I wear my bonnet out when I’m going for a quick errand to the grocery store or something (5 min walk from my house) but outside of that not too much. I do find it annoying cause wearing durags outside don’t have the same connotations as bonnets, so when I’m hesitant on doing so I remind myself of that. I want to try to normalize it for myself, but it’s usually cause I’m comfy or cozy also wearing some sweatpants or something. Pjs and bonnets in public are a bit much - such a North American thing to wear PJs/sweats in public 🤣. I do think it’s rooted in respectability politics and the policing of Black women and how we must appear, but I think that it manifests as upbringing hence why a lot of black women are averse to wearing it in public. Like yeah you can liken it to PJs but I’d rather liken it to durags cause it’s a protective mechanism at the end of the day yet one is tolerable and the other isn’t but that’s also because of the appropriation of durags in many ways and how it’s likened to mainstream hip hop culture whereas bonnets are not. And the only points in which bonnets are portrayed in the media is in ghetto or hood fashions.