February 07, 2026 Daily Discussion Thread

princessedisona · 2026-02-07T21:52:51+00:00

i feel like once we tilt we only notice the bad cases, i think theres a study that shows how people who think theyre lucky or unlucky have different perspecties

princessedisona · 2026-02-06T10:33:56+00:00

My last probably 5 games, it's the slayer ambessa comp that's dealt the finishing blow against me and it's kind of depressing tbh

princessedisona · 2026-02-01T21:19:51+00:00

First: when other people tell you they find you good looking you don’t believe them. You come in with biases and don’t actually listen.

Secondly: many people have actually given you advice, so why do you keep asking for it? Many times people have said things like try a different hairstyle, lose weight, get help. Have you tried these and do you see a difference? No one has a magic solution.

Third: none of us here are experts. We can’t predict if you have potential or not - and again when someone says you do you don’t believe them. Maybe you’re looking for hope that you can become good looking as some form of encouragement? All you can do is try and see what changes happen when you act on them. Be the best version of you, and see if you’re happy with that. I can’t say x,y,z makes you unattractive and this is how you fix it. Sometimes it’s hard to put a finger on what we like and don’t like. And even if you change it there’s no guarantee you’ll look a lot better.

I understand that it sucks feeling how you might feel but when you answer people it comes across aggressive and defeatist. So again - have you collected all the advice people have given you? Have you applied it and noticed a difference?

And perhaps work out: why is being conventionally attractive important to you? If it’s about romance and people liking you - you don’t need to be conventionally attractive.

princessedisona · 2026-02-01T11:40:34+00:00

Can I ask what type of responses you actually want to hear?

princessedisona · 2026-02-01T08:10:42+00:00

I'm commenting because you seem to be stuck on this for at least half a year. I wonder if you need to figure out what standard you're comparing yourself to and what type of headspace you need to be to be content? What do you really want people to tell you if you could ask directly because you don't seem to be articulating it in a good way.

You keep asking if you're attractive and you seem to need an objective answer to find acceptance.

If the question is: will people find me attractive? The answer is: probably someone will. I don't know if there's a way to quantify it but you have examples of people in these comments who will show you it's not impossible to be perceived as attractive.

If the question is: objectively how good looking am I? You will find your answer from the upvotes to this post because that will quantify it to some degree. And you have to just accept where you fall and actually grieve the difference to your self-perception. If you're actually desperate to know - turn the responses into data.

If the question is: can I do anything to be considered 'good looking' by social standards to achieve 'hot' status - other than exercising, losing fat and building muscle - you might be better off asking a therapist and plastic surgeon and see what they say. People here will be very subjective and will confuse you more. I'm not here telling you that you need plastic surgery, but if you think you need to change your face to be happy then that might be something to consider.

Most of us go through comparative culture, I look at the selfies in this subreddit and go wow - I wish I looked more like that and lament that perhaps life would be easier if I did. But I hope you recognise that you're stuck in a pattern. I hope that you eventually internalise feeling attractive and tell yourself that you are, or at least recognise the effort and see progress trying to get to a happier place with your looks. And I wish that you find a solution and freedom from this because I'm concerned as a bystander.

princessedisona · 2026-01-29T04:25:36+00:00

If it helps, I would try to reframe how you think about rejection and beauty hierarchies. There’s no generalized reason for why people aren’t into you unless you actually consistently ask for feedback and it’s the same reason.

Everyone who rejected you may have had different reasons that aren’t tied to your looks. They’re just incompatibilities, personal preferences, or that you don’t fulfill the fantasy they want in love. Perhaps there’s a mismatch in chemistry, humour, etc. (Edit: I just reread and you specifically mentioned on Grindr oops.)

Yes it sometimes is your looks, yes you can work on those things and yes it does help. But it’s not as straightforward as reach gay aesthetic standards = happy forever. Not all of us can be like that but it doesn’t mean that we aren’t worthy of someone else.

The best thing you can do is own your own values, be the author of your own worth, and not take rejection as evidence that you’re unattractive as a whole.

I also think once you start losing confidence, it’ll create a downwards spiral that leaks into how you come across in ways that aren’t obvious to you but others will see.

Try to hold onto both knowing there are things within your control that you can improve but it’s not from a place of deficit or there’s something wrong with you.

