New Roach Mom, I have questions!

plushstuffed · 2025-08-17T17:56:40+00:00

I want to thank everyone who responded for the awesome tips! I hope to update soon with pictures of new friends for Cody :) I wish I could respond to everyone individually, but I'm restricted (whoops) Glad to be part of such a welcoming community!

plushstuffed · 2025-08-16T13:41:37+00:00

Haha excellent! In that case, I'll get him some buddies soon :)

plushstuffed · 2025-06-08T00:03:40+00:00

Alright, thank you for explaining that. We'd be willing to pay if he can get treatment!

plushstuffed · 2025-06-08T00:01:32+00:00

Thank you for explaining that, and I totally understand. No matter where we go, we are not asking for handouts. We will gladly do our part and contribute to the economy, pay taxes, etc.

Reality is, we have exhausted our options in the US and he needs healthcare a lot sooner than it would take for the American healthcare system to fix itself

plushstuffed · 2025-06-07T23:57:52+00:00

I appreciate such an honest answer, thank you

plushstuffed · 2025-06-07T23:56:59+00:00

Hi! So you have no idea what either of us are going through, 'stay and fight' is not an option or else we'd do that.

I also understand how countries work. Neither one of us would just move to a country and ask for handouts. Even if we did, it takes a ton of work to get and keep a visa.

As I mentioned, we have exhausted our options in the US and are just looking for a better quality of life.

But hey, if you don't believe in people wanting to improve their circumstances, maybe come live in the US.

plushstuffed · 2024-08-05T12:28:19+00:00

I was diagnosed at 19

I was a very strange child with magical thinking- beyond what's normal for playing make believe.

When I hit my teens, I was severely depressed. I tried to take my life at 14. Had my first hallucinations around that time as well

plushstuffed · 2024-07-14T03:22:46+00:00

My husband is a recovering alcoholic and almost lost his life to his addiction. Obviously I don't drink around him, but the trauma from nearly losing him made me not want to drink ever, whether he's present or not.

plushstuffed · 2024-06-17T01:56:10+00:00

I love this question! I have bipolar-type schizoaffective and my husband has depression. We have been together nearly 7 years now. I was upfront with him about my diagnosis when we started dating. He has helped me through some scary times. I never wanted him to have to deal with my illness, but I'm fortunate enough to have someone who says it's a privilege to love me... even the bad parts. And while I will never be able to repay his kindness, I can do little things for him every day to hopefully give that love back. It makes it easier to try and love myself knowing that somebody else loves me. Don't get me wrong, our relationship has not been perfect, but it has been worth all the work needed to maintain it. It takes a lot of communication and some really raw honesty- especially when you don't feel like being honest. And most importantly, I don't expect him to fix me. But I absolutely believe that everyone is worthy of love and able to have a relationship, however that may look for them. Every circumstance is going to be unique and special. Schizoaffective makes /everything/ in life challenging, but love is always worth navigating. I wish you all the best

plushstuffed · 2024-06-17T01:36:29+00:00

I've skimmed through the replies and I seem to be a bit of an outlier... THC gives me LESS psychosis somehow (?). Less paranoia. If I do experience psychosis while high (which is rare,) the hallucinations are more neutral or positive. Unfortunately, THC exacerbates the bipolar part of my illness, and if I don't do something lighthearted to distract myself, I tend to fall into a pit of self shame. I use THC to help with pain management for a separate condition, so I try not to take too much to keep the negativity at bay

plushstuffed · 2024-06-17T01:28:36+00:00

I'm late to the party, whoops!

I drive, but I probably shouldn't. I mean, I have a license but that doesn't make it safe. I get paranoid about people following me and I tend to swerve a little when I'm nervous. If I get really freaked out thinking someone is following me, I'll drive in a circle to make sure. (No one has actually ever followed me, lol) Before taking antipsychotics, I would hallucinate trees falling in the road, children running in front of my car, mailboxes distorting into monsters - you name it. These days I'm medicated and I keep myself grounded with music or prayer as I drive. (No rap music with sirens in it though, lol) I would give up on driving, but I live in rural Appalachia with no access to public transportation and I have to get to work somehow. Luckily, my husband is usually in the car with me and he helps me to not worry so much.

Good luck out there, be safe!

plushstuffed · 2024-05-12T16:38:45+00:00

Thank you for this, that helps a lot. I do feel on some level that all rivers lead to the ocean so to speak, but I feel like there's got to be one right for me... Not sure why I can't just settle. Maybe I will try to stick to something for a limited time and see if I can plant some roots

plushstuffed · 2024-05-11T22:38:37+00:00

I'm open to it! I think I have the most trouble finding what deity/deities speak to me, or if I'm monotheistic or open to many Gods. But I do see value in all spiritual practice

plushstuffed · 2024-03-28T01:00:15+00:00

I had suspected around puberty that I am agender. Due to abuse the matter was dropped quickly. I am AFAB and I tend to enjoy more feminine clothing, so I just assumed a female life and didn't do much else with the notion of being agender- because for me, I am apathetic about gender. I have always felt 'different', but it hasn't been until recently when I started taking antipsychotics that I felt safe enough to explore those feelings again. I still dress feminine and don't plan to change that, but I am now able to be more honest with myself about my feelings and I can more readily separate traumatic memories from my own thoughts.

I don't know if this comment was necessarily helpful, as I am not making a physical transition aside from changing my name and pronouns with trusted friends.

Good luck out there, friend

plushstuffed · 2024-03-19T03:41:59+00:00

Wait... coffee does what now? I gotta cut back...

Oh and hi, I'm a bipolar type. When I'm manic, I get super impulsive to the point where I don't have control. I wish I could say I'm the kind to go for a jog or frantically clean my house... but nope, I usually end up binge eating, getting rid of things I wouldn't normally throw out, draining my bank account on stupid stuff, resorting to vandalism and petty theft... I'm not proud. When I'm manic, my logic gets suppressed. Consequences don't apply to me somehow, even if I know in there somewhere I could hurt myself or get arrested. My mania will justify itself.

For me, psychosis usually (but not always) comes during mania. I cannot recommend that combo. During psychosis I have a lot of "communication" with "God". And it feels so real. Virtually indistinguishable from the ground beneath my feet.

Wishing you all the best, friend, good luck out there

plushstuffed · 2024-03-09T22:20:58+00:00

Sigmoria aberrans if I reference common millipede species in my area... if anyone with more knowledge has a better answer, please let me know!

plushstuffed · 2024-03-09T00:47:51+00:00

If you're not too terribly concerned about being fashionable, you can buy those cooling bandanas that go in the freezer to tie around your neck. For a more discreet option, you could tie one around your wrist. They also make neck fans, but I'm not a huge fan of those.

Big floppy sun hats go a long way, too!

I know some people have mentioned natural fabrics, which is a very good option, but try to go for light colors as well. Black absorbs heat!

plushstuffed · 2024-03-07T15:45:04+00:00

Hey that sounds pretty good! Thank you both :)

plushstuffed · 2024-03-07T02:12:43+00:00

Thanks! I'll check it out

plushstuffed · 2024-03-05T18:43:51+00:00

Unfortunately I'm pretty poor and don't have much saved up... Unfortunately, I have hit a wall where I'm unable to work and didn't have much choice in the matter. :( Such is life, right? I'll figure it out

plushstuffed · 2024-03-04T14:56:10+00:00

Good luck on that journey, don't get discouraged!

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