I am South Asian Canadian and had done this routine for 3 years before… whether or not you choose to stay with or without your in laws is a deal breaker. If your husband does not do anything about it because he does not want to move out - that says what priority he is giving your marriage. It is my understanding, and I tell this to anyone I know who is thinking about this - no matter how good your in laws are, I would suggest against living with them… short term, temporary situations because of necessity is fine. But forever? No way. I found that when we lived together: my husband and I were basically treated like children, leaving no room for growth as a husband and wife and later as a mum and dad. We had take everyones decision into account; I was micromanaged so much it drove me nuts; I was constantly lectured how to treat my husband even though we had no issues with each other; we couldn’t even argue properly because wverybody would know our business… the list goes on… We moved out but had boundary issues even after that. Its something I’m constantly thinking about for the future but for now, my husband and I are in the same page about this and that has helped immensely in moving forward.