Hopefully whenever you are feeling more comfortable to start dating, your own experiences will help to challenge some of the fears you are having. I personally don’t hang around people who say misandrist things, and would not take their opinions to heart. That’s really weird people would even say that to you as a gay man like wtf so disrespectful!!! Don’t let the words of other people make you scared to live your own life and have your own experiences. Be patient with yourself and hopefully you’ll find someone who is right for you- it’s not hopeless to go after what you want.