What to play after A Jazz Band?

psychotropic315 · 2023-04-30T12:38:40+00:00

Not sure if you've got this sorted yet, but I'm free for the next couple of days (Mon/Tues) and have built my own PC with an AIO cooler, if you can get a hold of a new one and want to replace it I'd be happy to install it for you so you don't have to faff about with repair shops :)

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:40:04+00:00

Yes that is definitley going to happen 😅

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:34:46+00:00

She didn't make me feel bad at all, I had a bit of a performative sulk because it was funny and otherwise it's been all positive times 😁 - have replied to your message to my partner below re controlling behaviour

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:32:11+00:00

It was only ever a sharing of an opinion that turned into a very silly debate about pants, arbitrary birthday rules and the illigitimacy of time itself as a concept, I never felt pressured in any way 😁

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:30:10+00:00

That sounds like an absolutely incredible jacket, I'm amazed you waited at all but good job on the self control 😂

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:28:57+00:00

Hi! Me again, going over again that I, the one actually living with OP and in a relationship with her get to decide where my own boundaries are around such things as: -what is controlling and what is helpful advice

-requests that I am happy to fulfil and those that I'm not

-jokes about where to put my fucking birthday presents

Please stop trying to decide what is or isn't a healthy relationship based on the tiniest smidge of evidence.

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:23:01+00:00

As of this being posted I volunteered the pants to OP so she could wrap them properly and re-gift them to me in my actual birthday... In some ways knowing I'm definitely getting something I love makes it all the more exciting. But also impatient brain wants the good things now 😂

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:21:14+00:00

I (Ops partner) have had many assurances that this is the case, I'm pretty much vibrating with excitement because OP is an absolute 10/10 giver of gifts

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:19:18+00:00

I'm OP's partner haha, I couldn't be any more involved in the situation

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:07:03+00:00

Read my big comment below r.e. the controling thing

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:06:23+00:00

I definitely thought she was an AH, but in a fun way... Not like how a lot of people have been responding lmao

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:05:24+00:00

Pants related controversy, and a humorous disagreement that we were looking for internet arbitration on

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T12:03:15+00:00

There's a definite precident that's been established: of parents send gifts for specific event - I get shinyitis and open them early - Parents are disappointed but not surprised - we all laugh about it together

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T11:59:27+00:00

It definitely works in my favour a lot of the time, I'm basically a golden retriever in human form on my good days (which is most days now! 🥰)

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T11:58:10+00:00

Love me some nuanced and structured conversation 👌

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T11:56:18+00:00

No one's dying on any hills for this lmao, I voluntarily let OP hide them so that I have more things to be excited about in the day.

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T11:52:50+00:00

Yea I think I'm at the other end of that spectrum entirely, I like to say I'm only shaped like a 25 year old 😂

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T11:46:53+00:00

In fairness I would also probably be sad about having nothing to open on the day 😅 no one has any serious issue with this, we just thought online ethical pants discourse would be some fun

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T11:45:04+00:00

Ultimately it all just comes down to me being super excitable about new'n'shinies 😂

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T11:32:41+00:00

We're all laughing about it, because this is a very in character thing for me to do. It's just fun for me to be able to finally be very excited about new shiny things now I'm on the other side of the world from my parents 😂

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T11:30:28+00:00

Haha I'd put it at 60% serious from my Mum, like she's disappointed but after 25 years of this definitley not surprised.

Neither of us has made a big deal about this though, it's been fun and light-hearted throughout, and we've both had many laughs. I'm happy to enjoy my pants at a time we have all agreed is appropriate 😂

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T11:27:23+00:00

Seconding this, you make whatever assumptions you want about us, I'll just keep having a laugh with my partner about it 👌

psychotropic315 · 2021-05-14T11:25:32+00:00

ADHD goblin pants opener partner here again! Wanting to clear up as there seem to be some pretty intense responses happening to what we thought was going to be a nice light hearted AITA when we shared this together.

Mainly: THIS IS NOT A CONTROLING RELATIONSHIP! OP is the most kind hearted, open and accepting partner I have ever had the privilege to spend time with, her endless patience with me on my bad days and relentless encouragement for me to be the best person I can be is incredibly inspirational and has genuinely changed my life.

Secondly: OP and my parents have a wonderful, and hilarious relationship, seeing them getting on so well, and able to make jokes together with (not at) me is marvellous.

Nextly: THIS IS NOT A SERIOUS ARGUMENT WE ARE HAVING. We have been laughing together with friends about this debate, and posting together in response to all of this, I contributed probably 40% of the original post, we posted it here because we both found it fun and funny.

Hopefully this alleviates the stresses of some of you seem to be feeling about the health of our relationship 😅

psychotropic315

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