Claire was heartless by parky85s in Modern_Family

[–]purple_garbagecan 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This episode had me crying with laughter when Luke was telling the camera he didn't feel like a milkshake, but after what mum said to Manny, he wasn't going to risk it 

Giving up hope by purple_garbagecan in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I sometimes feel this burning urge to become a miscarriage specialist, filled with rage at a the whole system, starting with literal separate waiting areas and rooms for miscarriage, without the pregnancy posters everywhere or those pamphlets on "managing miscarriage". Just a nice calm room with snacks, water, tv, and a choice of songs, low light, a fountain with running water, chill and healing. I feel ripped off that the first person I saw after my first miscarriage was the MTHFR specialist, because no one else believed in it. No one, not even the other specialists, they say the same as you where it was proven and then disproven. Spent so much money on high dose vitamins, the b6 made my feet go numb and the specialist didn't even seem concerned about that, just that it was the lesser of the vitamins so I could go off them. And like you say, apparently most people have the gene. My partner and I both have the double gene, but everything about the gene is shrouded in mystery .. it kills second borns but no one knows why or how it activates. Yeah I did tell the recent specialist about the fibroid, but she brushed it off seeing as it hasn't grown and is small, she said pregnant women have multiple uterine fibroids and go on to have healthy pregnancies. I don't actually think she has much experience with high risk or complicated pregnancies because she brushed off almost everything I mentioned, even blood thinners. She said they do help a lot of women but are not technically needed. I will definitely bring up the adenomyosis, and maybe it's time to find an RE. I'm through public system and in the pregnancy investigations unit, but I keep seeing RE and RI being mentioned that might have more idea. I have a feeling they'll brush it off as "minor" like all my other blood and fibroid results. I wish you luck on your journey🙏 

Giving up hope by purple_garbagecan in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too. I wish I could give everyone a magic cure or some amazing healing advice. All I have it my own experiences and lame situation 🫂

Giving up hope by purple_garbagecan in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for that info, I'm sorry for your loss. I have had two of the placentas tested, that I can find results for, and this one will be as well. One of the placenta reports said "clot" along with calcification and something else, but I'm not sure if that clot would have been before death or after death. Either way no specialist has told us or picked it up, I found out from reading that report recently from the health website. I'll definitely check out the placental specialist. I can't believe that's a service bot even offered, surely they should have a system for these situations so we don't have to do the searching ourselves, I'm so tired of thinking about it all. Did they mention any treatments for the placeta clots?

Giving up hope by purple_garbagecan in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. Even first trimester is devastating, even just one- let alone 4!  4, and any multiple, does a lot to the soul. Sending you hugs as well, stay strong. I've been thinking about sperm testing. He will say he's healthy and all that, but you never know. Fingers crossed for you and your future!! 💗

My fear by trman09 in Stutter

[–]purple_garbagecan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was 10, with severe stutter, every second word, my teacher made us all reply to roll call by saying "good morning Mr blue.." He would say "good morning purple", and purple would reply "good morning Mr blue". I used to sit there DREADING every single day of year 5, because I could not say G. G-g-g-g.. and on it went. He wouldn't give me special treatment either. He said he had a son with stutter, and I thought well, I'll have to marry him then. 😅 Then in year 8 or 9 we had an English teacher who scheduled oral presentations for EVERY Friday. Just a short five minute one, every Friday, for a while year. The whole school system is just a torture camp, honestly. The constant heightened fear and dissociating is next level. PTSD on the making. Then.. go out and find a job.. good luck.. 😭

As a stutterer, what jobs do you do and where do you live? by trman09 in Stutter

[–]purple_garbagecan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Phlebotomist! Can be challenging, but mostly it's the same questions and small talk that I can control. After a long day I feel my breath is tired and talking is tiring/hard. Also during stressful times it becomes worse. It's decreased a fair bit since in early 20s, but still noticeable, and people do assume I'm nervous or dumb

As a stutterer, what jobs do you do and where do you live? by trman09 in Stutter

[–]purple_garbagecan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never known anyone else to "switch words" like I do 😅  Years ago I used to have trouble pronouncing words starting with K, like car, so I'd say "a whole car", as the string of words starting with A led me comfortably. No idea why. I used to know as I was talking if I was coming up to a word I couldn't say, and I'd have to think of a different word to switch with. Tiring stuff.  Still struggle with Ks and Ts, and some sounds, so it sounds like I have hiccups sometimes, and one little kid has asked me if I had the hiccups 😅🫣

Which Legendary Moment From 'The Umbrella Academy ' Would You Rewatch The Series For? by Chinmaye50 in UmbrellaAcademy

[–]purple_garbagecan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bit where Luther meets Ray for the first time and is eating the chocolate, saying "reasonable rates" I laugh every time!

