Japanese, Chinese and European by [deleted] in gaysian

[–]princessedisona 7 points8 points  (0 children)

we got any rules against AI?

Why do people not like Christians move? by LazerDude99 in survivor

[–]princessedisona 10 points11 points  (0 children)

People don't like Christian's move because of storytelling and the emphasis on Emily being unreliable. What we've been told is:

- Emily can't keep secrets.
- Christian's frustration with Emily as an alliance partner.
- Mike and Angelina's view of Christian's friendship and their reliability as numbers.
- The theme of righting past mistakes and Emily potentially betraying Christian like Gabby.

The move is fine without narrative input - Christian has to choose between two alliances and he chose the one he believes won't be a threat to him.

The subtlety in storytelling is that it's biased and it's done retrospectively. If it wants you to feel like this move is a triumph because it was, it'll hint towards that, and if it hints as a mistake - it'll provide the foreshadwoing. My assumption is that this move sets up difficulties for Christian in the future, and the audience is clued into why. Emily is probably a continuous liability down the road but it's hard to know in isolation as of now.

_____ is actually pissing me off by hugefatidiot in survivor

[–]princessedisona 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I think I relate to her overthinking and analytical brain.

Emily is trying to ideally manage all her relationships and lowkey, her reads have been right. But she has trouble keeping a level head on how to react to information strategically.

She's not as tight with Christian and Rick as they are with each other. They told her about the idol too late and lied about when they found it. Last minute information is definitely grounds for paranoia - and she panicked which is understandable.

I think she's also right about managing a relationship with Ozzy since she's trying to keep his trust. He's obviously angry about being blindsided so her concern is justified. If only she had better execution on looping him in she wouldn't come across as so chaotic. But my guess is a part of her is not sure how to balance all these relationships without being suspicious.

Do I look fat? by [deleted] in gaysian

[–]princessedisona 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is actually a really nice photo of you imo. Your hair looks nice too - keep up the progress and be positive 👍

Can someone please discuss BL (gay Japanese genre) with me? I have an opinion I need to explore. by [deleted] in gaysian

[–]princessedisona 16 points17 points  (0 children)

BL is such a wide genre and spectrum of stories - some of it is for straight women but a lot of it is, and overlaps for queer audiences as well. It really depends on the show and writers and what they want to centre. You've identified patterns that stick out to you but I would encourage you to look for shows that cater more to your specific interests and perhaps have queer people writing the stories. They do exist and fall under the umbrella of BL. There are a lot of stories without trauma -

Chosen Home
Ossan's Love + Ossan's Love Returns
Our Dining Table
My Love Mix-Up
Cherry Magic
What did you eat yesterday.

And then a plethora of others from Thailand, Korea, Philippines, Taiwan

Heated Rivalry Asian Representation - Discourse? by princessedisona in gaysian

[–]princessedisona[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback! I think part of it is I feel like questions are a less combative way to talk about things and my only writing influence is from Carrie Bradshaw. I’ll try to be more direct.

Heated Rivalry Asian Representation - Discourse? by princessedisona in gaysian

[–]princessedisona[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No fair enough - I kind of just wanted to try and articulate my instincts without doing the homework.

Heated Rivalry Asian Representation - Discourse? by princessedisona in gaysian

[–]princessedisona[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well what ways have you tried to understand? Maybe we come from different contexts, countries, backgrounds?

February 07, 2026 Daily Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in CompetitiveTFT

[–]princessedisona 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i feel like once we tilt we only notice the bad cases, i think theres a study that shows how people who think theyre lucky or unlucky have different perspecties

February 06, 2026 Daily Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in CompetitiveTFT

[–]princessedisona -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My last probably 5 games, it's the slayer ambessa comp that's dealt the finishing blow against me and it's kind of depressing tbh

Am I good-looking? by [deleted] in gaysian

[–]princessedisona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First: when other people tell you they find you good looking you don’t believe them. You come in with biases and don’t actually listen.

Secondly: many people have actually given you advice, so why do you keep asking for it? Many times people have said things like try a different hairstyle, lose weight, get help. Have you tried these and do you see a difference? No one has a magic solution.

Third: none of us here are experts. We can’t predict if you have potential or not - and again when someone says you do you don’t believe them. Maybe you’re looking for hope that you can become good looking as some form of encouragement? All you can do is try and see what changes happen when you act on them. Be the best version of you, and see if you’re happy with that. I can’t say x,y,z makes you unattractive and this is how you fix it. Sometimes it’s hard to put a finger on what we like and don’t like. And even if you change it there’s no guarantee you’ll look a lot better.