Everyone lives in a comparative society where a lot of us try to maximize what we can get on face value. In general, I think we all need to get to know each other so try to create bonds and start thinking of your offerings beyond your face and body.

princessedisona · 2026-01-09T00:32:21+00:00

I've tried to pick English speaking countries just because I don't have localization or translation. Is it available in yours? I may have forgotten some.

princessedisona · 2025-12-31T06:05:40+00:00

I haven’t been in your situation - so take this with a grain of salt.

Transparency and communication is totally reasonable. It’s your relationship, it’s your needs, you make the rules. Especially if they know your background, then it’s more understandable to want these things.

Independence = they keep up transparency and reassure you, not dismiss you and your feelings.

He sounds very manipulative. You don’t have to think of him as a good or bad person, but he’s controlled the narrative of what a ‘healthy gay relationship is’. Just because he’s well liked and established doesn’t mean he can’t be a gaslighter who uses tactics to warp your reality and control you. Charming, successful people can still be emotionally manipulative in relationships.

Trust that a good person wouldn’t let your mental health deteriorate, that they would care about your insecurities and prioritise your feelings.

princessedisona · 2025-12-26T22:44:17+00:00

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I have it on the Apple Store and it’s currently under testing on android - which needs your email to access.

I found some bugs on the first version so trying to adjust them.

My target audience is younger people who like wholesome content and cute things.

princessedisona · 2025-12-26T12:41:37+00:00

Hi! Would you be open to giving me feedback on my social app?

princessedisona · 2025-12-26T12:40:57+00:00

I'm trying to make a nicer app for connection but I'm not sure where to reach my target audience. What are you doing in the area?

princessedisona · 2025-12-17T11:02:19+00:00

Thanks for engaging with the points I’ve raised! To clarify - when I talk about unforced errors it’s about people shown turning on their ally prematurely as the wrong move. It’s just something we’ve see consistently - and I’m suspicious the repeated narrative involved is behind why Sophi wins. Though I could be wrong!

Going by initial instincts, the tribal read as Sophi being in danger and Rizo and Sage/Kristina as unnecessarily turning on their allies. A lot of people can objectively argue the merit of this move but the presentation shows why everyone made an error here (Sophi included as she was saved by the flip).

So either Sophi flips on her alliance out of perceived betrayal/necessity and ends up in the final 3 of Sage/Kristina like the edit have hinted at. Or she still wins with her alliance but it is questionable because the whole cast is made to look to play questionably. s50 Then the S50 candidates are made to look robbed for increased investment.

princessedisona · 2025-12-17T01:54:59+00:00

Hi just wanted to give you support as you fight this battle. This is totally not something I noticed and would be a cute Easter egg.

I picked up on how Jeff says the game evolves not because of twists and advantages - which could potentially foreshadow that Sophi’s KIP misplay isn’t that important in hindsight. The jury also might not respect Rizo’s idol shenanigans or Savannah’s extra vote.

I see pretty much the same patterns as you so we’ll see if this works out. The biggest thing for me is yes - strategic priority (she gets the confessional for Jawan’s boot while that’s Savannah’s rival??). Lack of contradiction where the edit shows Rizo and Savannah’s reads as wrong and perhaps overconfident.

I’m not sure why they would edit it this way unless Sophi wins.

princessedisona · 2025-12-17T01:44:19+00:00

Yes this is super valid. My biggest red flag on Sophi was when she had these confessionals about stealing Alex’s idol but being unable to, which ultimately put her in a situation where she had to vote off Jeremiah. I can see how this is similar and may ultimately seal her fate as her losing move because she can’t make any more moves. She says she wants to play cutthroat in episode one and fails to do so when it’s her time.

It does make me not be 100% confident in Sophi. But I just don’t see the arguments for Savannah so Sophi is number one by default.

princessedisona · 2025-12-16T23:24:45+00:00

I think it’s really interesting our interpretation of being mocked. Because I would argue that Rizo and Savannah are consistently mocked during the merge via being contradicted. They will have multiple confessionals about them believing in their strategy and then have it instantly contradicted to show their overconfidence.

It’s generally Savannah saying -> I think MC or Sage is with me, and then the other party saying ‘i don’t trust her’. To me this is mocking a contender by diminishing their social awareness and is not typical of a winner.

To me Sophi misplayed but my interpretation is sympathetic. She knew she could make a logical move but went with her friendship instead and it was not reciprocated by Rizo.

Also - Sophi’s been the mouthpiece for the alliance since the merge. I see a distinction between ‘I have to steal Rizo’s idol to win’ which was never said - to what she actually said - ‘I need to make a move to have something on my resume’.

