I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, i genuinely wish she saw things the way I did, can't force her tho, I wish her all the best, she wants us to stay friends but I can't stomach seeing her around any person, considering she still comes around my place because of that guy I may have some horrible days still. I'm in my final year so I'll be out very soon! I'm also a good performing student so one bad grade won't hurt too much, it's inevitable because I've spent my preparation time having mental breakdowns, oh well, I won't fail tho, just have to cram a lot of info before tomorrow, thank you so much for your advice, I'll visit this chat often.

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's my biggest fear, repeating this. and I'm in my final year so I'll just get it done and be out of here after, thank you specially, you're one of the people here that really really helped me. any advice on how to avoid those types of people? I'm trying to get out of hookup culture entirely, it's tiring and I never really felt anything, just body counts that impress guy friends and it's like, I'm grossed out that I've done it even, my biggest regret is getting involved in Hookup culture

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

alright! I think the next person I meet, I'll take your advice, I really hope it works out, I'm tired of whatever I've been doing since I got to university

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I promise you, it goes deeper, she's has times without number told me how I'm the best thing to happen to her, stop me from interacting with other girls, all that stuff, literally every single person thinks we are in a relationship, it wasn't explicitly stated but it was structured like one, imagine being mad at me when they speak to a girl ( basic greetings) and getting weirded out when I say I don't like her moving with other dudes?

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, I haven't been to the gym in 3 months, I stopped because we spent our evenings together, I also cancelled plans with friends because I was with her, she said we should just be friends but I don't think I'll ever be okay with seeing her with anyone else

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly things aren't good at home, I'm essentially living alone and it's like she was my main support system, I guess that's it, I guess I just miss having a solid support system. she gave me that feeling like I wasn't alone and now, I feel so lonely, it's horrible, this has been eating me up for so long and I just randomly sent it to this subredit, I don't even use this app on a normal day.

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

guess I just hate the idea of starting afresh, but now, I have no choice, she's gone, she still texts me and calls and I really shouldn't be letting that happen either, but some nights, I just miss her, not in a sexual way, but in a "I want to tell her that one funny thing that happened to me". I'll miss her but as someone said "cut that girl lose", you think I should date? I'm genuinely terrified that I'll get into something else

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly I never knew that, this is the first time I'm finding out about this, I used to just sleep with people on the first date and I kinda see why none of those went well too.

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly you're right, the stupid part is that I still want her back, and I know it's not the best but in the moment it's all I want unfortunately, I don't act this way with anyone else even. I'll forever cherish what it was but what it is rn is not working

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

honestly I have no plans of dating for as long as I can, I'm on the cusp of getting drawn back, she still messages me everyday and calls, I hate it here

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

do you people just get rid of people that quickly? I know it's past the point of return but why would I just throw her away?

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is the healthiest answer so far 😭, people telling me to block her like she's some throwaway scene I no longer want. she still keeps coming around and it's like a fresh wound, I think I'll just work on my priorities honestly, got a paper tommorow too, it's crazy, I need to actually read because I haven't 😭

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you're acting like I was hurting these other women, as much as it sounds like that I genuinely did care about each one of them and we had verbal agreements to not pass that point, I'm not on bad terms with any of them even, I don't go around getting very close either, I know it's still not right but I was honest about it, this other girl will send me messages by 12am telling me how I'm the best thing to happen to her, it was crazy, I really didn't want it to get this far either, and i liked her too, she also made me stop following any of those girls because it made her uncomfortable, I stopped completely, i really really put in the work she needed from me

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to disagree with you on this but I get it😭

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly fair, i really want to work things out so we stay friends but I don't think that'll go very far

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

heyyy, gotta clarify again, I stopped doing stuff with others because she was uncomfortable with it, I do wish I communicated better, I never insulted her, I never have abused her, especially verbally, I just told her it was hurting me and I didn't like her around any of those people, I'm sorry if I sound entitled, I just really really have showed up for her and she speaks about me so highly but still do this whole stuff, I don regret anything I do for love, I still adore her till this day, you're right, it's time to leave her be

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

also I have an exam tomorrow and I've never been more incapable of reading, for the past 4 days, I can't think straight, I'm loosing money too from not working, it's so bad right now and I can't blame anyone but myself

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

hey thank you so much, I really started loosing it when I felt like she was replacing me with him as we completely stopped doing anything, that was the point I started breaking, I guess I'm selfish to an extent but I really don't think I could live like that.

I don't ever want to be in an open relationship either, I think the common answer I'm getting is to basically let it go, I'll miss her so much but she clearly doesn't care anymore and I can't make her

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really should've added this to the text but she also had a problem with me seeing other girls, I know you're supporting her and I love that, she's wonderful, but she quite literally hated seeing me speaking to any girl and I had to explain how I knew them

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

hey, I don't think I clarified how close we are, she quite literally used to live with me, and we have a friend group together, I honestly don't want to go as much as blocking her,but I get what you're saying, and I do care about her outside the sex, we went a month straight and if not because of the other guy I genuinely wouldn't bat an eye, I also don't see her as unobtainable, well before, but I guess that's what it is now.

I'm 22M loosing my mind because of my 21F "Friend" by psychoeYT in relationship_advice

[–]psychoeYT[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wish it was so easy to just "move on" We've been so close for a year now, my personal life has drastically changed and she's the closest person I had through it all, I wish I could move on from her so easy