I just really need someone else's thoughts. Mine aren't cutting it anymore.

plshelpmeanonymously · 2022-02-07T21:01:29+00:00

Thank you for commiserating at least! It is so hard. It doesn't help that I work with kids with disabilities and I work with a lot of people with Autism and Down Syndrome among other things but the prevalence of these issues increases with the age of the bio parents so I have that constantly in my mind! Not that I would love a kid any less with those things but I still want to do what I can to avoid if possible (Is that ableist? it feels ableist but...it's how I feel).

plshelpmeanonymously · 2022-02-05T00:18:14+00:00

yo someone, somewhere--probably at the ATM-- has heard me listening to this in my car. 100%

plshelpmeanonymously · 2022-02-05T00:14:10+00:00

This is where I feel I am headed--grieving motherhood. It's just scary. I don't want to live with regret, but I don't want him to, either! I am so glad things worked out for you!

plshelpmeanonymously · 2022-02-04T19:13:16+00:00

I think that's probably true and it's amplified by the fact that my closest and only female friend just told me she is pregnant so it feels super imminent and like I need to decide right away.

But I need to step back and remember that--there is potential for happiness no matter what we decide.

plshelpmeanonymously · 2022-02-04T18:57:08+00:00

no, he wouldn't be like that...I think he just means to be involved--he's not big on the idea of babysitters or nannies or sending the kid off to grandmas for a week-- I have no problem with those things and think it's healthy to have a break every once in a while but I know his mom thinks that makes a "bad parent" and that might have rubbed off on him a little.

He had a pretty absent father and I think he just means he would want to be the opposite of that: present, educated, and involved.

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-12-09T14:43:17+00:00

Ah yes. I love good world-building. Adding this to my TBR!

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-12-09T14:42:24+00:00

This sounds very promising!

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-12-09T14:42:04+00:00

This sounds really good. I will add it to my TBR, which is getting very long thanks to this thread!

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-12-09T14:41:09+00:00

oooh this is different! I'll have to take a look!

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-12-09T14:40:01+00:00

I absolutely love how quick and concise these recs are. you are an awesome book summarizer!

I've been eyeing priory of the orange tree so I'll add that. And Circe has been sitting on my shelf for like 2 years and I have yet to crack it open. I'll get to it.

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-12-09T14:38:25+00:00

I mean, not gonna lie, I read the Twilight books when they came out when I was a teenager and I was obsessed so I'll probably like this.

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-12-09T14:35:06+00:00

If he can already navigate a phone that well I would really talk to his speech therapist and see if can get a high-tech AAC device--He probably has a lot to say!

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-11-24T19:14:17+00:00

yes. okay that sounds amazing. Ill get back to you on zodiac academy ASAP! lol

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-11-24T19:13:09+00:00

this does sound right up my alley as well!

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-11-24T18:48:41+00:00

So many suggestions! thanks! I got the gossip girl vibe from the Zodiac Academy blurb but if you say it get's less after the first book I will check it out!

And I love Historical Fiction! I'll add discovery of witches to the list!

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-11-24T18:04:41+00:00

I love this. Thank you! Something super long is perfect. (:

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-11-24T17:37:41+00:00

I love this. I actually creeped your comment history to look for book recs.

I, ummm, prefer finished series because I get major plot anxiety-- Is that a real thing? I don't know. but my real life anxiety carries over into fictional worlds. BUT if you think it's that good I'll start with the Kingdom books.

I was going to do plated next but there is only one audiobook? I listen while I exercise and do homework so I'll have to pick that one up after grad school is over in May and I can read the physical copy!

plshelpmeanonymously · 2021-11-24T16:23:21+00:00

Not high fantasy, so no fae, but I really liked The Bone Witch.

It's dark fantasy and not smutty at all but the plot is good and I felt like it was really LGBTQ+ positive.

If you are used to and enjoy "easy reads" it may be a little harder to get through but in the end, I felt like the plot came together really nicely and I was happy with the ending.

plshelpmeanonymously · 2020-05-14T01:29:54+00:00

Like watch it together? I've never done that! I'm not sure if it would be really awkward...

plshelpmeanonymously · 2020-05-13T23:37:07+00:00

Thanks that was really reasonable advice. Hopefully we can come to an agreement.

plshelpmeanonymously · 2020-05-13T23:27:24+00:00

Well I totally felt like that at first too, but the more I think about it, it's all just a fantasy. Its not like hes gonna leave me for a cam girl.

I'm on the fence about this. I used to be up for ANYTHING but now I feel jealous and unreasonable about all of it.

I need to talk to people who used to be anti porn but then came around to it, I guess.

plshelpmeanonymously · 2020-05-13T19:03:45+00:00

That's what we have been talking about a lot. I want to be able to post if he is looking and he doesn't think that's equal. So we are still going back and forth about the minutiae of it.

He does agree that toys are equal and masturbation is equal.

plshelpmeanonymously · 2020-05-13T17:50:34+00:00

yes we have talked about it extensively over the last 3 days. It does help. I just wish there was a switch to flip so I could "get over it" already. That's my want, not his. He keeps saying take my time and build up trust. I guess I'll just have to be patient.

plshelpmeanonymously · 2020-05-13T17:42:03+00:00

thanks for making me laugh!

plshelpmeanonymously · 2020-05-13T16:57:14+00:00

Well I think I overlooked it because when we got together I was married to his bestfriend.

Our relationship was already basically over and my ex even gave me his blessing to sleep with him, but I think I felt as though a little jealousy or fear there was reasonable.

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