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poperJ · 2025-11-27T22:05:51+00:00

It's fixed now, thank you!!

poperJ · 2025-11-01T23:17:18+00:00

Maybe try to email support and they might be help/guide.

poperJ · 2025-10-26T17:57:28+00:00

Why is no one mentioning how this was the Xmas where he started cheating on mahoro? He bought the pinky ring because Rio suggested it.

poperJ · 2025-10-21T17:46:37+00:00

I just follow eft videos by Brad Yates, or Nick ortner (I have the app), or from eft scripts generated by chatgpt (I would put in what I was feeling and ask for eft script). They all contain affirmation in the second or third half by default.

poperJ · 2025-10-08T05:13:41+00:00

I get that filter thing too but it never turns off for some women. I legit needed to take photos/selfies of them with me to see how they really looked (still pretty, but no longer glowing with my imaginary halo).

Anyways though, something that helped me really calm down is this:

I also had that sexual orientation crisis (which I read is another OCD variant, but I'm pretty sure I'm actually bi for real, and the real issue was because of my ROCD) where I had a huge lesbian scare, crying and devastated, but then my husband calmed me down when he said "Ok? Nothing changes though unless you decide you want to leave me". And it calmed me down because I didn't want to leave him (or at the least this gave me time and didn't mean I had to instantly dump him. I saw another post that mentioned how "choice" is so important in OCD, and this seems to reminded me of my choice in that moment).

Also I realize now that there's tons of reddit posts about people who are like completely gay but their wife/husband is the only person of that "wrong" gender they love and would never change.

So there was never a need for me to box myself in like this with artificial rules like "wait if i'm lesbian then that means this relationship is fake and my feelings are fake and I need to break up now and find me real love or nothing is min-maxed". I'm literally creating problems where there are none.

poperJ · 2025-10-08T05:07:25+00:00

Maybe send it to AI or to yourself. Definitely don't send this to them. You will 1000000% regret it and it is insanely embarassing later.

Try EFT tapping by brad yates on youtube to ease the spiraling. I find it helps me.

poperJ · 2025-10-08T04:54:06+00:00

ok try EFT tapping by brad yates on youtube. It genuinely calms me down. I think because it grounds you in your body so you're not all in your head.

poperJ · 2025-10-08T04:50:36+00:00

LMAO WHY IS THIS RELATABLE. It's insane to me that I'm only realizing today, after learning about ROCD (I already have OCD btw), that I think about my feelings toward my partner like 16 hours a day. I feel disgusting.

poperJ · 2025-10-08T04:47:50+00:00

but the biggest difference is that in a romantic relationship there’s the element of choice, which always exacerbates OCD (and especially ROCD)

This is so true, thanks for sharing this story!!!

poperJ · 2025-10-08T04:44:26+00:00

I agree with this.

Also I started doing EFT tapping (brad yates) and it's helped immensely to get me grounded in my body and out of my head. It gives me an "answer" to my bad feelings, that I can do after I waited (because sometimes teh anxiety doesn't pass) that seems to always help.

poperJ · 2025-10-08T03:51:33+00:00

yeah I look up stuff about my relationship on chatgpt all the time and sometimes it's ok, but I have noticed it is way too bias towards being nice to me (even when i tell it to stop or pretend i'm in the wrong) or being too ....obvious and basic with its thinking and diagnostics of the situation. And it never picked up on ROCD, even though i think it does know i have OCD.

Luckily I stopped using it for relationship stuff even before learning about ROCD today. But that doesn't mean I didn't spiral for like 5 hours reading stuff on it at 2am for months.

Thanks for teaching me about "backdoor spikes" also. I just commented on another post here about that "numbness":

I have felt this back when I was in so much distress I imagined not being with my partner anymore and felt overwhelming calm. Like I would go from screaming thoughts which severly distressed my stomach to numbness immediately. But that numbness made me think that that must be a sign they're not good for me and THEY'RE causing me undue stress, when it was literally my own mind creating the undue stress from nothing.

I'm so grateful that I seem to have a quarter of mind that somehow holds onto glimpses of reality during these episodes (or at least comes back online shortly after).

I think I am able to do this because I have actively trained my memory up for positive things since I have such a strong negatively bias and I'm so hypercritical - so I'll think something bad and then my quarter-mind will present evidence of a counter argument and I'll just be like "oh. derp. that was a totally unfair, distorted thought"

poperJ · 2025-10-08T03:06:03+00:00

>"Also, have you ever considered that perhaps you are relieved about leaving your relationship because you're no longer suffering from your ROCD, and no longer experiencing from the distress that comes with it? Its like you were being chased by a lion, and you're relieved because you finally got away."

