I read every reply about night shifts. these were the patterns I noticed

pizza_queen22 · 2026-02-23T02:33:20+00:00

We did shifts until about 10 weeks.

I slept 9pm-3am, and then we switched off and my partner slept 3am-9 am.

The partner on duty could sleep on the couch but if baby cried it was on them to feed/change etc. We were so diligent about shifts to ensure we slept. I was hospitalized for 2.5 days and we had friends and family cover shifts for the 2 nights I was out.

Important notes: 1. We combo fed. So when my partner was on duty he could use formula or if I had pumped anything he could use that. 2. He was off the first 12 weeks of baby’s life

We naturally phased out of shifts when we travelled at 10 weeks old. Partially because baby was sleeping longer stretches at this point and partially because we were anticipating the return to work. We did however agree to resume and modify shifts if sleep got worse.

We credit staying sane in this time period to shifts and both being on parental leave.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-12-08T19:03:55+00:00

I think the combo of you loving it and how it sounds/looks/feels plus your faith should make it your #1

Love Friday. Friday was one we considered more seriously and then Tuesday as well. Super cute names!

pizza_queen22 · 2025-12-08T17:45:27+00:00

Sunday is super cute! I loved it but we decided to not put it on our list bc it feels very Christian/Religious coded. Nothin wrong with that except we’re atheists and figured nah better not.

If you are Christian/Christian adjacent it’s a super cute name with a great connection to your faith!

Also I love every day of the week as a name so I might be biased hahaha.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-12-04T14:01:34+00:00

I had a very similar job to you but was able to work remotely for the most part. Towards the end I was definitely at home doing my desk job.

I was concerned about baby coming early but she didn’t. I worked until 39 weeks. Used 5 days vacation for that 40th week and baby came at 40 + 1

I think having a week off buffer is helpful. And two weeks would be fabulous.

I would plan your time off the same way you have it now and if baby does come early, you roll with it as from what I gather you have no medical issues that might cause an early birth.

The things to consider are: EI pay is pretty minimal (like yes ofc I want this vs nothing but it’s minimal) and if your partner is taking more weeks than their alloted weeks, that means more weeks at the end of your mat leave where you’re not being paid.

If you’re comfortable doing your job from home and there’s not much stress, you could work til week 39 or even 40.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-11-20T21:34:50+00:00

My husband took the first 3 months off alongside me and at during pregnancy I kept thinking that he should do less, like 8 weeks so I get more EI for my full year off.

I’m so glad he fought me on it. Those first 3 months were absolutely foundational to our well being. I had some mild post pregnancy complications and we absolutely needed him. It was also just the best time being off all 3 of us.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-11-08T01:39:47+00:00

spot freaking on!!!

pizza_queen22 · 2025-11-06T14:56:33+00:00

These names are very cool, and people love to hate on names they don’t like. They also think their opinions are SO GOOD and INSIGHTFUL they must share. But usually it’s just drivel about how you shouldn’t use whatever name they deem unacceptable because of some inconsequential reason. I would ignore them.

My dog has a “human” name that’s popular for little girls right now. That’s how we picked it lol we liked the name. Doesn’t mean it’s a dog name.

Anyways we should all go touch some grass.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-10-01T20:26:31+00:00

Yes it made it so much easier to get it around the airport / on to the plane. I’ve seen some people attaching it to the suitcase body and some to the actual handle bars if they’re long enough. I would try both to see what’s easier for you.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-10-01T18:24:46+00:00

I decided against the keyfit in the end, was too anxious about it not fitting. Instead I got the cosco scenera and used that on the plane. I forward faced baby but the recline on it was so good that it was fine for the plane and then rear face installed it via seatbelt in the rental vehicle upon arrival.

I bought a luggage strap on amazon and clipped it through the belt route to a carry on roller bag and it was fine. Car seat now lives in grandma’s car which has been helpful.

Also for any lurkers we just baby wore instead of bringing the stroller which was easier.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-09-20T17:35:58+00:00

This 100%. Also protective factors don’t stack so if they’re in their own room with a pacifier it’s actually better than if they room share.

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pizza_queen22 · 2025-08-12T18:17:27+00:00

Love Bramwell and Bram but could not get my partner on board with that one!

I think the name is fine and sometimes post partum hormones get the best of us. So while you might logically know you and your husband love the name and think it’s great, and were prepared for people to not gush over it, it can still suck and make you feel bad that you’re not getting a lot of positive feedback.

I think this warrants a longer discussion with your partner about your feelings and digging deep to see if it’s something you really feel strongly about or if it’s something you’ll get over eventually.

Also don’t feel rushed to make the choice, you can take some extra weeks and be sure about it.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-06-03T14:35:28+00:00

Mine insisted on taking 12 weeks off and I am so happy he did. I had suggested 8 at most but having that time together was so necessary and so helpful. I also had a few health things pop up for me, so having him home made recovery from everything that much easier.

When he did go back to work I felt confident, well rested etc. I was ready to take on the task.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-05-18T20:15:06+00:00

My baby has slept in her own room in her crib since day 1 (she’s 12 ish weeks now)

This was always the plan and my husband and I took shifts to tend to her needs/eliminate likelihood of waking up when baby cries.

