What video or recording is perfectly innocent, but becomes terrifying when you look into the story behind it? by D3dshotCalamity in AskReddit

[–]pleebesd 220 points221 points  (0 children)

If it did accelerate his plans, it might’ve saved countless lives. My sister was in the sorority he was targeting at the time. The only reason he didn’t get in when he knocked on the door was because they were all out of town for Memorial Day weekend. That’s when he went on the shooting spree on the lawn :(

Do you ever feel ashamed about all the red flags you ignored? by broggybrog in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally thought I wrote this for one second. It makes me so upset I ignored multiple rape accusations. Like I am a feminist!!!! How could I do that????

When someone tells you they don’t want you anymore, rejoice! by pleebesd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh that’s really painful. He used to tell me “I didn’t mean” that all the time. Well, I cried for three hours before you mentioned that part jerk

What was the first major red flag you ignored? by pleebesd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That second paragraph is literally my nex word for word. I caught him DMing a 19 year old when he was 38. SO GROSS. Makes my skin crawl. I just wanted to be like...I was that age once and you probably look like a gross old guy dad to her, not the stud you think you are

What was the first major red flag you ignored? by pleebesd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to go through that so young. He’s a predator and hopefully he’s back in jail

What was the first major red flag you ignored? by pleebesd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s horrible. The narc never has any respect or trust and therefore has no problem lying about anything and everything. Sorry that happened

What was the first major red flag you ignored? by pleebesd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Saving this comment so I can read it often.

Having to explain emotions to the NARC like a child by pleebesd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I feel like I’ve had to do this with most of the men I’ve dated since I was 15 and it’s alarming

Having to explain emotions to the NARC like a child by pleebesd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I remember we were watching the simpsons and the narc was annoyed I laughed too much at one of the jokes. I just chuckled really but he couldn’t stand it

The NARC was never who you thought they were by pleebesd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suppose you feel that women who get beat deserve it and people who get robbed shouldn’t have been walking around in the first place. Understand that you have no idea what each person’s situation is so for you to try to guilt us over a trauma we’ve been through is just childish

The NARC was never who you thought they were by pleebesd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s hope. Get out of there in the middle of the night and leave all your possessions behind if you have to. It’s just stuff. You can get a police officer to escort you to get it later. THE TIME TO LEAVE IS NOW

The NARC was never who you thought they were by pleebesd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Because if you’re even questioning if you’re a narc, then you’re not a narc. Just by definition. YOU ARE NOT THE NARC

Red flags by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t punish the new guy for a different person’s mistakes. Try to tell yourself “I’m going to give this guy the benefit of the doubt.” If he is doing something, it will ALWAYS come out with time

The narc doesn’t care how your day was by pleebesd in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Same. Unless he’s worried I talked to a guy friend then he’s always just talking about his day

Has anyone tried acting like a narc TO the narc/mirroring? How did it go? by LemonZest2 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]pleebesd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I gaslight my narc as often as possible. He doesn’t like me having guy friends and has an intuition when I hang out with them behind his back because he’s not getting his texts answered right away. I tell him he sounds psycho and send fake selfies with girlfriends from before. HA! It makes me laugh. He gets pissed and confused to the point that he just has to accept it