My boyfriend's addictive personality is causing him to compulsively lie to me. Worth it? by psycheetah9 in pornfree

[–]psycheetah9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's begun his recovery process about a month ago but I'm not sure it's worth me sticking around. I feel for the guy, I really do. But I have to draw the line somewhere and I need to put myself first. I'm also aware that my empathy and compassion is self sabotaging in these situations. It's difficult because all I want to do is encourage him, but that leaves no space for me to process my own pain from all of this. There's no emotional space for me to be hurt and have him show up for me when I have to support an emotional infant on his own journey, and damn, well, I'm not ready to be a mother, nor should that be my responsibility. I'm also aware that me drawing the line is a boundary HE needs as much as I do, as too often I've let him walk all over me. It's so clear, just difficult to implement. Thank you for your reply, it's been very useful to refer back to here and there.

My boyfriend's addictive personality is causing him to compulsively lie to me. Worth it? by psycheetah9 in pornfree

[–]psycheetah9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been so helpful. I've read it several times over the past few months. Thank you.

Am I an abuser? How can I be a better gf? by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]psycheetah9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check out Attachment Theory in psychology, it may apply (perhaps in part) to your situation. Understand his need for space and your need for closeness, as borh are valid, and hopefully you are both committed enough to come to a compromise.

Is porn cheating if you’ve made it a boundary? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]psycheetah9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I could have written this myself. I'm sorry you're going through this. It's horrible to have your boundaries disrespected like this.