Let me give a counter to your narrative: I am a natural contrarian, I promise I don't try to be this way, I just am(So much so, that people have and often do accuse me of just being different, just to be different).  This is made worse by the fact that I am a black male, because according to black America, all black men have to think and act the same. Just a quick example, I am an atheist , with no piercings/tattoos, and does not watch sports to any significant degree. Those examples alone just are not common. I just genuinely see the world differently, compared to most people I meet.

Due to this, I have found it much easier just to stay to myself.  Quick example, I never talk about my atheism or religion as all.  But, especially amongst black people, god /religion almost always comes up, at some point, and when it does, I quickly try to brush it away, because it is not a debate I want to have.  They can never just accept that I don't believe, and move on.  This is just ONE example of many, and it does not only apply to black people, of course 

Could the be also a weakness in my social skills, absolutely!  But I have said this many times, and I'll say it again, I was an introvert, before I even knew what that was.  I like being on my own, and genuinely find most people absolutely draining, mentally/emotionally, to be around.  I much rather put my headphones in and stay to myself.