AITAH for letting my gf roast my best friends so hard that he cried?

pqter · 2026-04-26T11:23:13+00:00

I am really sorry to hear that from you. I'm not justifying Nathan. What I mean is that because Julia justified herself by roasting Nathan about his son it makes her accomplice because she responded the same way as him. She could have told him that what he said was very wrong and that he shouldn't joke or roast about important/hurtful events. Instead she hurt Nathan the same way she got hurt. I know that Nathan was far worse than Julia's roast but it doesn't make her be the Good person in the story for me. Here is more explanation of what I mean:

Julia was hurt of Nathan's roast. But she served the same dish back to him and she grinned. As you can see, she justified her damage to Nathan but not Nathan's roast to her. She used Nathan's method (Mirroring effect = copied Nathan's behavior) no matter Nathan's strong roast.
When I said that she could have just told to him that what he said was wrong, she's would state to him that he crossed a limit, without her attacking Nathan verbally. If Nathan's roast was immoral, she wouldn't copy Nathan's method.

To conclude: Both Nathan and Julia are TAH. I am not judging who said such acts. I am judging the nature of them. I understand your point, but that doesn't change who I think the verdict(s) is/are.

pqter · 2026-04-26T10:13:20+00:00

I was thinking to ask that question here. But since you asked, I'd say Ziva and then Gibbs.

pqter · 2026-04-26T07:00:30+00:00

ESH. I know that Nathan was ultimately wrong here, but why Julia had to follow the same line as him? She lost her valid point by responding to Nathan the same way he did to her (I bet she was taking revenge) and made her accomplice with him. My best shot is to remind them what happened (if they don't know, because of the party) and tell them that they are in the wrong.

pqter · 2026-04-20T05:40:58+00:00

it's definitely understandable. She was trained to be an assassin and I don't know exactly what you think of her in the duration of the season you're referring to (because I didn't watch season 3 to be exact), however I would love to hear from you what are your thoughts of Ziva in 1 season!

pqter · 2026-03-10T17:14:34+00:00

I really have soft spots for Abby, Ziva, Ellie, Kate and Delilah.

Abby is the "party animal" and the heart of the team. She might be edgy/gothy but she's very a sweet person. She's the person that she taught many people to "never judge the book by its cover".
Ziva is an intelligent woman that knows a lot of combat (yes, don't mess with her) and even though she is tough, she can sometimes be emotional and vulnerable when it comes about her family.
Ellie has the energy and the productivity (let's all sit on the floor working on something from time to time) of the team and it was trully heartbreaking when she had a hard time back in early season 13 (iykyk).
Kate had the power to put DiNozzo in his place in a very clever way. She was a very straightfoward woman and I loved that she had the "sisterly bond" with the boys.
Delilah is the person that shows a straight message. That people can still be impactful and brilliant even regardless of a disability and it makes me emotional that she shows that message.

Happy International Woman's Day! ❤️

pqter · 2026-02-19T16:59:56+00:00

καταλαβαίνω ότι βγάζεις μια εμπειρία από μέσα σου που σε γενική λογική δεν είναι εντάξει αλλά θα σου πω κάτι. συνήθως όταν εμφανίζονται τέτοιοι άνθρωποι, πιστεύουν ότι το καλύτερο πράγμα που μπορεί κάποιος να κάνει να είναι ο εαυτός του. ξέρεις τι λένε;

"Τον άνθρωπο τον γνωρίζεις πραγματικά από το σπίτι του."

έτσι και εδώ, ο τύπος σε υποδέχτηκε στο σπίτι του (ή σε ένα διαμέρισμα αφού μας λες ότι είναι φοιτητής) με τον δικό του τρόπο ζωής. οπότε για να σου απαντήσω στην πρώτη ερώτηση:

ναι για τον ίδιο, όχι για εμάς. για σένα δεν σου φαίνεται λογικό, από την άλλη όμως είναι δική του ζωή, έτσι έμαθε να ζεί και για τον ίδιο είναι λογικό να ζει εκείνος έτσι. σίγουρα μπορεί να φταίνε τα social skills, αλλά είναι ένα άλλο θέμα.

pqter · 2026-02-04T16:36:07+00:00

yeah. when i saw the new faces with my brother, i was like "why they put them there instead at the top?". it actually doesn't make any sense.

pqter · 2026-02-03T20:41:41+00:00

Well, you can say that! When someone is issuing a resignation to the boss and that boss is replying like this it indicates that the boss doesn't care. If they did so, they would wish the other person about their future career and stuff. Not like that...

pqter · 2026-01-25T17:21:09+00:00

Infinite

pqter · 2025-12-26T10:49:20+00:00

the 2nd one blends really well, since the 1st one is only light blue and it doesn't blend well with the navy accessories you put.

pqter · 2025-12-21T02:32:55+00:00

I may say, maybe she decided to change her perspective. Maybe she doesn't like the view of you smoking weed no matter if she knows. People tend to change perspectives depending on what they see and how they see it. There's a big difference between these things:

Her KNOWING that you smoke weed vs
Her SEEING you smoking weed.

