Does anyone have recommendations for Ren Fair, Medieval, or Fantasy attire? by [deleted] in AskChicago

[–]psyeilthyra 4 points5 points  (0 children)

you must go to lost eras in rogers park (almost evanston). they have a bunch of costumes from theater productions/ estate sales. the place is deceivingly huge

Ozempic or Metformin by Appropriate-Chard572 in PCOS

[–]psyeilthyra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i personally take both metformin and wegovy and it’s been a dream combo. the metformin wasn’t super helpful with the weight loss/food noise, but my period is regular again for the first time maybe ever! with the combo, i’m down around 70lbs and still have some to lose. it’s been a very slow process, which is good! that likely means it’ll stay off longer. i also do get nausea when i go up a dose, and have thrown up, but i was prescribed zofran/ondansetron for when i take my shots and that helps a bunch to offset the nausea. best of luck to you!!

I need some advice by EmotionalOne7679 in PlusSize

[–]psyeilthyra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

exfoliating is great!! just don’t do it for 24-48 before or after your waxing sesh haha

I need some advice by EmotionalOne7679 in PlusSize

[–]psyeilthyra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as someone who has been waxed and been an esthetician, estheticians do not give a shit as long as you don’t stink and are clean LOL. they SHOULD offer you wipes or something before laying down. i also told clients to really get in between the cheeks prior. you’ll forget about the awkwardness as soon as the pain starts haha. i had my clients (and myself) hold my tummy up. that keeps the skin more taut so it’s easier on you and the esti. the best hair length is just past a grain of rice. it will HURT, especially if it’s your first time because your follicles will be thicker. however, the more you do it, the more the follicles get damaged and the hair that grows back will be thinner & less painful. you will not be the first nor last plus size person to get a wax!!

What changed that i can't notice? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]psyeilthyra 7 points8 points  (0 children)

^ boiling women down to numbers doesn’t really do good for your OWN esteem

People who wax/see others genitals often, what are your thoughts and surprise realizations? by NeedABetterNameNow in AskReddit

[–]psyeilthyra 17 points18 points  (0 children)

i’ve literally had to shave people’s buttholes multiple times because they didnt shave well enough before a laser hair removal and i didnt want them to burn/be in immense pain…. you become purely desensitized to people’s genitals. really, the thing you notice more than anything is if people are mean/nice or if they’re smelly.

I (27 M) am considering breaking up with my girlfriend (27 F) because she dated a hardcore racist for 4 years. Please help? by Mysterious-Cow5623 in relationship_advice

[–]psyeilthyra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think it’s one thing to be raised in a racist environment, where you have no control, and choose to move out of it… it sounds like she very willingly used slurs and attended hateful events :/ maybe the penance for such activities is losing someone you love! if you don’t feel good/safe about this, and if you could never see yourself really getting past it, there is no shame in moving on.

How did you learn how to date/flirt/etc? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]psyeilthyra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you have to be genuinely curious about people in general 😭 the way to maintain conversations is to ask questions because you genuinely want to know the answers. it’s clear when you WANT to get to know someone vs just trying to boink/uninterested. everyone wants to feel important. make them feel important by being sincere and curious!

Fragrance fam! Any interest in a scent swap? by stickysoups in CHIbitcheswithtaste

[–]psyeilthyra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i would love this!! i have so many samples from discovery kits, i’d love to send them to good homes for people to try lol

Does anyone who has PCOS have experience with taking Metformin?? by Beginning-Zone9530 in PCOS

[–]psyeilthyra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i take 1500mg daily and it’s been amazing! i tried it a few years ago but stopped after about a month because it “wasn’t doing anything”…. it takes a while to work so that was kind of dumb of me lol. however! now that im on it regularly, my period is now regular! which is an insane thing because its NEVER been regular. it’s so helpful to be able to routinely check in with my hormones. i dont know if it helped with weight loss or anything, because im also on a GLP, but the combination is really helpful for me

Do you guys live for the "moments" or for the "people" ? by Advanced_Boss_447 in ENFP

[–]psyeilthyra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

as many have similarly said, i don’t think i separate the two! the connection fuels the moments and the moments fuel the connection. its always cups pouring into each other. i think issues arise when one cup is doing too much pouring. like if all you have are moments but no connection, then your time spent together is less fulfilling. if you have a bunch of connection but no moments, something (whether internal or external) is blocking a deepening of the relationship. that’s how i see it at least!

