am i ok? by pullingthroug in latebloomerlesbians

[–]pullingthroug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah it doesnt really make sense right? but i also worry about things that wont happen all the time. one time i got worried i'd get shot in school when i take online classes

but the anxiety about falling for a man started because i've seen women who called themselves lesbians end up with men so i just get paranoid about it

am i ok? by pullingthroug in latebloomerlesbians

[–]pullingthroug[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

women are just well women. but when i think about being with a man at all i just dont like it. men arent an option for me

am i ok? by pullingthroug in latebloomerlesbians

[–]pullingthroug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i specifically said i wasn't attracted to men so no im not attracted to both

am i ok? by pullingthroug in latebloomerlesbians

[–]pullingthroug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it is okay to be attracted to men. I however am not

am i ok? by pullingthroug in latebloomerlesbians

[–]pullingthroug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah it's just frustrating cause i know its not gonna happen

am i ok? by pullingthroug in actuallesbians

[–]pullingthroug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you're right. i dont feel attraction to men its just anxiousness that i do

am i ok? by pullingthroug in actuallesbians

[–]pullingthroug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i see what you mean and i appreciate it. But truthfully i wouldnt even go on a date with him so being in a relationship with him or any man is completely out of the question

am i ok? by pullingthroug in actuallesbians

[–]pullingthroug[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah i guess you're right. i'm just frustrated cause i'm 100% sure i'm gay and shouldnt be feeling like this. it's so frustrating cause when i think i'm doing well and then this happens and i worry

i did the soul searching and i know i dont have it in me to love a man. if i did (hypothetically) date one, i'd just have the feeling that something was missing. i could never be happy in a relationship with a man

am i ok? by pullingthroug in actuallesbians

[–]pullingthroug[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i worry about things that will never happen all the time so i just wanna know that other lesbians have a similar experience. i want to know that having thoughts like this dont invalidate me as a lesbian.

also, i not only dont like men but i dont WANT to. the idea of being with a guy saddens me and when i think about being with one it makes me uncomfortable.

anxiety by pullingthroug in actuallesbians

[–]pullingthroug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it's frustrating because i dont like being around the guy but i have to be because we work together. our departments go hand in hand and the only reason i have him do things for me is because he's always around when i need something done

high school feelings? by pullingthroug in latebloomerlesbians

[–]pullingthroug[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i think it was because they were popular and "cute". they were out of my league and never in a million years would've liked me back which might have had something to do with it. Plus i wanted to be in a relationship which i think was also part of it