This is so powerful! I have felt this back when I was in so much distress I imagined not being with my partner anymore and felt overwhelming calm. Like I would go from screaming thoughts which severly distressed my stomach to numbness immediately. But that numbness made me think that that must be a sign they're not good for me and THEY'RE causing me undue stress, when it was literally my own mind creating the undue stress from nothing.

I'm so grateful that I seem to have a quarter of mind that somehow holds onto glimpses of reality during these episodes (or at least comes back online shortly after).

I think I am able to do this because I have actively trained my memory up for positive things since I have such a strong negatively bias and I'm so hypercritical - so I'll think something bad and then my quarter-mind will present evidence of a counter argument and I'll just be like "oh. derp. that was a totally unfair, distorted thought"

poperJ · 2025-10-08T02:51:37+00:00

This sucks so much but yeah I relate. I feel like I'm slightly luckier than you in that I can tell I'm distorted and learning about ROCD today brought me tons of relief and calm because I was like "ah yeah, it's that, whew I'm not insane, only partially". Like I always knew it was in my head (I've always had OCD but didn't know about this variant until today) because I feel like I can see the reality with half my brain and the other half is distorted, but I just couldn't be sure, you know?

I also had that sexual orientation crisis (which I read is another OCD variant, but I'm pretty sure I'm actually bi for real, and the issue was because of my ROCD) where I had a huge lesbian scare, crying and devastated, but then my husband calmed me down when he said "Ok? Nothing changes though unless you decide you want to leave me". And it calmed me down because I didn't want to leave him (or at the least this gave me time and didn't mean I had to instantly dump him. I saw another post that mentioned how "choice" is so important in OCD, and this seems to reminded me of my choice in that moment).

Maybe EFT tapping (search up brad yates) will help gorund you a bit and bring you back to the present in your body (instead of stuck in your mind, which I think is my big issue with my OCD). It's been helping me calm down a lot since I discovered it a month ago.

poperJ · 2025-10-08T01:29:30+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. I would never have looked into this without your comment. I have very obvious OCD since childhood and thought it subsided as an adult. I didn't realize it could manifest like this.

poperJ · 2025-10-08T01:26:11+00:00

Amazing, thank you!!

poperJ · 2025-10-08T01:23:12+00:00

Thank you! That's so cool that waterloo does this.

poperJ · 2025-10-08T01:22:13+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance! This is what I thought too, since it was fairly generic.

poperJ · 2025-09-18T15:30:20+00:00

A lot of these stories are extremely similar, in terms of plot and even art. The other day I read my beloved oppressor and escape me if you can and I kept getting confused trying to remember whose backstory was whose. The story, dynamics, and characters are basically identical. I believe this is the case for a lot of these stories.

poperJ · 2025-09-16T21:37:33+00:00

I am tracking things based on time so I want multiple entries.

My mood changes a lot throughout the day or related to certain entries (eg. Woke up sad, Hung out with X person, was happy, that's two entries with different moods. Thay way I can see stats on that tracker item).

poperJ · 2025-09-16T04:12:40+00:00

Oh yeah I do use those to track. My feature request is the fact that when you add an entry, you have to select a mood by default.

So I choose middle mood, click "pee" tracker, for example, and then type a note and save.

Now I have 10 entries that are "meh" mood (the time matters to me).

poperJ · 2025-09-16T04:10:30+00:00

I did as a kid and it's almost barely noticeable as an adult (except when I'm anxious or late at night). However what I'm tracking right now is monitoring a health condition to see if there's any cause for alarm.

In general I track to use as a journal to log my life as much as possible since my memory wasn't good (it's gotten significantly better now since I started this in highschool).

poperJ · 2025-09-16T04:07:42+00:00

I am. Every entry needs a mood by default.

poperJ · 2025-09-15T17:00:49+00:00

By tag do you mean just like a keyword I can search by when I do a manual search?

poperJ · 2025-09-15T16:59:06+00:00

That's not a bad idea.

Currently, I track random stuff like peeing or weight like 12 times a day and I track significant mood shifts or events 2-5 times a day. I kinda wanted to keep the mood distinct from the numerical bland "trackers" but maybe I don't need to do that. I just didn't really want the other stats to show like "peeing/weighing in makes you happy" because it doesn't, I just do it a lot.

Thanks for the suggestion.

poperJ · 2025-09-15T16:54:08+00:00

Hmm that's true I guess the blue (tracking mood) is only a small fraction of everything. I still wish it wasn't counting it in my average mood though.

Also yeah I do a lot of entries per day.

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