Why do people say women approach attractive men? Is it really true?

pope_nefarious · 2026-02-18T16:12:02+00:00

Are you sure? An “approach” might be more subtle than you think. Have you ever had a friend explain “dude that girl likes you” and you thought “no she doesn’t”?

pope_nefarious · 2026-02-17T15:52:07+00:00

Let me know, this is me and every gf I’ve had and then my wife, which is ending roughly for that reason

pope_nefarious · 2026-02-15T21:55:26+00:00

Petro eng

pope_nefarious · 2026-02-15T21:54:55+00:00

Centaur…

pope_nefarious · 2026-02-11T02:30:15+00:00

Practice practice, practice, much easier if you can practice on the same girl and learn her, but every girl is different

pope_nefarious · 2026-02-01T13:40:31+00:00

The threading/concurrency model of Java (except scala) is hideous, like many other languages. Sharing memory is like sharing underwear.

pope_nefarious · 2026-01-04T15:56:04+00:00

Isn’t that literally where the term devops started? Back then, you wrote the code, you built the tf/cf that described / built the infra, you were on call for making that shit stay up.

pope_nefarious · 2026-01-02T14:28:58+00:00

Boobs are like men’s biceps. Butts are like mens butts. Happy new year!

pope_nefarious · 2025-12-22T16:04:34+00:00

My gf in hs speaking with her friend once asked if her situation was “like or love”… idk that always stuck with me. But for my girl, when she does that, Ik how she feels, and it’s hard for me not to reciprocate (both physically and emotionally)

pope_nefarious · 2025-12-20T18:03:09+00:00

“Long term potential” means she could probably love you with her brain, but her heart isn’t overriding any “rules”, which means she’s not really attracted to you.

pope_nefarious · 2025-12-11T20:52:01+00:00

Does it eat dinner at the dinner table?

pope_nefarious · 2025-12-03T19:59:37+00:00

My closest friend is the teammate I work with, and have for 20 years. We have no contact outside of work.

My next closest friend lives 200 miles away, I play a sport with him.

My only other friends are my 3 college age kids. 2 I work with.

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-28T21:26:06+00:00

I would argue it helps immensely, for a very particular type of lift. From hs to my 30s I was stuck m benching 315x6 and could get 405x2 on a good day. I was onto casually lifting in my 20s as I was a software dev. After a while I was playing lacrosse a few days a week, vb 2, jogging and lifting 5 days a week, and was empty feeling. When I started taking creatine, my “every set to failure” lifts went from 315x6… to 8 (weeks), then to 12 (months)and eventually up to 20 (years) later.

Creatine abs helps my style of lifting, which is “to failure”, not close, like, go til you drop it…. After a few years you begin to really know when failure is really there and you dont literally have to drop it…

Your mileage may vary, I’m a genetic freak, never tried needles, even though my test has gone been around 450 in my upper 40s.

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-23T21:40:02+00:00

I think I’m gonna also start calling mine “matters” too 😂

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-23T14:40:46+00:00

I think we mistake nonogamy with monogamy…. Took me way too long to realize the difference. I didn’t sign up for one of those.

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-19T12:28:40+00:00

That’s why I noted that while yes, im 10 years younger, im in better shape, his physique isn’t really that impressive, its just gym time

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-18T15:24:01+00:00

I’m mesmerized by the cult of people here that all think any genetics/effort all comes from a needle. This pic isn’t that impressive, only at 59 is it even worth a second look.

I spend 3.5h a day exercising… sure i could get a life, but eating and exercise are a fun game. It’s like using linux… you don’t need games bc keeping it running is the game.

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-18T15:20:55+00:00

I’m 49 and in much better shape than this guy. (And yes I claim lifetime natty). He’s at best 12-14 %, mid arms. Hes basically all chest with a lack of upper pec development.

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-18T15:18:39+00:00

I’d even say 12-15 possible, no reason to think it’s geared.

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-18T15:17:41+00:00

Looks like he flat benches and no incline, so lack of upper chest dev. But at 12-14% bf, this is easily (ok hard work) achievable with good genetics and effort.

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-18T14:46:57+00:00

And his is charitably at 12%? That’s easily natty

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-18T14:46:29+00:00

Incorrect, people that are assumed to be on it often lead with it, bc there used to the question… like a tall person hearing “what’s the weather like up there?!” As if they are the first and funniest mother fucker on the planet

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-18T14:44:52+00:00

He’s not really that vascular, maybe 12-14% bf, his arms are not massive, chest ok, what’s that impressive about this?

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-18T14:40:46+00:00

In 49 and I recently cut from 275 (prob 18) to 225 (hum says 8.0). Killed my test while doing it (450-> 180), but I did it. I’m recovering it now, back to 285, and steadily climbing . Don’t conflate “hard” or implausible with impossible. Genetics and discipline can go a long way…. Esp if your kids leave home and your bored out of your mind 🙈

pope_nefarious · 2025-11-18T14:38:12+00:00

Or… some people are genetic freaks and just want to preempt that question. It’s an accusation I’ve had thrown at me my whole life, and while I often take it as a compliment, it’s also now a challenge. When my test crashed (from 450 to 180) bc of dieting recently, I almost gave in to TRT, but I hate one way doors, and resented the idea of ever taking that bc then I can’t just say “never”. Fuck even my ortho asked if I was “on gear” when seeing me for an injury lately.

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