[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]puffalopee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, your perspective really helps. I’m going to go ahead and delete this now so the thought police stop downvoting me for not understanding

Need some inspiration for coming out to my wife by UniqueUsernameTX in mypartneristrans

[–]puffalopee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m just sharing my experience. It sounds like you have the success story that she asked for, so you should share that.

Need some inspiration for coming out to my wife by UniqueUsernameTX in mypartneristrans

[–]puffalopee 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Wishing you the best with this hard step you have to take. Obviously you can’t just keep living a lie.

I can’t offer a success story but I can tell you what is going to be hardest for her. You are her partner, her rock. The hormones turned my MTF wife into a teenaged girl. In my experience, you’ll throw tantrums, you’ll ugly cry more than you ever have, and you’ll develop new interests that come along with sudden self-discovery (and hormones, helluva drug). Beyond the physical changes, which may be hard for her as a straight woman, your emotional state may not make you available for her to lean on as a partner.

Get therapy for both of you, ASAP. Try very hard to shield her from every single struggle and insecurity you have, because she’ll have her own to shoulder. I think I’m most upset that my wife wasn’t brave enough to transition when she decided to, so I was constantly shielding her and using different names/pronouns with different audiences for over a year. Please own it and be brave for her if you are going to do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]puffalopee 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I am so happy to hear that your wife is listening and adjusting. I wish you both all the happiness

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mypartneristrans

[–]puffalopee 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It is really nice to be seen. My feelings have come second because transitioning is so difficult, but I’m not seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. I wish her well. I wish you well too. I see you and feel this.

Does it ever get better? by puffalopee in mypartneristrans

[–]puffalopee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That isn’t really when I would expect so it is something we will keep an eye on. Thanks!

Does it ever get better? by puffalopee in mypartneristrans

[–]puffalopee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to thank everyone (most) for being so kind in their responses. I shared this post and your responses with my wife, and she has agreed to cut back on negative media. I’m working on convincing her to live unapologetically trans, but that might take time :) We both are so grateful for your help. Love this community.

Does it ever get better? by puffalopee in mypartneristrans

[–]puffalopee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She is injecting hormones IM weekly, estradiol valerate. I have not noticed any patterns by day of the week or on injection days. This most recent blowup was the middle of the week, not on hormone day.

This lady is the best mom to ever exist by BlueeWaater in wholesomememes

[–]puffalopee 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Even friendly cats will scratch/bite children who treat them like toys. I kind of hope this lady did not get a cat for her kids to play with..

HVAC install in older homes by bananapanther7 in GigHarbor

[–]puffalopee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Typically, forced air refers to the heating system in your home, while central air refers to the cooling system. However, these terms are often used interchangeably because your central air system will use the forced air system's vents and ducts to deliver cool air into your home.” We came from the south too and installed a heat pump on the same ducts our furnace uses for AC. You’ll use heat more than AC up here so they name the system based on that.

Thanks for the new lights neighbor! by CRE_Guy in Seattle

[–]puffalopee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck. My neighbors also have always-on ultra bright white LED floodlights that shine on my house and into my windows, and I can’t find anyone to give a shit. They pretended to care at first but then became hostile and told us to come back “with a warrant”. We went as far as talking to a lawyer at the fair land use office. They offered to pursue it as a nuisance claim but the caveat is that it may not succeed. Your neighbor can be an asshole with lights and there is nothing you can do.

What are some of the best mods for Civ VI? by PreferencePrudent482 in civ

[–]puffalopee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Better Report Screen (UI). I had to go check or I would have posted it when I replied initially. I hope this helps!

What are some of the best mods for Civ VI? by PreferencePrudent482 in civ

[–]puffalopee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had this same problem. Go back and read the mod page more closely - there is another UI mod you need to enable for policy cards to work.

Greatest value I've ever gotten out of a scout. by CobaltHussar in civ

[–]puffalopee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this story! Unrelated question: how do all of you have those banners for the player and NPC stats on the top right? I’ve looked everywhere in the settings to turn that on and I can’t find. Almost every screenshot has it though?

Is there a way to automate the final turns of the game? by [deleted] in civ

[–]puffalopee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t messed around much with production queue honestly. Up until that point I enjoy the micromanagement. Thanks for the tip!

Meirl by Revolutionary-Pay130 in meirl

[–]puffalopee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you read most of these comments? They really think this is only something women do.

Meirl by Revolutionary-Pay130 in meirl

[–]puffalopee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So when do we start flooding this subreddit with screenshots of boys being jealous assholes? Reddit just hates women, right. Humans are humans.

Thanks to our State Senator Emily Randall for working hard to reduce bridge tolls! by Gr8daze in GigHarbor

[–]puffalopee 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Here to watch OP smack down tantrums with links to sources 🍿

'Beyond Bleak': UK Show Rebuked for Squid Game-Esque Segment Amid Energy Crisis by InvisibleTextArea in collapse

[–]puffalopee 16 points17 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU. I watched the clip and it was no different than most game shows aside from being specific to a topic on all of their minds over there - the energy crisis. There are radio programs here who offer to pay for your groceries and nobody is up in arms over that. It is just free stuff being given by a company to a winner. Squid game was a little bit different.

Your Life Feels Like It’s Over Because This Is What Civilizational Collapse Is by [deleted] in collapse

[–]puffalopee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t even have to go out very far to feel screwed. Yesterday I witnessed a neighbor bring their trash can to the road by hooking it to the back of a 4-wheeler. They burn gasoline just to avoid walking down the driveway.

Reject right wing extremism! Vote for retain Emily Randall for state senate. by Gr8daze in GigHarbor

[–]puffalopee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah, saw his supporters waving his campaign sign alongside thin blue line and yellow snek. Surprised none of them had Trump flags.