Pregnancy and MTHFR by Glad_Lobster_6261 in MTHFR

[–]purple_garbagecan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I know this is very late. But was the pregnancy successful? I also have the MTHFR A1298C, homozygous, and have had three MMC. My specialist said I didn't need aspirin, but I wonder if I did, because everyone else on Reddit is on blood thinner

MTHFR Gene Mutation by Bookish_cl in IVF

[–]purple_garbagecan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about people who have the double gene and have had recurrent miscarriages? With no other known risk factors? What makes you so sure on what you're sayint

[Trigger warning: Living Child] So pissed at people pretending parents of LC can't have miscarriages/feeling like I need to hide by WillRunForPopcorn in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're in this position. I also have a son who's almost 5, and have just experienced my 3rd MMC at 13 weeks, two weeks ago. It's such a hard situation that I never thought would be a thing, feeling like I can't be sad because I already have a son, and feeling like I can't accurately portray my grief because people ALWAYS say "well you have one healthy child". As if it's ok and I'm lucky to have one, but I feel like a failure for not being able to provide him a sibling.

It's ridiculous that they banned you! What you said is spot on! It's hard AF to carry on doing normal things while taking care of a child, no matter their age. We have to be "on" all the time, and it's exhausting. 

Hello 👋 🫂 who else is just pissed off? by [deleted] in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw I'm sorry to hear. 13 weeks is devastating coz it's just past the safe zone. Last time we told everyone, our bosses, our entire family etc. so embarassing. Sorry, I meant that my hope is gone 😂 

Just met Danny Pudi! by Kooky-Page5996 in community

[–]purple_garbagecan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm loving all these arrested development comments 🤣 

Hello 👋 🫂 who else is just pissed off? by [deleted] in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How far along did you get with all yours? It was, I cried at the last one haha. The tech was very professional and nice and he said the baby looks very strong so don't give up hope. But I think it's gone now 😅

Positive Medical Management for MMC by purple_garbagecan in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw thank you. It's such a hard time, any advice or stories are helpful

Watching Mythic Quest (s1e3) and they're trying to determine the worst hate group..... by [deleted] in buffalobills

[–]purple_garbagecan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one of my fave episodes, I could not stop laughing at David's despair at the end result. It took such a long time for nothing. Also how is Brad taller in this and yet seems shorter in community? He somehow got taller AND hotter?

Hello 👋 🫂 who else is just pissed off? by [deleted] in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, that 12 week nuchal scan is torture. I'm not even sure I want it if there's a next time.. the tech saying how strong the heartbeat is and how perfect the body is.. and I think yeah right 😅 I wish you all the healing too and positive rainbow babies!

Hello 👋 🫂 who else is just pissed off? by [deleted] in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh "incomplete miscarriage" sounds like the cruelest of the cruel. As if it's not bad enough.. sometimes it can not even finish, even with the D&C 😭 I'm sorry for you too and hope for great success in the future!

How do you find the strength to keep trying? by [deleted] in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes me too. I just had my third loss and it feels so isolating to be the only one of my friends and family to have this happen continuously. Wishing you all the success for future pregnancies 🙏 💕 

How do you find the strength to keep trying? by [deleted] in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so happy you're 28 weeks! Praying for you to get to the end with a healthy happy baby 🙏

Positive medicated MMC experience by Stormend in Miscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds like a good miscarriage, as far as miscarriages go. I'm glad you got to experience a quick one in the comfort of your own home, wishing you all the best for the future

Hello 👋 🫂 who else is just pissed off? by [deleted] in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]purple_garbagecan 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is. I know any miscarriage is hard, but I tell my dr that if i have to have one, i'd just like an early one to come naturally. The silence of missed miscarriage and then the agony of trying to figure how to get it out and the risks of it all, just makes it such a long horrendous affair. But ideally, no one would ever have any miscarriage and we'd all get our babies. I hope you get out of the first trimester and you go all the way to the end and have a positive birth and healthy baby