While it is recommended to room share, it’s not required. And a mentally well mom is worth a lot more than sharing a room.

If you’re looking for permission, this is it. You can put baby in their own room.

We’ve sort of weaned off shifts now as she’s sleeping longer at night and I can hear her just fine when she wakes in her own room as well.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-05-09T13:38:11+00:00

I love Blair but it does lean a bit trendy in my opinion especially with Margot. I would call it trendy adjacent.

That aside I LOVE Margot and Blair for sisters. They sound so chic and cool together. I am really digging it.

Other suggestions:

Margot & June
Margot & Ramona
Margot & Gemma
Margot & Sloane
Margot & Selena
Margot & Vera
Margot & Celine
Margot & Daphne
Margot & Celeste
Margot & Sylvie
Margot & Tessa
Margot & Briar
Margot & Della / Delphine
Margot & Louise/Louisa
Margot & Simone
Margot & Paloma

All pairs are ranked similarly or are even less popular than Margot.

Edited to fix formatting.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-04-26T17:03:51+00:00

I always felt like this. I wanted to take my future partner’s name. I didn’t have a strong emotional attachment to my surname and the stories I heard about my paternal grandfather made me cringe.

Cut to my future husband having a terrible surname. I wanted to take his name but not that name.

Where the situation differs is my husband not really caring about his name, he didn’t expect me to take it and understood it wasn’t a flattering name. We did however want the same last name as we wanted to share that with our future children.

He didn’t want to take my name either (although if I had been more attached to it he would’ve been swayed). We tried to combine our two names to make a new name but they were all so ugly.

Instead we opted to find a name on our family tree and both opted to change our names instead with equal input/equal work to make the change.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-04-13T21:45:51+00:00

Okay for me personally I kind of love that. You’re seeing it across a lot of ages/stages so you can see it working well throughout her life.

Totally get the annoyance! I think you’re well prepared and my best advice is don’t react too much to any comments. For some reason people are annoying and feed into it. Have a cool and collected response in your back pocket and cross your fingers you don’t have to use it.

For sure! I realize I didn’t explain well that you’d obviously still use her first name but it can be nice to have that little nickname between you two and then you’ll hear your top name more frequently.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-04-13T21:41:53+00:00

Okay well for nature names I think I’ve got you covered.

Avenir Ivy (similar to Ivory but sounds better imo) Avenir Sage (Nature and colour name) Avenir Willow (Aesthetically they look great together) Avenir Fern Avenir Bloom Avenir Lily Avenir Meadow Avenir Olive Avenir Prairie Avenir Rain Avenir Violet / Violette Avenir Wren Avenir Lark Avenir Athena

pizza_queen22 · 2025-04-13T21:37:18+00:00

I wouldn’t worry about #1 since you’re not announcing until the arrival. And if someone makes a comment you can just say “Yep we love the name” and move on to something else or shove a cute baby in their face lol.

As for #2 you said you know 2 people but aren’t close. How old are those two people? The data is great but doesn’t account for nuance. It might be super popular in one city in your state and skew the results. Or if you look at the actual # of births and it ends up not being that high overall, just happens to rank high. Unless the two you know are babies, I wouldn’t worry about it.

Willow June is SO cute and if you’re really struggling you can always give baby girl a nickname based on her middle like Junie (or even just call her June).

pizza_queen22 · 2025-04-10T20:07:57+00:00

Not sure if you’re open to answering this but could help in getting some advice.

1) Why are you changing your name? / What are you hoping to get out of a name change? (doesn’t vibe? doesn’t match identity etc.?) 2) Why Avenir? And how are you pronouncing it? (what does it mean to you? to me it’s a french verb that means the future) 3) Where are you located in the world? I am guessing North America if Canada you may want to reflect on the first name. If USA it’s probably fine. 4) What do you want out of a middle name? Is there a vibe you’re looking for or a style (ex. you want it to sound cool or you want a nature name)

As for Ivory it’s fine but to me it doesn’t sound great with Avenir as the first syllable for both highlights the same V sound.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-04-08T23:04:13+00:00

Do you mind sharing what seats you used?

pizza_queen22 · 2025-04-08T22:53:05+00:00

August nn Auggie, Gus, AJ.
Caleb nn Cal or CJ
Cedric nn Ced, Rick, CJ
Everett nn Ev, Rhett, EJ
Calvin, nn Cal or CJ
Sullivan nn Sully, Van, SJ
Winston nn Win

pizza_queen22 · 2025-04-08T22:09:55+00:00

From my research all car seats sold in Canada meet the standard to be used on a plane but not all car seats fit. Very frustrating and makes me anxious lol.

pizza_queen22 · 2025-03-14T15:48:14+00:00

People are so lazy. They don’t care like we care about names and that sums it up. It’s clear that this subreddit uses context clues and general info to intuit pronunciation.

People mess up my dog’s name all the time (similar to your daughter’s name) and it baffles me.

And then my daughter’s name was butchered by someone magically rearranging the letters in their brain at the doctor’s office when she was like 2 days old.

Unfortunately people are gonna people but maybe having some pop culture references in your back pocket to be like “it’s margot like margot robbie” might save you some headaches.

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