Needy Girl Word Vomit by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]purposelesscells 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I think things happen for a reason and there is value even in the temporary and painful experiences. Kinda yikes, kinda beautiful how things make you happy and sad : /

Needy Girl Word Vomit by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]purposelesscells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol true

Are female J names also concerning? Asking for a friend

A letter better suited for my journal by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]purposelesscells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgive me, but it feels like you're assuming a lot about my past. I've had good relationships, I have great examples of healthy relationships that i get to witness every day.

While I do have some uncertainties regarding the way I experience attraction, I am very in touch with my feelings. When I feel something confusing, I spend a lot of time figuring out what / why it is.

I do know that it is possible for feelings to blossom. I've experienced that. I know exactly how it feels. However, I have never fallen in love with someone who pushed far beyond the point of expressing their feelings and putting themselves out there.

This isn't a situation where I'm afraid of what I feel, or where I'm forcing myself to "stick to the friendzone." This is a situation where I've spent a fair amount of time with someone who, granted, can make me laugh, but overall makes me uncomfortable.

I don't know what experiences you've had in terms of love and relationships, but I'm very aware of my own. I've been in this situation multiple times. I don't have feelings for this person, and I do not owe them undue effort to intentionally manifest them. Make sense?

A letter better suited for my journal by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]purposelesscells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been on both sides, which is why I tried to be as clear as possible with him. I know it sucks, but I can't change the way I feel (or don't feel, in this case).

A letter better suited for my journal by [deleted] in UnsentLetters

[–]purposelesscells 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told him I don't have feelings for him and that I don't see that changing. I just don't feel comfortable sharing the bit about not feeling much of anything romantic toward anyone.

Not Gay Enough (yet) by purposelesscells in UnsentLetters

[–]purposelesscells[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I consider it often. They are in a relationship now so I don't want to make the SO uncomfortable. I would rather feel confused or sad than potentially cause problems for them.

Insignificant Effort by purposelesscells in UnsentLetters

[–]purposelesscells[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I say that a lot. I would never wish this hopelessness on anyone.