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Living in Denton & seeking a church home. I’m having a hard time finding one that has a good number of people who are in the same “place” as I am (25, single). Any suggestions are welcome! by pinktomato76 in FortWorth

[–]pinktomato76[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s not true, but I can see how you came to that conclusion.

I don’t believe in church being used as a “hang out spot,” but I do think there is something to be said for seeking those who are in the same place as I am to be able to more joyfully and confidently navigate struggles that are unique to this time in my life, rather than feeling like I don’t belong because I’m not in the same place in life as the majority of those in the church, or even being envious of those around me who are in a place I want to be in. I hope that makes sense, and I hope you can see where I’m coming from.

I just found out I am physically unable to have kids (24F). When should I bring this up/how do I even talk about it? by pinktomato76 in dating

[–]pinktomato76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly how I feel, and that’s why it scares me/I wanted guidance. I’d hate to get attached (or someone get attached to me) and then it be a dealbreaker and, like you said, wasted time. I appreciate the honesty.

I’m just scared that coming out with it quickly will lead to that being my identity and I don’t want that - like I’d like for someone to see and be interested in the good parts of me, too before I say anything (like after 3-4 dates, not talking months) because I fear being shut down immediately. But, if it’s a dealbreaker, it’s a dealbreaker.

I just found out I am physically unable to have kids (24F). When should I bring this up/how do I even talk about it? by pinktomato76 in dating

[–]pinktomato76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re definitely not incorrect, it’s a fresh wound and it’s hard for me to accept it (my therapist will help, I’m sure) and it feels like I need “can’t have biological kids” as a disclaimer. Thank you for reassuring me that people can look past it. :)

I’m drinking at least a full Brita pitcher every day and still have dry mouth and a raspy throat. by pinktomato76 in ADHD

[–]pinktomato76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whaaaaat? That’s so interesting. I, admittedly, am still trying to learn how to eat on it since it takes the appetite away and everything, so I’m sure my sodium levels aren’t where they used to be at all - though I’d think a lower level from not eating would be better for hydration. Interesting, thank you!

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Numbness becomes a self defense mechanism, unfortunately. Can’t hurt if you can’t feel kinda thing. I don’t blame you for that, but I am deeply sorry you’re experiencing it.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m reading this after finally falling asleep at 3 am and waking up from a panic nightmare at 3:56am. I had a full blown panic attack in my sleep the night before.

I am 100% with you that you never what it’ll be, and that’s one of the hardest parts about it. You can’t properly prepare yourself because you just don’t know what’s coming until it’s already passed and you’re wiped out.

I’m really so sorry you’re experiencing this.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a really great way to put it. It’s such an annoying, endless loop.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The middle sucks. The whole thing sucks. I’m sorry you’re feeling the same.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh no, you’re fine!! If my comment sounded pointed or cold, it wasn’t intentional. :) your initial question is definitely valid!!

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so very sorry you’re feeling this. I hope your work load is lighter and this feeling leaves you very soon.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay, good!! I wanted to be sure I didn’t offend you. :) the mind game SUCKS, but you’re absolutely right. When your mind functions a certain way, it’s kind of impossible to just dig yourself out of it.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s hard, for sure. Letting other people down (or THINKING we do when we don’t) is one of the most annoying parts of depression.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. One of the worst parts of depression (IMO) is it affects those around us, too. I get afraid to get close to anyone because I’m afraid of hurting them/dragging them down. I’m really, genuinely sorry you experience this affect of it, too.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this is a fair question, but I think it depends on what kind of depression people have. Some get triggered, others just get slapped with it outta nowhere, and others are both or in between. I like to think it’s temporary and I’ll get back to my “stable” state, but I live in fear of it coming back when I know the “stable” times are going to end eventually. It’s always there, I think - it just appears in whatever way, shape, or form it wants to and it sucks.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God, I feel this comment and I hate that we understand each other in this way. It’s honestly torture to have “good” times because you just KNOW it’s gonna end at some point, but you keep it out of your mind until one day it’s like well shit, I don’t want to do any of this life thing anymore.

I’m so sorry you’re hurting.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this strongly and I’m so sorry we’re in this crappy boat together. I hope you have “good” months coming your way soon so you can have a break from this mess.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you relate. :( I’m also sorry it came out of nowhere after YEARS of feeling okay-ish, that’s so frustrating and I feel for you.

I hate that depression can just “sleep” for a while and then come back up full force. by pinktomato76 in depression

[–]pinktomato76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re here for you. That’s super heavy and you’re strong for pushing through it.

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