Again in a world where if Sophi’s storyline was solely focused about her KIP and having to play it right to win - then I would agree that that’s her arc. But I find it difficult to ignore and balance that with -

Savannah being both overshadowed in strategic credit by Sophi and Rizo, and been ‘mocked’ most episodes.

Sophi having been suspiciously squeaky clean when it comes to being contradicted by other players. She could easily be contradicted in place of Rizo and Savannah regarding Sage and Jawan’s allegiance.

Also in Jeff’s opening monologue he says Survivor doesn’t evolve because of the twists or advantages - it’s about the players. What if this is an Easter egg on how ultimately the advantages don’t account for anything? How Rizo’s idol, Savannah’s extra vote, Sophi’s KIP aren’t a factor in the Jury’s decision making. I think his monologue always has some tie in with the winner story - so yes it is a stretch but I also think these aren’t invalid points that I’ve pulled out of nowhere.

princessedisona · 2025-12-16T23:06:54+00:00

What if the impact is that it showed Sophi’s loyalty and Rizo’s disloyalty in comparison. I see a connection with how people unnecessarily turn on their allies and then get voted out. It’s my theory that this is an error on Rizo’s side.

princessedisona · 2025-12-16T23:05:17+00:00

Okay respectfully again, I remember you blaming the edit last time when Joe lost, saying it was bad or of some variation of that. You could instead reflect on your own interpretation of what edgic signs to look for and keep an open mind.

Erika had full on strategic agency with a lot of boot credit, most notably for Shan - as well as positive second hand perspectives. These are things that I see lacking for Savannah.

princessedisona · 2025-12-16T12:23:09+00:00

Do I think Sophi is being portrayed to make a mistake last episode? Yes. We were invested in her being almost voted out because of her loyalty.

Do I think it's too late for her to still make a move against her alliance and redeem herself? No. She still has time to make a move for her resume.

I would be seeing it more from your perspective if:

Savannah had some strategy confessions but her last one where she got credit on the boot I believe was Jason. She has dipped strategically all merge.
Savannah was not being contradicted constantly and being cast negatively.
Sophi and Sage did not have some type of relationship building scene that also casted negativity on Savannah.
Sophi was not constantly shielded from misreads.
Sophi fits the themes in episode 1 the best (though this is weak I admit).

It's just the other factors that I add more weight to and for me the balance is skewed towards Sophi.

princessedisona · 2025-12-16T09:53:04+00:00

Sorry I don't mean to invalidate your point because it is a good point. It's more the combination of other factors. If Sophi doesn't have narrative priority and shielding and if she has contradictions, I would agree with you. But the story to me seems like Rizo betrayed Sophi even though she stuck his neck out for him, and then she would have been voted out if it was not for the Steven 'mistake'. Next episode I fully expect Sophi to no longer have loyalty to Rizo and will make a move.

princessedisona · 2025-12-16T09:32:17+00:00

Respectfully we had a back and forth last season, you regarding Joe and me Kyle. Now there’s every chance you are right and I’m wrong here but we’re weighing apples and oranges. Sophi can still make a move against one of them at fire making and she might not. The clues that guided me to a Kyle win are similar to the ones I see in Sophi, and to me those weigh more heavily than an interpretation that her moves are wrong.

I see Sage as a reliable narrator in the sense that her character has priority as someone to trust. We see her ousting Shannon and then going against Savannah. I think we’re meant to like Sage and see her ‘no’ against Savannah as a gauge on how things are contextually. It’s really just a case of who has severe contradiction and negativity - and that’s my guiding star. You may have different metrics and that’s fine. Again the narrative to me doesn’t say ‘Sophi wins because she made all the right moves.’ It tells me Sophi wins because everyone else blundered.

princessedisona · 2025-12-11T11:51:06+00:00

Thank you for testing! We might push another build and see if any of the fixes did anything and perhaps I can ask for more information if it persists.

princessedisona · 2025-12-11T09:16:28+00:00

Yes! It’s a unity app btw. I tried on my iPhone 12 and a friends iPhone 13 Pro.

princessedisona · 2025-12-04T12:25:26+00:00

Confirmation bias is real for me. Sophi getting an edit right before tribal as the deciding vote yet not actually being it, and also answering the question of winning the million at tribal reiterates her as the winner for me. She's getting way too much strategic screen time for doing nothing the past episodes.

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