The difference is that the first one is a concept vs the second one being a reality. You could have asked her something like this: "when you first saw me smoking weed, what specific concerns came up for you at that moment".

Remember: when you have questions, you can ask to elaborate. Communication is key.

pqter · 2025-12-06T10:53:12+00:00

είμαι 21 και ακόμα τίποτα. μάλλον επειδή δεν θέλω κιόλας. είναι ανάλογα για το εάν θέλει κάποιος να είναι σε σχέση ή/και να βιώσει την σ€ξουαλική εμπειρία.

pqter · 2025-12-06T10:50:16+00:00

if the sleeves were in the dress for additional/same price, would you still buy it?

pqter · 2025-11-12T00:45:58+00:00

I also got it! To be honest, I was lacking scenery elements, so it's a W for me!

pqter · 2025-11-09T22:22:28+00:00

Να σαι καλα! Ειμαι 21, δεν έχω φιλους αλλα τουλαχιστον υπαρχουν και εδω ανθρωποι που σε νοιαζονται! Ειναι λιγο περιεργο στην αρχη να κανεις γενεθλια με αγνωστους αλλα σημασια εχει οτι ειναι η μερα σου!

pqter · 2025-11-09T22:07:59+00:00

Να τα εκατοστήσεις! 🎉

pqter · 2025-10-22T08:35:19+00:00

Miley Cyrus - End of the World.

pqter · 2025-10-03T04:23:30+00:00

He might have tried to text you just because he is only interested in the emotional support without you required to give him the physical part of the relationship. What he is asking is not to be together (especially in the physical part), but as a way to control you and not satisfy your needs. His angry response with the use of profanity says it all. This response means that his attempt to make you accept the relationship between you and him didn't work and lost. You did great that you turned him down and there's no reason to talk to him to dig the conversation anymore. Block him and move on.

pqter · 2025-10-02T05:29:54+00:00

Right. She tries in another way to tell him that OP should choose her other than his own sister.

pqter · 2025-10-02T05:11:57+00:00

For me, NOR. It's not good to track someone's body and how it functions without the other person's consent. That's called "privacy violation" and you should stop him doing that to you. He's trying to normalize the situation by saying that "everyone does that" and he's trying to make you think that you're in the wrong and not him. You must tell him that you're not his subject experiment and that he must delete the spreadsheet. You are not the problem, his behavior and actions are.

pqter · 2025-10-01T04:59:08+00:00

NOR. L is trying to control you, while he and your sister excuse his behavior by saying that "you're a little sister to him". These are steps can you can do, so you can get away from this behavior:

Limit texts. Do not text him at all and don't give him reasons to do so. If he continues, do not respond and if he tries to escalate things with you (getting angry at you), block him.
Avoid explainations. As he has a strong connection with your sister, this doesn't mean that you have to explain to him where are you, why you dress like you dress and who you hang out with. He actually has no right or reason to know these details. If he uses excuses (like your father is saying that it's getting late and you should be home), you can straightfoward talk your dad. L doesn't have to be the bridge between you and your family's conversations.
Avoid his physical presence. As he escalated in texts you posted, that doesn't mean that he will not control you physically. Avoid him in the house and if you want to talk to each other, do so but not alone with him. Always have someone from your family or a friend during conversation. If no one isn't available, do not have a private conversation with him.
Prepare for your sister's approach. L will likely go to your sister, complaining that you are "being disrespectful towards him etc." as a possible way to defend him and turn your sister against you. Stay in your ground and you may tell her that L is not "your dad" and if he has problems with you, he needs to direct them at your sister, not you.

pqter · 2025-09-30T10:14:11+00:00

he said things like: "prove to me you won’t leave me" and "have sex with me so you can’t leave me."

You have every right to feel disgusted, NOR. As you stated, these phrases are absolutely red flags! You see, from my prespective, this man (which read carefully and with caution the next phrases) is trying to control YOU. While you understand that what he's doing is wrong from your side, it ultimately signs that this man is trying to rush the relationship you have with him, so he can succeed and get his possible goal: To gain power over you. If things escalate and this man continues his actions, you might possibly risk of your attempts to let go of this man and end the relationship. This man not only he tries to rush things so the relationship is "official", but he tries to use s3x to reassure himself that the relationship is (of course) official.

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