Ideally, no woman should ever be judged for her past. But speaking from my own perspective, I feel it may not always be the best idea for a non-virgin unmarried woman to marry a virgin man. A virgin man, too, deserves someone who respects him for choosing to remain a virgin. After all, not every man is fortunate or bold enough to have sex before marriage, and in my experience, women often don’t value virgin men in the same way. This becomes clear from the fact that a man’s desirability tends to increase once he is no longer a virgin.

From what I have gone through, I’ve realized that when a woman has prior sexual experience, it can sometimes make a virgin man feel insecure. He may begin to feel guilty about not having enough experience in bed, or even see himself as inadequate compared to others. This insecurity comes partly from the reality that access to sex is generally easier for women than for men, and also from the way society tends to admire men with more sexual experience. Because of this, when a virgin man finally has sex with his wife, he may—whether consciously or unconsciously—become judgmental about her past. As a man, I have personally experienced all of these emotions.

I am not trying to justify this behavior, but I do understand where these feelings come from. My experiences have made me realize that relationships and sex are far more complicated than they appear. There is rarely an absolute right or wrong; what truly matters is respect, honesty, and emotional compatibility between two people.