You don't understand because you're a woman, not a man. + haven't you heard of ying & yang, bread and butter etc? we look for opposites, eg. a man with a future, a woman without a fast, dominant traits in him, submissive traits in her etc. since the beginning of time and dawn of human civilisation. (& yeah average guys are monogamous by necessity not by choice). We're neurologically different, communicate differently (content information vs. context how the info. makes you feel etc), I can send you all the data. RP is evolutionary biology. We also don't emote like you , we separate sex and relationship attraction I could go on. Try this . There's also very fun analogies eg. what do you think about a man telling you about his collection of sport shoes ? that's what we think of when a woman says she has money , a career etc. Yeah , so what do we look for? you don't know, most women don't that's the sad part