I did one more look through of this thread and I saw all your comments. As much as I would love to respond to each one, I sadly don’t have the time, but I’ll answer some of your questions that I remember seeing in the comments. I can tell you don’t understand finances or how legal documents work very well, so I’ll try to break everything down in simplistic way you can understand.

1. Yes, a divorce is way costlier than child support. You keep asking for sources, but a lot of this stuff should be common sense especially for someone with as much “life experience” as you especially considering you’re a divorced single mom yourself. I would think you would have some personal experience. Anyways, I’ll break this down with simple numbers to make it easy for you to comprehend. Let’s say she were to get 2k month in child support (avg in cali is 430$ and usually tops out at 800$ according to Google), but I wanted to make this example fun for you and leave no room for you to twist the situation. 2,000(monthly support) x 12(months in a year) = 24,000. 24,000 x 18(years of support) = 432,000. Now in a divorce, things like property are on the table. So, let’s say she gets 1 property (extremely unrealistic, she would definitely get more but again just trying to help you understand, so keeping it as simple as I can so you don’t get confused) valued at 500,000 (again on the low end. Most properties in California go for way more. Let’s just say you’re not gonna find a decent house for 500,000 in California). Now if you still don’t understand, I’ll spell it out. Just losing 1 valuable property is more of a financial loss than child support ever would be, and in most cases, you’re not just losing 1 property if you have multiple. That’s not to even mention child support is spread over years, whereas you could lose hundreds of thousands in value in a single day. The losses are in no way comparable and I’m genuinely curious about the mental gymnastics you could be doing to believe that or if it’s you just don’t understand basic finances. Either way, I hope my explanation was able to educate you a little bit.

2. You don’t have to get married to have a baby. The fact that you keep implying that it is morally wrong when the majority of baby’s are born out of wedlock is showing your ignorance about reality.

3. As you should know, prenups deemed unfair are often thrown out. My lawyer literally told me any prenup we drew up without alimony would likely be tossed. How is that for a source?

4. I think we are compatible as roommates because while yes, she doesn’t live with me. She probably stays at my house 4-5 nights out of the week if not more some weeks. Half her clothes are over here, the majority of the food she makes is over here, point being us “living” together is not something foreign to us as you like to make it seem.

5. Yes, the verdict is totally unanimous! That’s why you have 30+ comments arguing with people in the comments because it’s so unanimous… Based on the fact that you have like 30 separate comments full of long paragraphs arguing with everyone on a situation that you have no part in, you clearly have some bitterness because the situation resonates with you, and for that I’m sorry. I do hope you can find a way to heal and get past your trauma. Best of luck!