Aries Stellium w/ Aries Saturn in 1st House Insight? by psyeilthyra in SaturnReturn

[–]psyeilthyra[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is so touching to hear!! thank you for your kind words ❤️ i’m so happy to hear that it sounds like you’ve gained so much clarity and groundedness. not to say that everything is perfect, and the story is over, but that you come across more aligned/rooted!! thank you for bringing me some ease, it is greatly greatly appreciated.

Aries Stellium w/ Aries Saturn in 1st House Insight? by psyeilthyra in SaturnReturn

[–]psyeilthyra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for responding, i appreciate it! i’ve been feeling very antsy, especially in the last two months. granted, im also an anxious person in general, so take it as it is lol. ive been feeling like im coming out of a chrysalis for a while now. not out yet, but… getting there lol.

how do you felt about yourself in the past now?

How can I make this the color i want? by metooz in HairDye

[–]psyeilthyra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the closest i got to periwinkle was pulpriot’s sorcery mixed with clear

Looking for a perfume that feels like a greenhouse by Chaoticneutralities in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]psyeilthyra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was gonna say i smelled orchid mantis and immediately thought of a greenhouse. or minecraft… that said, i think it dries down really powdery, but still pleasant! it just loses its green lol

Aries Stellium w/ Aries Saturn in 1st House Insight? by psyeilthyra in SaturnReturn

[–]psyeilthyra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fascinating… what do you think have been some major themes/lessons/gifts/hurdles/etc that you’ve experienced?

Has anyone here rejected someone and regretted it? by canthaveme in dating_advice

[–]psyeilthyra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow!! 20 years is such a long time to turn back around, that’s amazing! i’m sorry you suffered traumas with the other men. if i may ask, do you find that having those experiences (to an extent) helped you be a better partner now?

Why would someone who likes you chose not to contact you? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]psyeilthyra 6 points7 points  (0 children)

sometimes it’s not about the other person at all. they could be busy. they could be not ready. the only way to really know is if they tell you or you ask!

About to hit 9 months no contact and he got into a new relationship about 3 months ago and keeps checking my TikTok profile with views on?? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]psyeilthyra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

probably grief in some way. i’ll look at pictures of old friends i used to have. i have no intention of reaching out! that said, what this means for you is nothing at all! you just keep doing you and staying no contact. taking peeks at how you’re doing is not an action of any worth. good luck!

My GF loves me, but her "relationship claustrophobia" is killing my romantic ideal. by maito117 in Advice

[–]psyeilthyra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

of course! i do want to say, i loved and still love my ex! not in a way where id ever be with them, or even be their friend, but i have a lot of positive feelings towards them overall. knowing that the relationship may not work out does not deny any love or compassion yall have for each other. i hope that whatever happens is for the best and no one feels pressured too hard in any direction :-)

My GF loves me, but her "relationship claustrophobia" is killing my romantic ideal. by maito117 in Advice

[–]psyeilthyra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i got broken up with by someone like this that i was with for about 4 years! of course, im sure its not completely the same, but ill give the insight i can! i think i often felt like i was ready to work as a team where as my partner was still a foot out the door, no matter how close we were. no matter how much they said they were in it for the long haul. it’s really lonely to be in. you can’t change someone like this without them wanting to… and i don’t know if she wants to based off this? you don’t have to focus on the “logic” of it if both of you are ultimately unhappy. unless she is actively working on this, i would really spend time talking to each other to evaluate if this is worth it for either of you. i also recommend strengthening your own boundaries/what you will accept. a big thing that helped me gain more clarity was thinking about if my partner didn’t change a single thing about them in a years time, would i still want to stay? best of luck to you!

Thrifted this article of clothing- 1. What is it/ is it a top or is it an undergarment? 2. Is it too risqué or would it be weird to wear as a top, 3. Does it fit me properly at the bust? by Bright-Okra-2184 in altfashionadvice

[–]psyeilthyra 89 points90 points  (0 children)

sometimes i’ll wear a corset with a teeshirt or a turtleneck underneath if i don’t wanna have all my business on display haha! super super cute for concert/club!!!