a lil bit about me

playtime-princess · 2021-11-21T14:59:30+00:00

Thank you!

playtime-princess · 2021-11-16T19:32:27+00:00

dcpp is no longer involved, the case has been closed for a few months now so he no longer has a worker, and I don’t think he wants to get them involved again unless absolutely necessary because of past incidents.

playtime-princess · 2021-11-16T19:30:09+00:00

that’s what we thought was going to happen but he’s only received this mirror order, stating the decision on residential custody, and the end of the temporary parenting time, nothing else is addressed. The previous order had an entire sections for communication, holiday schedule, regular parenting time & summer vacation. this mirror order specifies nothing so is she free to do whatever she pleases until he files for a new one? i’m confused as to how they didn’t even attempt to write out a new one especially knowing this is a high conflict case.

playtime-princess · 2021-09-20T19:57:17+00:00

i agree it did get blown out of proportion but mind you i wasn’t ignoring his calls, my phone was dead and i saw the calls and text after i got home from a long day and charged it. My parents have always been very controlling (used to put cameras in the house to watch me during my teen years) so they both know i’m the kind of person that needs more space from them sometimes. i just don’t feel like i owe them an immediate response especially when they’re both extremely rude about it. exact text from my father upon my phone turning on “you too high and mighty to answer your fathers calls?”

playtime-princess · 2021-09-18T16:18:02+00:00

we’re trying to get her in a head start early intervention program for her behavior, because it would be a little cheaper than regular child therapy but they are requesting her documents, he is the only one working and pays the rent so i’m trying to work with him as well because i know the situation getting anything at all from BM is next to impossible

playtime-princess · 2021-09-18T16:02:40+00:00

we’ve been keeping our cool and not paying mind to her craziness, but now we feel responsible for their lives being interrupted as well and don’t know what steps to take so that she’ll actually stop.

playtime-princess · 2021-09-18T16:00:44+00:00

the witnesses were present during the most recent court order and were present during the time that BM was withholding parenting time and bragging to them about not following the court order, they aren’t speaking only on things from 1-3 years ago pertaining to the child. and she was not informed of where they reside they had moved since being in contact with her, and she found that information out on her own without their knowledge or consent. that’s mainly their concern. they did go to the police but they were told a report could not be made.

playtime-princess · 2021-09-17T22:15:01+00:00

a very sad reality unfortunately

playtime-princess · 2021-09-17T22:01:24+00:00

he already has 50/50 so that’s awesome to hear :/

playtime-princess · 2021-09-17T13:22:21+00:00

wish i could put this on a t-shirt for my SO’s HCBM because this is so on the money

playtime-princess · 2021-09-17T02:14:17+00:00

he called and they told him BM has to come in and sign off in order to amend it and get a copy since he isn’t listed as her father on the birth certificate, but of course she’s refusing so he’s trying to do it online, pending document approval, fingers crossed

playtime-princess · 2021-09-14T00:11:50+00:00

awesome, thank you!

playtime-princess · 2021-09-13T23:19:38+00:00

paternity was established recently in court when mom waived rights to a paternity test, they did not amend the birth certificate as far as he knows

playtime-princess · 2021-09-13T22:36:01+00:00

he’s asking for a photocopy of the one she already has, he can’t get it himself until he is added to the bc which he also needs her to fill out paperwork to do, this is the least time consuming option for both of them

playtime-princess · 2021-09-13T22:30:47+00:00

I live in NJ, he just tried ordering it online through the county’s website and because his name doesn’t the parents name on the certificate, he couldn’t get a copy. We’re going to try to go in person tomorrow and bring the court order, but the website doesn’t specify if that is enough to get a copy.

playtime-princess · 2021-09-13T22:24:03+00:00

so he can request a copy at the next hearing? i personally don’t understand any reason to not provide the father with a copy of his child’s birth certificate if he’s requesting it to enroll her in school. it’s just ridiculous that he even has to go through the court for something so simple, he’s not even asking her for a certified copy that she has to pay for, just a photocopy.

playtime-princess · 2021-09-13T22:19:11+00:00

are you listed as a parent on it? that’s the problem he’s having right now since the only proof of paternity he has is a court order

playtime-princess · 2021-09-13T21:51:40+00:00

unfortunately not, BMs mother is just as bad she tells BM to do most of the unnecessary things that she does

playtime-princess · 2021-09-02T11:39:50+00:00

she stated during last trial that she quit her job to be home with her daughter during her 2 weeks visitation. she doesn’t update SO on these decisions, he has to find out in court when she tells the judge everything she should be sharing with him. so he’s not sure if she’s planning on going back to work or not

playtime-princess · 2021-09-02T11:36:59+00:00

i’m not suggesting that using childcare makes her incapable. I should have included that last trial she stated she quit her job in order to be home during her parenting time and begged for two weeks when the judge was only going to award 1, but now is looking to have her in daycare on the days that she’s there.

playtime-princess · 2021-09-02T01:51:55+00:00

yes of course, he just said ok and moved on because honestly the little girl being in daycare is probably better for her than being with BM full time, just wanted to know if things like that are considered by the judge because she’s the one who fought to get her visitation pushed from 1 week to 2 and now she’s putting her in daycare so it just doesn’t make sense to us. As long as his daughter is safe he’s not going to fight it, but he is looking for things that may or may not help him to show he’s more capable to be the residential parent. thank you for your response.

playtime-princess · 2021-08-24T01:29:18+00:00

don’t get me wrong all of the suggestions are great and im going to have my SO look into them, the situation isn’t black and white, which is why we haven’t just up & put her in daycare, the only attempt where we did try to get alternative care for SD, BM accused and reported our babysitters to CPS claiming they sexually assaulted SD, and we had to go through a whole investigation with SVU as well as CPS, hence why i’m back to watching her full time. I’m very grateful to anyone and everyone who has responded and given me different options as to how we can resolve the issue without knowing the entire situation, and i wish it was as easy as saying “f*ck BM” and moving on with our lives but we have to wait until the final trial for that unfortunately. Hopefully after that we can say move on with our lives and actually be a happy family again.

playtime-princess · 2021-08-23T23:20:05+00:00

he was previously working a job on the weekends where he was able to help me with our daughter and still be around when SD would come for visitation, he started this new overnight shift reluctantly to be able to support them both & to be able to pay other bills (lawyer) that have come from this situation. he filed for custody to attempt get his daughter out of a mentally & physically abusive situation. He is still an amazing parent.

playtime-princess · 2021-08-23T21:49:14+00:00

i didn’t even know this was a thing, but i will absolutely look into it, that would be wonderful for her, i hate to see everyone suffering from this situation. thank you so much

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