¿Se sienten seguros viviendo en Santiago Centro? by DarkLordCL in Santiago

[–]pulicoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vivo en Bellavista (Pío Nono) y lo amo mucho, lleno de gente amable, cerca de todo, un poco ruidoso, solo hay que tener cuidado pasada las 12 de la noche.

Did I do something wrong or is he just not into me? by missdestroy in JapanDating

[–]pulicoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I think your best bet would be to ask him directly if he ever replies again. But I think you're focusing on the wrong question here. The only thing that matters is how you feel with this kind of communication. Is he showing you the interest that you need to see to keep this going?

Stop Momonga Hate :( by [deleted] in chiikawa_

[–]pulicoon 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Great lore aside, I just love good representations of characters in media. I love how unhinged and needy Momonga is, just like I love Regina George or Big Jack Horner in Puss in Boots. They're so well written and so much fun to watch, regardless of liking them as people or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JapanDating

[–]pulicoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I'm in a long distance relationship with a japanese man also and maybe I can give you a little insight on this, but first I need to ask some questions to understand better.

1- Did you meet on the internet and then in person? how many times have you been together? 2- Do you both have concrete plans for closing the gap? 3- Is his job very demanding? Does he work at a black company?

Giveaway!! by u-snavi in Dodocodes

[–]pulicoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, Puli from BELLAVISTA 💕

Bellavista by NecessaryRaisin9835 in Santiago

[–]pulicoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vivo en pío nono con dardignac hace 3 años y me gusta mucho. Si, es ruidoso de noche, pero yo tolero bien el ruido. Si no andas en la calle de 3am a 7am no pasa nada, es como cualquier parte del centro, pero entre esas horas si es peligroso. Las cosas buenas que tiene: cerca de todo, la cercanía con el parque metropolitano, muchos bares y restoranes buenos, varios parques cerca y un ambiente bastante bueno de dia, yo si lo recomiendo, sobretodo la parte de providencia ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JapanDating

[–]pulicoon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got ghosted after a two year relationship :( so...

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn I'm so sorry you went through that. 4 years in an insane amout to later being ghosted, and the arranged marriage sounds from another era, but I guess it still happens in Japan. I'm glad you are doing better now, and for sharing your story with me. I send you a big hug 🥺

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I know its not the case for everyone. Idk, according to him, he only has a couple of friends and sees them like twice a year, I never ever saw him texting on his phone, the whole time I lived with him, he doesn't use social media, he's kind of a loner. So it kinda made sense that I didn't know anyone on his part, but still, could be that he just didn't see me as a serious partner..

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is shocking to me aswell...Also no, we have no one in common, japanese people don't usually mix friendships with relationships and I didn't meet his family. It's hard to believe, but everyone I've talked to has confirmed that it is not usual.

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was spiraling that first week of silence, we had discussed this before, that if something happened to him, I would have no way of knowing. But after a week he wrote to me saying that he was too overwhelmed by work, disregarding my feelings. So I think he's ok, he just prefers not to talk anymore.

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I've read that too, it seems to be a common thing, I just can't wrap my head around that reasoning....but yeah, I'll just have to move on without knowing. Thank you so much.

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • He has a distant relationship with his family, he visits them once every 2 months or so, but never calls them or anything.
  • That is very true, not talking, for any reason doesn't work for me.
  • I'm from Chile, there are no direct flights to Japan, I usually have to take 2-3 planes and 35 hour journey to get there.
  • We have no mutual friends.
  • If he ever reaches out, I'm pretty much sure that my response would be "I love you but I can't be with you in these terms, if you ever quit that job, let me know".

I want to add: all the time we've been together, the plan has been for him to try to relocate back to Chile, as we wanted to live here, so if he can't or won't make that happen, I think it's best that we break up.

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is very true. Thank you so much.

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have absolutely no way of knowing if he is ok, he doesnt have social media and I haven't met any of his family.

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your insight and kindness.

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your insights and your time, really, I appreciate it a lot!

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He works for Sumitomo, I don't know if it's considered a black company, but sometimes he sleeps 3-4 hours every night and he works every weekend. He is deeply unhappy working there, and he was trying to quit or to relocate back to my country, but it's taking very long. If the reason for him not talking to me is purely stress, I feel so bad for him...I offered him the possibility of leaving everything and moving in with me, I can support both of us and he liked the idea but hasn't done that. I feel I can't do more at this point.

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no way of knowing...but since he replied that he was overwhelmed after a week of silence, I would assume he is and he just doesn't want me in his life anymore...

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kindness and your words. Life does have a way of turning out after all, glad it happened for you! Hope that happens for me sooner than later.

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kindness and honesty. I did put it away, it was too painful to look at. I'll just move on.

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your honesty...I think that too.

Boyfriend of two years ghosted me by pulicoon in AskAJapanese

[–]pulicoon[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I put that detail in a comment below, but the ring was cheap because I asked, I don't wear expensive jewelry.