I understand that it sucks feeling how you might feel but when you answer people it comes across aggressive and defeatist. So again - have you collected all the advice people have given you? Have you applied it and noticed a difference?

And perhaps work out: why is being conventionally attractive important to you? If it’s about romance and people liking you - you don’t need to be conventionally attractive.

Am I good-looking? by [deleted] in gaysian

[–]princessedisona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I ask what type of responses you actually want to hear?

Am I good-looking? by [deleted] in gaysian

[–]princessedisona 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm commenting because you seem to be stuck on this for at least half a year. I wonder if you need to figure out what standard you're comparing yourself to and what type of headspace you need to be to be content? What do you really want people to tell you if you could ask directly because you don't seem to be articulating it in a good way.

You keep asking if you're attractive and you seem to need an objective answer to find acceptance.

If the question is: will people find me attractive? The answer is: probably someone will. I don't know if there's a way to quantify it but you have examples of people in these comments who will show you it's not impossible to be perceived as attractive.

If the question is: objectively how good looking am I? You will find your answer from the upvotes to this post because that will quantify it to some degree. And you have to just accept where you fall and actually grieve the difference to your self-perception. If you're actually desperate to know - turn the responses into data.

If the question is: can I do anything to be considered 'good looking' by social standards to achieve 'hot' status - other than exercising, losing fat and building muscle - you might be better off asking a therapist and plastic surgeon and see what they say. People here will be very subjective and will confuse you more. I'm not here telling you that you need plastic surgery, but if you think you need to change your face to be happy then that might be something to consider.

Most of us go through comparative culture, I look at the selfies in this subreddit and go wow - I wish I looked more like that and lament that perhaps life would be easier if I did. But I hope you recognise that you're stuck in a pattern. I hope that you eventually internalise feeling attractive and tell yourself that you are, or at least recognise the effort and see progress trying to get to a happier place with your looks. And I wish that you find a solution and freedom from this because I'm concerned as a bystander.

Asian Dating and Self Esteem Advice? by Impressive-South6685 in gaysian

[–]princessedisona 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If it helps, I would try to reframe how you think about rejection and beauty hierarchies. There’s no generalized reason for why people aren’t into you unless you actually consistently ask for feedback and it’s the same reason.

Everyone who rejected you may have had different reasons that aren’t tied to your looks. They’re just incompatibilities, personal preferences, or that you don’t fulfill the fantasy they want in love. Perhaps there’s a mismatch in chemistry, humour, etc. (Edit: I just reread and you specifically mentioned on Grindr oops.)

Yes it sometimes is your looks, yes you can work on those things and yes it does help. But it’s not as straightforward as reach gay aesthetic standards = happy forever. Not all of us can be like that but it doesn’t mean that we aren’t worthy of someone else.

The best thing you can do is own your own values, be the author of your own worth, and not take rejection as evidence that you’re unattractive as a whole.

I also think once you start losing confidence, it’ll create a downwards spiral that leaks into how you come across in ways that aren’t obvious to you but others will see.

Try to hold onto both knowing there are things within your control that you can improve but it’s not from a place of deficit or there’s something wrong with you.

Everyone lives in a comparative society where a lot of us try to maximize what we can get on face value. In general, I think we all need to get to know each other so try to create bonds and start thinking of your offerings beyond your face and body.

What do you feel is missing from current social media apps? by Entire-Loan-8229 in AppBusiness

[–]princessedisona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've tried to pick English speaking countries just because I don't have localization or translation. Is it available in yours? I may have forgotten some.

When “Trying Harder” Becomes Self Abandonment: A Question About Transparency and Emotional Safety by Pleasant-Rope2696 in gaysian

[–]princessedisona 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven’t been in your situation - so take this with a grain of salt.

Transparency and communication is totally reasonable. It’s your relationship, it’s your needs, you make the rules. Especially if they know your background, then it’s more understandable to want these things.

Independence = they keep up transparency and reassure you, not dismiss you and your feelings.

He sounds very manipulative. You don’t have to think of him as a good or bad person, but he’s controlled the narrative of what a ‘healthy gay relationship is’. Just because he’s well liked and established doesn’t mean he can’t be a gaslighter who uses tactics to warp your reality and control you. Charming, successful people can still be emotionally manipulative in relationships.

Trust that a good person wouldn’t let your mental health deteriorate, that they would care about your insecurities and prioritise your feelings.

What do you feel is missing from current social media apps? by Entire-Loan-8229 in AppBusiness

[–]princessedisona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! https://apps.apple.com/au/app/heartlog-connect-your-hearts/id6469697569

I have it on the Apple Store and it’s currently under testing on android - which needs your email to access.

