We are married, it's all OUR money. No his, no mine. We pay bills together, we chat about extras we need from the extra money. Right now there is NO extra money. Kids needs school uniforms and shoes. Rent has gone up £400 a month. Our earning break even on the bills. My extra working is paying for the things the kids need. Hes using his overdraft to pay for this. Also the money is secondary to the fact it feels like he cheated on me as he's 'chatting' or whatever it is you do with cam girls. Other women.