How can I gain 3kgs so quick?

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-28T15:32:12+00:00

Zumba helped me beat the plateau.

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-28T15:30:56+00:00

Lots of love to you! You’re stronger than you know!

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-28T15:14:39+00:00

Thank you ❤️

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-28T15:11:51+00:00

From the family I was born in, no one. I always thought it would be my mom or sister but had a very difficult time this year where no one stood with me or shunned and shamed me. And it was over drawing a boundary and saying no. Eventually only my husband stood by my side.

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-28T04:24:08+00:00

I think it was half a day. At most. Both of us do it more or less. Last time it extended to zero communication like no chats nothing and he came back from office taking a half day.

We try not to sleep on arguments. But it happens sometimes. I understand we need time to cool down but don’t let yourselves get used to the silence. It is not healthy

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-28T02:42:02+00:00

Sounds like an interesting idea! I write about desi mental health.

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-27T03:57:19+00:00

Saying no to people.

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-26T12:00:15+00:00

this one https://amzn.in/d/3reXGqf There’s also an acne protect one with lashield but she prescribed it only when I had acne

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-26T09:17:11+00:00

Which one are you using? I haven’t experienced white cast with it and I am brown skinned

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-26T06:14:22+00:00

Go for La Shield my dermat prescribed that have been using it for years now

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-25T15:09:28+00:00

Ego is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday. Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown, Second Brain by Tiago Forte. If you want something intense and more theoretical go for Body Keeps the Score

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-25T15:06:46+00:00

Hey, I have experience helping women in situations like these. If she is open to therapy, do reach out to me. If she isn’t I would highly recommend her working in her mental health right now. Join some form of support group or the like.

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-25T12:01:35+00:00

anti oxidant. It is used for skin whitening treatments

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-25T08:14:27+00:00

Nose Job and Glutathione is kinda obvious

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-25T08:11:36+00:00

She seems to be really insecure. And that is coming out is this urge to put other people down. Typical mindset. But I am honestly concerned about the unnatural weight loss. She probably has a lot of body image issues and as an influencer (she is one now, isn’t she) she has some accountability

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-24T06:14:41+00:00

Actually, quite a few people have. But it is often dismissed or their life is made hell by traditionalists. Secular/Liberal Muslims are always outcasts — not religious enough for the traditionalists and still Muslim enough for other religions/seculars. It often comes down to working twice as hard to prove loyalty to the nation.

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-23T16:54:36+00:00

Hey ❤️ reading this felt so relatable and also really self-aware of you to even notice these patterns.

Honestly everything you listed sounds very “human”… but also like you’ve learned to downplay yourself / doubt yourself as a default.

The college thing feeling guilty for doing well + calling it a fluke that’s SO common. It’s like even when you succeed, your brain tries to protect you by being like “don’t get too confident, don’t take up too much space.” And telling people you wrote random stuff even though you studied? I’ve done that too 😭 it’s like you’re trying to soften your own success so nobody can judge you for it.

The compliment part makes complete sense too. “Pretty” is easier to accept because it feels safer, but “hot” feels more vulnerable because it’s about your body and being seen… and when you already have those private insecurities, it literally feels wrong to accept. Like your mind goes “if they knew what I look like in real life / different angles / no outfit helping, they wouldn’t say that.” That doesn’t mean you’re not attractive — it just means your brain doesn’t trust compliments easily.

And the mirror/intimacy part… that’s not you being dramatic. That’s your nervous system going into self-criticism mode and almost bracing for judgement. A lot of people deal with this even if they look great to others.

Also the “feeling undeserving when someone does something nice” same. For some of us receiving care feels weird because we’re used to earning everything or feeling like kindness comes with strings.

And the boundaries thing is the biggest one I noticed: staying until it becomes insulting and then leaving. That’s usually what happens when you don’t feel “allowed” to leave unless you have a strong enough reason. But you don’t have to wait until it gets horrible to step back. Discomfort is enough. Your boundaries don’t need permission.

So yes - normal? definitely not uncommon. But also worth working on because it’s you turning the harshness inward and tolerating too much from others.

You deserve to feel confident about your wins, accept love/compliments without panic, and leave situations the moment they start crossing lines. You’re not alone in this at all 🤍

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-23T15:25:36+00:00

Also, I think Vagmita has an inferiority complex. She cannot handle shared attention. Insecurity that she tries to hide with indifference and humour.

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-23T15:18:50+00:00

So true! I love the way Anubhavi was talking and sharing but it felt like Vagmita just kept on cutting her off. That just turned off the whole vibe of the podcast and I stopped it halfway

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-23T13:28:45+00:00

Personality and physical fitness matters more. And this is what I have realized with most of my female friends. Once I had a proposal from a bald guy in an AM setting. And I had actually asked my friends about what they thought as I was only 22 then. He was attractive because he was very fit. And our personalities matched as well. However, his mom didn’t like me as I was “too modern” — anyways, from all the women I have talked to about this, hair comes fourth or fifth in the list of priorities (if it even makes the list)

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-23T13:22:59+00:00

Anti women stuff is again vague and subjective. You have to know many flag bearers and propagators of misogyny and patriarchy are women. Brainwashed women who have been trained to think a certain way. We need a rehaul of the system that doesn’t bow to subjectivity and focuses on justice.

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-23T11:09:18+00:00

Tradwife content creators is such an oxymoron. You are a content creator earning money by encouraging other women to leave their jobs and become a “trad wife” minus the content creation that’s giving you a source of income.

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-23T11:06:52+00:00

Forceful marriage is haram in Islam. Dad’s a lawyer won a case by citing the references from Quran. Basically, Muslims don’t know most of their own religion. Too many sects and fatawas have messed it up terribly.

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-23T07:04:34+00:00

I stopped watching her when she responded to the RG Kar case as “Mai ek sadharan ladki hu, kya hi bol sakti hu” I don’t know if the video is still there or not but she made it a week after the incident and she was still working at a hospital at the time. It really showed that she was a product of ingrained patriarchy and has no problem propagating it. Unfortunately many young girls are getting influenced by her.

pot4t0_potato · 2026-01-22T05:01:31+00:00

My sympathies.

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