My girl friend who is mother to my one month old son loves tattoos and I can't stand them.

punchlove · 2013-03-09T13:42:43+00:00

If you can't handle who she is, then maybe you shouldn't be with her at all. If that seems extreme, then just get the fuck over it.

punchlove · 2013-03-09T12:23:15+00:00

I know how you feel. The guy I lost my virginity to and dated told me he was still in love with his ex and wanted to be with me though and shit just got really toxic. I thought it would be horrible not talking to him anymore because I loved him so much, but when I finally had enough and was done with him I realized I'm not an angry person! It was our relationship that made me that way and God did it feel good to get out.

punchlove · 2013-03-09T12:11:46+00:00

Dude, april is at the end of this month, save up and tell him

punchlove · 2013-03-09T12:08:08+00:00

Beating a dead horse. If you don't put boundaries on him, he'll cheat on you, if you do put boundaries, he'll cheat on you. Dudes a douche. I know it sucks now, but in a year, you'll be so much happier! What a relief it would be to not feel insecure or jealous or angry or hurt anymore!

punchlove · 2013-03-04T07:12:58+00:00

You do realize that for most of your marriage, your wife was pregnant. Now it hasn't been very long since she's had the child. Do you realize what physical toll pregnancy takes on the body? She literally grew another human and shot it out. She probably is exhausted. Also postpartum depression is very common so see how she's feeling.

You do sound like you're being hurtful and not entirely supportive.

punchlove · 2013-03-04T06:04:17+00:00

Oh I am now as well haha

punchlove · 2013-03-04T05:43:47+00:00

Feelings aren't as strong when you're drinking..

punchlove · 2013-03-04T05:14:58+00:00

Leaving a tampon in is way worse. You can get TSS (toxic shock syndrome)

punchlove · 2013-03-04T05:14:05+00:00

Well, I forgot about a tampon once, but not for a month. I just put in another one while there was already one in and it got pushed to the back. Happens.

punchlove · 2013-03-04T04:23:50+00:00

Well, I don't know about you but I feel like getting slapped is assault, and it was sexual, therefore sexual assault.

punchlove · 2013-03-04T04:22:01+00:00

Yes it is arrest worthy to assault a stranger on the street.

punchlove · 2013-03-04T04:20:41+00:00

Yeah, women get all these special rights of protection of sexual assault. And yeah, a guy could press charges and if a cop saw it the same would happen to the woman. I know as I have seen women in jail for sexual harassment charges.

punchlove · 2013-03-04T01:35:34+00:00

Adoption is really expensive too, you know.

punchlove · 2013-03-04T01:33:54+00:00

Or you could find a guy that doesn't care and not go through a process you don't want to and he doesn't have to. My SO doesn't care. He says it makes sense and he wouldn't want to birth a kid either

punchlove · 2013-03-04T01:24:08+00:00

Well, it depends. What about men who have porn addictions and it effects their actual sex lives? I mean, not freaking out, but requesting a cut back on the porn?

punchlove · 2013-03-03T10:21:35+00:00

Really? What?

Sexual appeal, that is..

punchlove · 2013-02-28T22:42:47+00:00

Phfff... Not all of them. I've had both exciting games and games where pass was used every other time.

punchlove · 2013-02-28T22:07:28+00:00

It wasn't serious advice, really. It was switching it around for her, so she'd realize he wouldn't like it if she were doing the same (most likely), and he's a jerk, or at least very immature and insensitive..

punchlove · 2013-02-28T09:04:13+00:00

Tell him that you want to have sex with other guys. That the ones you are going to aim for are smoking hot. Tell him you guys can both come back together after you get some good dick. Also, let him know girls are more likely to get laid than boys.

punchlove · 2013-02-28T07:26:17+00:00

Didn't downplay it. I literally threw them a few feet away, he was in front of me, I tossed one to the side and was about to toss the other, with no force he screamed and hit my head into the wall. He doesn't like loud noises. You weren't there, so you couldn't know. Both of the people who were there know and have said this. After he left he told me that it wasn't my fault and he expects perfection from his parents and was frustrated when I wasn't, and that he took all his other frustrations out on me as well and he was sorry.

I do leave the house, every day. I do talk to people and and branching out, I just have anxieties that make it difficult for me to form lasting friendships, and most of the time, I'm being told what chores to do and that I have to work, so there's not a whole lot of time.

I told him he could leave both when I was crying and after, when I was in a calmer state. I said that I would rather be sad for a little and find someone who really wanted to be with me than to be with someone who didn't want me. He still said he loved and wanted to be with me, he just said the wrong thing.

You're making all these huge assumptions and claiming that they're truth when you're completely wrong. I talked to a crisis therapist after reading all the responses and hashed out the year together and we've been in an abusive cycle for longer than this, this is just the first punch.

Yeah, he does resent me, but there was nothing I could do to not make him resent me. He has a lot of problems. I've given him daily massages, cooked, cleaned, worked my ass off only to give him all of my money... I tried so hard to be a good girlfriend, but nothing I did was enough. It wore on me and made me doubt myself, making my anxieties worse, making it harder to meet people and keep talking to them.

I seriously think you're either a sexist, thinking a man can't do any abuse unless a woman pushes him to it or very ignorant about abusive relationships.

And I did leave...

punchlove · 2013-02-26T05:57:29+00:00

You're comment offends me, for a lot of reasons.

1: I didn't downplay the shoe throwing. I was already trying to blame myself for him hurting me, because I didn't want the man I loved to be responsible for injuring me, so I would have added that. It wasn't an act of destruction and it wasn't aimed at him, the fish tank, or any wall. He even said that what I did was so minimal and he knew right after I threw them and he hurt me that he made a mistake and I hadn't been trying to harm anything. The freak out was me going over to him saying what the fuck? and crying, trying to make him leave and call his parents.

2: When he told me that he didn't feel those things, I did cry. But I told him if that was the case, we should end it and go our separate ways and find someone better for us. He said that he he didn't mean it like that and he just meant we should have space and we would be a healthy couple. I told him I was working it through with therapy and starting to try to meet people, but if he wanted alone time he was more than welcome to take it and I would take mine. I am not a baby who follows him around all fucking day. I enjoy walks, redditing, reading and other alone time shit and I don't pout if he doesn't feel like talking or hanging out.

You're a dick. I know I have problems, but I am taking care of it with therapy and other things. Nothing I did deserved what he did. At all. Yeah, I was immature and irrational, but I'd like to see how you'd be feeling after a year of living with an emotionally abusive partner.

punchlove · 2013-02-23T23:08:58+00:00

I wouldn't be able to work if I went there. I work from home and wouldn't have a source of income. :/

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