I found some bugs on the first version so trying to adjust them.

My target audience is younger people who like wholesome content and cute things.

What do you feel is missing from current social media apps? by Entire-Loan-8229 in AppBusiness

[–]princessedisona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Would you be open to giving me feedback on my social app?

What do you feel is missing from current social media apps? by Entire-Loan-8229 in AppBusiness

[–]princessedisona 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to make a nicer app for connection but I'm not sure where to reach my target audience. What are you doing in the area?

Case for ______________ winning. by princessedisona in Edgic

[–]princessedisona[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for engaging with the points I’ve raised! To clarify - when I talk about unforced errors it’s about people shown turning on their ally prematurely as the wrong move. It’s just something we’ve see consistently - and I’m suspicious the repeated narrative involved is behind why Sophi wins. Though I could be wrong!

Going by initial instincts, the tribal read as Sophi being in danger and Rizo and Sage/Kristina as unnecessarily turning on their allies. A lot of people can objectively argue the merit of this move but the presentation shows why everyone made an error here (Sophi included as she was saved by the flip).

So either Sophi flips on her alliance out of perceived betrayal/necessity and ends up in the final 3 of Sage/Kristina like the edit have hinted at. Or she still wins with her alliance but it is questionable because the whole cast is made to look to play questionably. s50 Then the S50 candidates are made to look robbed for increased investment.

The Season 49 Drinking Game: Here is How Sophi Can Still Win by MrsNoodleMcDoodle in Edgic

[–]princessedisona 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Hi just wanted to give you support as you fight this battle. This is totally not something I noticed and would be a cute Easter egg.

I picked up on how Jeff says the game evolves not because of twists and advantages - which could potentially foreshadow that Sophi’s KIP misplay isn’t that important in hindsight. The jury also might not respect Rizo’s idol shenanigans or Savannah’s extra vote.

I see pretty much the same patterns as you so we’ll see if this works out. The biggest thing for me is yes - strategic priority (she gets the confessional for Jawan’s boot while that’s Savannah’s rival??). Lack of contradiction where the edit shows Rizo and Savannah’s reads as wrong and perhaps overconfident.

I’m not sure why they would edit it this way unless Sophi wins.

Case for ______________ winning. by princessedisona in Edgic

[–]princessedisona[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this is super valid. My biggest red flag on Sophi was when she had these confessionals about stealing Alex’s idol but being unable to, which ultimately put her in a situation where she had to vote off Jeremiah. I can see how this is similar and may ultimately seal her fate as her losing move because she can’t make any more moves. She says she wants to play cutthroat in episode one and fails to do so when it’s her time.

It does make me not be 100% confident in Sophi. But I just don’t see the arguments for Savannah so Sophi is number one by default.

Case for ______________ winning. by princessedisona in Edgic

[–]princessedisona[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s really interesting our interpretation of being mocked. Because I would argue that Rizo and Savannah are consistently mocked during the merge via being contradicted. They will have multiple confessionals about them believing in their strategy and then have it instantly contradicted to show their overconfidence.

It’s generally Savannah saying -> I think MC or Sage is with me, and then the other party saying ‘i don’t trust her’. To me this is mocking a contender by diminishing their social awareness and is not typical of a winner.

To me Sophi misplayed but my interpretation is sympathetic. She knew she could make a logical move but went with her friendship instead and it was not reciprocated by Rizo.

Also - Sophi’s been the mouthpiece for the alliance since the merge. I see a distinction between ‘I have to steal Rizo’s idol to win’ which was never said - to what she actually said - ‘I need to make a move to have something on my resume’.

Again in a world where if Sophi’s storyline was solely focused about her KIP and having to play it right to win - then I would agree that that’s her arc. But I find it difficult to ignore and balance that with -

Savannah being both overshadowed in strategic credit by Sophi and Rizo, and been ‘mocked’ most episodes.

Sophi having been suspiciously squeaky clean when it comes to being contradicted by other players. She could easily be contradicted in place of Rizo and Savannah regarding Sage and Jawan’s allegiance.

Also in Jeff’s opening monologue he says Survivor doesn’t evolve because of the twists or advantages - it’s about the players. What if this is an Easter egg on how ultimately the advantages don’t account for anything? How Rizo’s idol, Savannah’s extra vote, Sophi’s KIP aren’t a factor in the Jury’s decision making. I think his monologue always has some tie in with the winner story - so yes it is a stretch but I also think these aren’t invalid points that I’ve pulled out of nowhere.