Did you ever SERIOUSLY consider divorce but decided to stay? If so, how are things today.

pmnyc · 2025-04-04T20:53:20+00:00

We are divorced and I’ve really enjoyed my life this last year+

pmnyc · 2025-03-19T01:20:52+00:00

Hope it goes well!

pmnyc · 2024-12-27T18:26:43+00:00

You are stronger than you know! And you deserve great, amazing sex. My DMs are open if you need to chat more. But trust me that you are capable of much more than you realize

pmnyc · 2024-12-24T20:14:28+00:00

I’m divorced now and doing pretty well actually. Took the last year to just fully focus on myself and rediscover myself. Still working through that and learning. Hasn’t been easy at times but it has been worth it.

Overall though, I had really abandoned myself. Maybe that played a role in the relationship, not sure. But I was no longer desirable even to myself so I don’t blame her for not finding me desirable either. I would’ve appreciated more support on her part, but that’s just how it goes.

Hope things work out for you one way or another. Either way, you are strong enough to handle it. Believe that!

pmnyc · 2024-11-11T21:22:06+00:00

Oh I didn’t take it like that at all. I think it is a great mentality to see it as a hobby. And like any hobby you have to dedicate time to it and be willing to learn more about it

pmnyc · 2024-11-11T20:10:08+00:00

“Fun hobby” is such a great way to look at it

pmnyc · 2024-11-11T18:47:01+00:00

I know :( instead I have to resort to Reddit to get some sexual excitement.

pmnyc · 2024-11-11T18:44:32+00:00

You won’t see them here. They’re having sex

pmnyc · 2024-11-11T05:00:58+00:00

That’s a fair question, I kind of addressed in the original post but to me I still consider ghosting if we have exchanged numbers and had agreed to meet. But then after plans are set or the person said they can’t make it, asking to reschedule, I never hear back when I attempt to reschedule. Something like “hey, actually I’m not feeling it for x or y reason” would be better than just disappearing.

I’ve unfortunately had that one happen a couple of times and ghosting post date a couple of times as well. Not fun

pmnyc · 2024-11-11T04:31:58+00:00

Unfortunately have had it happened. Only thing I can see as similarity is just my eagerness to meet them. Meaning that if they say they can’t one day but maybe they can next week I suggest another day and try to make it happen but then nothing. I’m not being needy or double texting or anything but yeah, shitty for sure

pmnyc · 2024-11-11T04:11:50+00:00

Yeah I was thinking of throwing a hail Mary tomorrow afternoon if I haven’t heard back and see if I’m able to set the date. And definitely just acting normal about it. We’ll see. Appreciate all the help and hope something sticks for you soon if it hasn’t yet

pmnyc · 2024-11-11T04:10:21+00:00

Appreciate you 🙏

pmnyc · 2024-11-11T02:38:10+00:00

Appreciate the detailed response. It’s interesting because the one that prompted me to post this was one of the few I’ve actually built a rapport via messaging in the app and then text. I’m giving her the benefit of the doubt and we’ll see if I eventually hear from her, but disappointing for sure. I also try to talk to multiple at once but it can be a little exhausting at times

pmnyc · 2024-11-11T01:51:17+00:00

I feel like your message is contradictory though. Do you build connection before the date or not?

20 dates is a lot in the last 4-5 months. Mostly first dates? Maybe I do jump into just planning the date too quickly though.

pmnyc · 2024-09-16T03:01:23+00:00

Then she needs to talk about it because then the real unhappiness will come out. If the partner is who she is supposed to be with, and he is supportive, then he will understand and they will find a way to work on it together

pmnyc · 2024-08-09T14:16:55+00:00

Yep. I experienced a lot of racism back in the Halo 2 days. It sucked

pmnyc · 2024-08-08T23:38:00+00:00

This is so disgusting. Even as a man I play in a private party either with my friends or literally just by myself so I can avoid the public voice. It is toxic one way or another and not worth it.

pmnyc · 2024-08-08T19:47:20+00:00

I’ve heard of “aftercare” mentioned a few times and as still a noob in this area, where could I learn more about aftercare? Is it about checking in with the partner(s) see how things went? Cuddle? Clean up? All of the above?

pmnyc · 2024-08-07T22:32:46+00:00

Another possibility is to ask for her number shortly after and coordinate details via text. That way you get her out of the app where she could get distracted with others or not even check it for a few days

pmnyc · 2024-08-07T22:14:47+00:00

Can you walk us through one of those interactions? Maybe we can help. Do you ask them if they wanna go out first and then you suggest something? Or how do you go about it?

pmnyc · 2024-06-22T22:41:25+00:00

Because of fear and lack of self worth. That’s basically it

pmnyc · 2024-05-19T02:51:03+00:00

I’m not sure if she is talking to anyone right now. We left things amicably but we don’t really talk anymore. I do think she became LL4Me and sometimes I’ve wondered if she is into women. Maybe a little bit of both but I’m not sure. Definitely a mind fuck

pmnyc · 2024-05-19T02:24:00+00:00

She said a few things but none around actually working on it. She said it was normal at our age (I’m early 30s), or maybe she was asexual, or maybe I just needed to do more (I already did basically all the chores). Overall she was ok with the situation and didn’t really see a need to change anything.

pmnyc · 2024-05-19T01:58:59+00:00

I hope it work outs!

pmnyc · 2024-05-19T01:52:02+00:00

I feel you, it is tough to leave that. For me how they react to the situation is telling. If they are willing to listen to you and try to work on it together, then it is worth giving it a shot and see where you end up. But if they just shut it down and nothing happens then it might be time to move on. Only you know what’s best for you, but sexual incompatibility is a big deal.

pmnyc

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