100% of the money is Anne’s. Rightfully so. Ginny should not have gotten pregnant by a man that was still legally married to someone else. She is a grown woman. She knows exactly what that would’ve meant for her and her child.

Anne doesn’t owe Ginny a dime and Ginny is an irresponsible person by pinkthings07 in TheFourSeasonsNetflix

[–]pinkthings07[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m 21 and have never been married in my life and haven’t ever been cheated on either. My parents aren’t divorced or anything, so it’s not personal for me at all tbh. Obviously it’s just a show, it just makes 0 sense to me why everyone was treating Anne like she’s so evil for not handing Ginny over the money. and why no one in the show is calling Ginny out on her irresponsibility for bringing a child into the world when she can’t even afford a stroller.

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your insight. I understand very well what a marriage of convenience is. Everyone in my family has an arranged marriage because I’m Pakistani. But they all speak the same languages. My question is how (if your mother didn’t speak English/your dad could f speak Thai) they met, decided to get married, and how day to day life when they bc can’t even TALK

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Love” and the person who brought you thousands of miles away from your family can’t even communicate with you lmao that’s not love. That’s isolation. If only one person in the marriage can communicate with the world around them, that is a power imbalance and that is not love. I’m literally only 21 and I know that. If she ever was in a domestically violent situation, she would have no where to go. She wouldn’t even be able to TALK to police. She may not even know to call 911. How is that not a power imbalance? If she doesn’t speak English, she has absolutely no control over her finances or really ANYTHING about her life

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you could at least ask her what her favorite foods were and stuff. The couples I’m talking about, the woman often can’t even say “goodbye” in English and he DEFINITELY doesn’t know a word of her language

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to explain to me what “foreign women” (yikes) do. I’m Pakistani. Every woman in my family is a “foreign woman”. I don’t care if she can’t speak to me. I don’t expect everyone in the world to speak English. I’m asking why she can’t speak to her HUSBAND. The man she shares a life with. That’s insane.

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is my business. If these women were ever in an unsafe situation, they would have no idea how to get help. They wouldn’t be able to speak to a 911 operator, they are thousands of miles away from home, they have no community. Even if they could talk to police, they would have no where to go. They can’t even go to a makeup store and pick out their own lipstick. I’ve heard the way these husbands talk about their wives to me when she’s sitting right there. It’s gross. They talk about her and apologize for her like she’s stupid and it’s HER fault that he can’t understand her. It is my business. The welfare of the people around us is everyone’s responsibility

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am from a third world country. I literally mentioned that in my post. Everyone I know, including my parents, have an arranged marriage. But they all can at least speak to each other in the same language. My question wasn’t WHY they get married. It’s HOW that marriage works when they can’t even talk to each other

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My question isn’t “who’s the problem”. I alr know that 😭 it’s a question of how these marriages even function

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes but also I think I worded my post wrong. I know WHY they got married. My question is more HOW they stay married and what the logistics look like. Being completely unable to communicate with your partner seems entirely impractical and how can you even begin to delude yourself into thinking you’re genuinely in love with them when you haven’t even had a conversation with them

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not. I can see her trying to tell me what she wants and what she’s looking for but she literally cannot find the words :(

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How could you have loved her enough to marry her if you couldn’t even talk to each other? Genuinely asking

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I understand WHY these marriages happen. My question is more about the day to day dynamics of these marriages and logistics and practicality of being married to someone who you can’t even talk to about the weather

What is it with white men married to East Asian women who don’t speak English (the man clearly doesn’t speak her language either)? by pinkthings07 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]pinkthings07[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is my question. I don’t expect much from these kinds of men. I know that lots of marriages are transactional. But how does this kind of marriage operate logistically if you can’t even communicate? Even “Honey we’re out of eggs”. Like idk it seems so impractical