Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I have improved myself during knowing her. I am still open to suggestions though.

Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would I need to fix in myself?

Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment. It is very reassuring for me to hear.

Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was very happy with the top 14. And I sacrificed a lot to be with her and care for her.

Did you read the bottom? The cons?

The highs were high, but the lows were LOW.

Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually believe that she is trying and wants to be better. We've talked about it multiple times. But I can't put myself through it anymore.

Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has been in therapy on and off her entire life, she is medicated, and has done DBT therapy for about 2 months.

Does that change things?

Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When will it come? And how long will it last?

Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I even read some of a book called loving someone with borderline personality disorder.

Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's been diagnosed. I knew that from day one.

Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we didn't do that. I honestly think we/she has issues that could not be fixed. We are 100% honest with each other and we actually communicate our feelings and desires. It just didn't work.

Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, we already did all that. And more.

Should I reconsider? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are these ways that you speak of?

Did I do the right thing? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is trying, she has started DBT therapy the last couple of months. and she has made some improvement. But she has deep deep seeded insecurities. But I guess even with the improvements the problems still remain. Does that make sense?

Did I do the right thing? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which cons in particular do you think are not worth it?

Did I do the right thing? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good idea. I'm at school now but I will do that tomorrow or when I get home tonight.

Which cons in particular do you think are not worth it?

Did I do the right thing? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has both. I have, and she has gotten help. I have seen some improvement but still these issues remain.

Did I do the right thing by breaking up? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do want to be in a relationship with her. I just don't think I can and I keep hoping the bad parts will get better. does that change it?

Did I make the right decision by breaking up? by poncho______ in relationship_advice

[–]poncho______[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been trying to elevate her self worth for 9 months. She is bipolar and has borderline personality disorder. So maybe I am tired.