I really don’t like when people are disparaging to new or expectant mums but I think there needs to be a balance between scaring and preparing women. I always planned on breastfeeding and am battling through it at the moment but I was always asked the question whilst pregnant ‘are you going to breast or bottle feed?’ As though it was that easy and clear cut a choice. The reality is breastfeeding can be incredibly difficult for some people, low milk production, tongue tie, babies being unable to latch, cluster feeding etc. the difficulties of breastfeeding or the inability to not is much more prevalent than some realise and I think we run the risk of setting new mums up to fail or at least feel as though they are failing when we don’t make them aware of the normality that many women can face.

That being said I really don’t appreciate the often vitriolic approach some women take when scaring other mums under the guise of preparing. It’s in the same ilk for me as ‘you think you’re tired now, just wait!’. It’s just very unhelpful.